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Old 11-17-2004, 08:10 PM   #1 (permalink)
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Am I wrong to not like this? (nude modelling)

I'm sure I know the answer to this, but my girlfriend is majoring in art, and there's an opening in the art department for a nude model. She's thinking about doing it too. I admit it's good money at $12/hr, but I hate the fact that there will be other people seeing my girlfriend nude. I think in a relationship that only I should have that right/priviledge.

I guess in the end I can't control what she wants to do, but nevertheless it annoys me. Whats everyone elses thoughts?
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Old 11-17-2004, 08:14 PM   #2 (permalink)
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I'm in the same boat as you, I'd never want my gf to pose nude for anything art or otherwise.
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Old 11-17-2004, 08:38 PM   #3 (permalink)
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i am in agreement with you and wouldnt want my gf to pose for others
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Old 11-17-2004, 08:45 PM   #4 (permalink)
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Agreed. I know there are other perverts out there other than the ones that post on this board, and I don't want them seeing my baby!
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Old 11-17-2004, 08:46 PM   #5 (permalink)
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I would definitely have troubles letting other people see my girlfriend posing nude. I think most guys are in the same boat, but there'll be those few people who will probably say that it's art, and people should love the human body for its non-sexual beauty, but I'd still be very bothered if she posed nude.
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Old 11-17-2004, 08:54 PM   #6 (permalink)
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I wouldn't mind if girlfriend wanted to pose nude.

It's her body, her decision and the in the end she'd come home to me.

Yeah, there are a lot of perverts in the nude modelling class, but aren't there perverts just about anywhere. It's nice to see a girl posing nude, but after years of "practice" I can imagine just about any woman I meet buck ass naked.

In the end, she may be nude for them, but she's coming home to me.
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Old 11-17-2004, 09:01 PM   #7 (permalink)
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After living with an art major for a few years, after a while they stop seeing the models in a sexual way and seeing a naked woman becomes commonplace. It's kinda like being on a nude beach, it's cool for a while but then you get used to it and it loses the appeal.
Just some food for though
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Old 11-17-2004, 09:27 PM   #8 (permalink)
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I'm thinking about doing this next semester at my college. I think it's a cool idea, your body as art, and it's the highest-paying student job on campus, so it can't be all that bad.
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Old 11-17-2004, 09:46 PM   #9 (permalink)
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Old 11-17-2004, 10:03 PM   #10 (permalink)
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lol i stoped viewing things as porn and now as art, everything is pinup photography trying to express something. Now if it was her doing lewd acts thats a totally different story.
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Old 11-17-2004, 10:19 PM   #11 (permalink)
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I'm sure I know the answer to this, but my girlfriend is majoring in art, and there's an opening in the art department for a nude model. She's thinking about doing it too. I admit it's good money at $12/hr, but I hate the fact that there will be other people seeing my girlfriend nude. I think in a relationship that only I should have that right/priviledge.

I guess in the end I can't control what she wants to do, but nevertheless it annoys me. Whats everyone elses thoughts?
Thats awesome.. Ive seen her pics on the net and they're ~HOT~. Id give my left nut to see her in person.

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Old 11-17-2004, 10:50 PM   #12 (permalink)
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While it is her choice to do the modeling, you should definitely tell her how you feel. It may not change her mind but at least she can't come back later and ask you why you didn't tell her you were against the modeling. Since you are in an exclusing relationship, she should realize that something like this could jepardize your relationship so she should make sure she is absolutely sure that she is ready for any negative response she may receive.
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Old 11-17-2004, 10:54 PM   #13 (permalink)
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I masturbate to paintings of your girlfriends.
I forgot to add: Uiberto, its time to grow up. If you want to post this type of crap, find another place to do it. Leave room for someone who will post a serious answer to a serious question.
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Old 11-17-2004, 11:04 PM   #14 (permalink)
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Well, I thought it was funny.
The comment sort of mocks the 'uptightness' of several of the prior posters by sarcastically confirming their paranoias, showing how silly they actually are.*
That is the problem, right? If you knew absolutly nobody would be getting off in any way by looking at your respective girls naked, would you still have a problem with it?

*or it could just be juvenile psudotrolling, whatever.
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Old 11-17-2004, 11:25 PM   #15 (permalink)
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*or it could just be juvenile psudotrolling, whatever.
It's juvenile pseudotrolling
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Old 11-17-2004, 11:36 PM   #16 (permalink)
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I would talk to her about it. Not like you phrased it but in a non-confectional sort of way.

Is it at a college or like local class? I have few friends who are art students and from what i can tell there is nothing at all sexual about being naked in an art studio. The people in the room will most likely be art studio and not there looking to see a hot chick without any close on. If this class is open to a large number of people this might be different, but that is something to conceder if that is the case.

Most likely noone will ever see the painting of her anyways. most of what happens in that kind of environment is studies, or practice. There is little chance she will be hanging in a gallery somewhere.
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Old 11-18-2004, 12:14 AM   #17 (permalink)
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i'd be cool with it, because my ex was hot. i would look at it as an ego thing...you art students can look but i'm the only one who can touch.

to answer your question, though, you certainly are not wrong - it's just how you feel
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Old 11-18-2004, 01:07 AM   #18 (permalink)
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BIG difference between letting her pose nude for art class and letting her pose nude for sexual reasons (stripping, internet porn etc). The people drawing her will not be there to get their rocks off, they will be there to draw her plain and simple. Besides which it's not YOUR body it's hers (as she will probably tell you)
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Old 11-18-2004, 01:17 AM   #19 (permalink)
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my wife has done that before, except they paid $20/hr. well worth it. besides, most of the students were female.
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Old 11-18-2004, 05:43 AM   #20 (permalink)
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I agree with JSwiss. I was in Art College and we worked with several models over a place of weeks. The very first time it may have been different, but everytime after that you hardly even notice that the person is nude. It's like drawing an animate object. I wouldn't worry about it.
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Old 11-18-2004, 05:49 AM   #21 (permalink)
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I am glad to see that the tide turned with responses to this question. The "I wouldn't like it" crap directly contradicts the exhibition forum. If anything, I would view posing for an art class much more high brow than taking nude pictures at home and posting them on the web.

I would let her go for it. I have always believed that the more open we can be with ourselves only leads to higher levels of self-expression and exploration.
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Old 11-18-2004, 05:53 AM   #22 (permalink)
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I wouldn't mind if my wife posed nude. If she did it would show to me that she is confindent and proud of her body.

I personally would pose nude. I think it would be fun to show off my junk to a bunch of strangers. I mean, I'll never see them again. But I would probably have a hard on the whole time, and I guess that could be a distraction. Then again, my flaccid penis would probably be a distraction, of a different sort too.

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Old 11-18-2004, 06:07 AM   #23 (permalink)
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Seriously, get over it. She isn't your prize and posing nude for art isn't shameful in any way. She isn't doing it for sexual reasons so even if there are pervs in the class, it's not yours or her problem. We, as a culture, should be ashamed at how closed off we are when it comes to nudity.

Sorry if I come off being harsh, but really, it's not a big deal at all. Actually you should consider yourself lucky that your girlfriend is so comfortable with her body. It surely only makes sex that much better.
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Old 11-18-2004, 06:09 AM   #24 (permalink)
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LOL, maybe you mean inanimate object. :P
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Old 11-18-2004, 06:51 AM   #25 (permalink)
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I tend to agree with the other posters who said that they wouldnt object on the grounds that other people are looking, but only they are allowed to touch. I like it when my g/f shows off her body when we go out. I would be proud of her if she felt comfortable enough with herself to pose naked.
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Old 11-18-2004, 06:51 AM   #26 (permalink)
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I guess in the end I can't control what she wants to do, but nevertheless it annoys me. Whats everyone elses thoughts?
What are you losing if she does this? You still have her, as she still comes to you, right? Even if she makes other people drool, what's that to you? Again, you still have her.
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Old 11-18-2004, 06:57 AM   #27 (permalink)
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Thats awesome.. Ive seen her pics on the net and they're ~HOT~. Id give my left nut to see her in person.
Behold, examples of how NOT to post.
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Old 11-18-2004, 07:20 AM   #28 (permalink)
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I certainly would not mind if my girlfriend or wife chose to pose nude for an art class. It's her body, and posing for an art class is not meant to be sexual. She is not an object to be owned by you, so let her do what she wishes.

However, I would also discuss with her how you feel. Let her know your uncomfortable with it.

Perhaps you could even ask if you could be present somewhere in the room, unobtrusively? They may allow it, or they may not, but it never hurts to ask, right?

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Old 11-18-2004, 07:24 AM   #29 (permalink)
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Perhaps you could even ask if you could be present somewhere in the room, unobtrusively? They may allow it, or they may not, but it never hurts to ask, right?
of course you would look like an insecure control freak, I reccomend taking a life drawing class yourself, that way you'll see that there is nothing sexual in nature about it
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Old 11-18-2004, 07:28 AM   #30 (permalink)
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I wouldn't mind my wife posing in the nude. Jeez, I'd post pictures of us fucking right here at TE if she were into that. Alas, she isn't.

I can sort of understand people who are all gung-ho about not letting anyone else see their SOs naked. I can't relate to it one bit, but I can understand it. Kinda.

I don't think you're wrong. Why would what you feel be wrong? Feelings are generally not wrong, just inconvenient.

I say let her do what she wants to do and is comfortable with. It's her body. She may even have a bit of an exhibitionist side to her, who knows. Why try and stiffle that?
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Old 11-18-2004, 07:32 AM   #31 (permalink)
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Get over it... what she does with her body is her business not yours.
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Old 11-18-2004, 07:37 AM   #32 (permalink)
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Pretty much the ony thing you can do is tell her how you feel about it and that you woud rather she not do it, it may be her body, but you in a relationship together and she shoud take your feelings into consideration(that is not to say that she should do whatever you tell her to). She may still do it after you tell her how you feel and if she does, you just need to deal with it, it's not a sexual thing and it will probably help boost her self confidence, which could potentially make your sex life more, oh how to put this, ummm, <I>interesting</I>.
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Old 11-18-2004, 07:40 AM   #33 (permalink)
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So, since it's her body and all, it should then be okay for her to also have sex with whomever she wants?

I've always thought a relationship was based on two people and what they want for each other.

Personally, I wouldn't want my girlfriend posing nude for anyone BUT I'm also a hypocrite and want to see everyone's girlfriends posing nude.
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Old 11-18-2004, 07:48 AM   #34 (permalink)
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So, since it's her body and all, it should then be okay for her to also have sex with whomever she wants?

I've always thought a relationship was based on two people and what they want for each other.

Personally, I wouldn't want my girlfriend posing nude for anyone BUT I'm also a hypocrite and want to see everyone's girlfriends posing nude.
Well said. I wouldn't want my wife to do it. I know that I couldn't tell her no, but I sure would tell her how I feel about it. She would be free to make her own choice, but I would hope that she would be willing to compromise and find another way to make some money.
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Old 11-18-2004, 07:48 AM   #35 (permalink)
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She's posing nude for ART students. If there are perverts taking the class, they'll end up dropping it anyway because they're too crude to pay attention to the beauty of the body, not just the sexual aspect of it.

The students are there to LEARN from the body, not go: mmm mm mmmmmm.
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Old 11-18-2004, 07:49 AM   #36 (permalink)
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So, since it's her body and all, it should then be okay for her to also have sex with whomever she wants?

I've always thought a relationship was based on two people and what they want for each other.

Personally, I wouldn't want my girlfriend posing nude for anyone BUT I'm also a hypocrite and want to see everyone's girlfriends posing nude.
There is a world of difference between sleeping with someone and posing nude for an art class...

This is a case of projecting your own horny thoughs onto those in the art class.

I've had models pose nude for me in class quite a few times and it was far from erotic.
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Old 11-18-2004, 07:57 AM   #37 (permalink)
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So, since it's her body and all, it should then be okay for her to also have sex with whomever she wants?
Um yes she can for that reason exactly. A relationship is not joint ownership, if she did want to sleep with whomever she wanted then she wouldn't be in the relationship
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Old 11-18-2004, 08:09 AM   #38 (permalink)
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Call me a perv, but I've had nude art classes and have had quite a few perverted thoughts while drawing. The drawings were like a nice reminder.

I enjoy the beauty of a naked woman in many ways, however as hypercritical as it may sound, I don't feel like I want to share my wife's naked beauty in those ways. I do know that it is not my choice in the end and if she does it, I have two choices myself; deal with it or leave.

So I have to disagree, to me nude is nude. I'm not saying being naked is bad; it's just a personal choice of how and where you feel it is appropriate.
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Old 11-18-2004, 08:10 AM   #39 (permalink)
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I can't say i'd want my girlfriend to do it. It took me time and effort to see that. You should at least let her know how you feel.
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Old 11-18-2004, 09:28 AM   #40 (permalink)
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I can't see the problem myself, as lots of others have said, ultimately its her body and her choice, you should be able to trust her judgement and accept her decision.

However you do also have the right to tell her that you are uncomfortable with the idea.

Has she asked you for your opinion or did she just tell you she was doing it ??

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