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marcus1103 · 10-19-2004, 05:06 AM

Ok, here's my story:

I'm 19 year old college student. I've never been in a relationship or had a girlfriend before, but am looking for one. Last year fall, I started liking this girl that was in one of my classes. After a while, I started hanging out with her through my other friends and became sorta close to her. but after winter vacation, I found out that she was seeing someone, BUT things were'nt going too well between them. I still was devastated. I just couldnt take it anymore and decided to tell her how I feel. her response was really weird and ambiguous...she said something like "I'm not sure if I like you yet, but I like what I've seen so far..." and I was like

but she said she's still seeing this other guy so that was all she could say at the time.

After while they ended up breaking up and she told she doesnt want a relationship at that time. during the summer I didnt get to see her at all since her home is pretty far away, so i decided i should just get over her and move on.I tryed everything i could think of like checking out some other girls and meeting new people, but none of them worked. I still missed her. after summer, I started hanging out with her and her friends again, and one night asked her how she felt about me now. she said she only sees me as a friend. but when i asked her "does that mean there's no chance for me at all?" and her response was " well.....I wouldnt want you to wait...." and again I was like

I'm really getting confused on what to do. should I wait or should I move on? and if so, how?
any advise would be great.
Thanks

bookerV · 10-19-2004, 05:26 AM

Move on, she isn't interested. Don't waste your time and opportunities to meet other girls. As for how to get over her, well that is up to you to figure out. Go out with your friends, have fun, meet new people. Worry about yourself rather than someone else. You will meet someone who is better suited for you. It may not seem like it now, but they are out there. Just have fun and relax. You are a 19 yr old college student, party it up!!

FatherTed · 10-19-2004, 05:35 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by marcus1103

" well.....I wouldnt want you to wait...." and again I was like

This line sums up her current thinking I think.
She obviously likes you, but for what ever reason, cannot make the type of commitment you want.

Keep her as a friend, if you are able - good friends are hard to find, but try and move on.
Find hobbies and interests in new areas that expose you to a new and wider audience of friends of all types and good luck - you WILL find her.

txgixxer · 10-19-2004, 06:03 AM

I agree to keep her as a friend. If you are still hoping on a romantic relationship, I would forget about that aspect with her.

jamessh1 · 10-19-2004, 03:08 PM

if you are solely interested in her as 'more' than a friend, i would definitely recommend spending some time away from her until you can view her as just a friend and be completely content with just friendship. I found the fastest way to get over rejection is time well spent with close friends, as suggested above. From your female friends responses, she does not consider you to be boyfriend material, which sometimes happens, it certainly has to me. I'd only keep this friendship if you can see her as just that, your friend.

10-19-2004, 05:06 AM	#1 (permalink)
marcus1103 Upright	Need some advise Ok, here's my story: I'm 19 year old college student. I've never been in a relationship or had a girlfriend before, but am looking for one. Last year fall, I started liking this girl that was in one of my classes. After a while, I started hanging out with her through my other friends and became sorta close to her. but after winter vacation, I found out that she was seeing someone, BUT things were'nt going too well between them. I still was devastated. I just couldnt take it anymore and decided to tell her how I feel. her response was really weird and ambiguous...she said something like "I'm not sure if I like you yet, but I like what I've seen so far..." and I was like but she said she's still seeing this other guy so that was all she could say at the time. After while they ended up breaking up and she told she doesnt want a relationship at that time. during the summer I didnt get to see her at all since her home is pretty far away, so i decided i should just get over her and move on.I tryed everything i could think of like checking out some other girls and meeting new people, but none of them worked. I still missed her. after summer, I started hanging out with her and her friends again, and one night asked her how she felt about me now. she said she only sees me as a friend. but when i asked her "does that mean there's no chance for me at all?" and her response was " well.....I wouldnt want you to wait...." and again I was like I'm really getting confused on what to do. should I wait or should I move on? and if so, how? any advise would be great. Thanks

10-19-2004, 05:26 AM	#2 (permalink)
bookerV Addict Location: Ontario, Canada	Move on, she isn't interested. Don't waste your time and opportunities to meet other girls. As for how to get over her, well that is up to you to figure out. Go out with your friends, have fun, meet new people. Worry about yourself rather than someone else. You will meet someone who is better suited for you. It may not seem like it now, but they are out there. Just have fun and relax. You are a 19 yr old college student, party it up!! __________________ "That's why you're the judge and I'm the law-talking guy." Lionel Hutz

10-19-2004, 06:03 AM	#4 (permalink)
txgixxer Upright	I agree to keep her as a friend. If you are still hoping on a romantic relationship, I would forget about that aspect with her.

10-19-2004, 03:08 PM	#5 (permalink)
jamessh1 Crazy	if you are solely interested in her as 'more' than a friend, i would definitely recommend spending some time away from her until you can view her as just a friend and be completely content with just friendship. I found the fastest way to get over rejection is time well spent with close friends, as suggested above. From your female friends responses, she does not consider you to be boyfriend material, which sometimes happens, it certainly has to me. I'd only keep this friendship if you can see her as just that, your friend.