MEAD

So here's my update. So that girlfriend of mine, i really want to have sex with her now, i've decided that much. Thing is we are long distance right now, it's causing problems. She's wanted me for a long time and she's dealt with me being nervous and unprepared, now that I am I can't act on it, becasue we are not together. When the subject comes up when we talk, she gets really excited about it and seems to forget that I'm still a virgin. She starts mentioning things that we can do, and I'm just trying to go along with her cause I can't quite make those decisions right now. She sort of freaked me out when she mentioned that she'd be open to a threesome, I always thought that was a relationship killer if there ever was one, turns out she just meant that she would be willing to consider it if I wanted. None the less it threw me through a loop, reason being that it just seems she is way ahead of me right now on this issue and I feared that I wasn't going to catch up. She is right I have a pencahnt for blowing things out of proportion, I need to just get it done with already, and I would but we arn't together and won't be for over a month. She is getting scared that I am pushing her away when I start to get concerned that shes jumping the gun on the subject and needs to wait till we actualy have sex first. Right now she's thinking about things, which can't be good, I don't want to lose her. Anyway there's not much of a question in this, I just needed ot vent some fear and anguish.

Aladdin Sane

You two haven't had sex and she's already up for a threesome? I don't mean to throw water on your fire, but I find that damned odd. Am I the only one?

How long have you been a couple? Have you done any petting?

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MageB420666

She may just be getting really excited with all the talk. Maybe you should visit her or her visit you, tell her that you need to take this a little slow cause it's your first time, and just have a good weekend. Talk has a way of moving a whole lot faster than actions, since you can talk about what to do before you actually are able to do it. She may have just gotten comfortable with all the talk and moved on with talking about stuff even though you haven't moved on with actions.

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doncalypso

If you two haven't had sex yet and all of a sudden she's open to the idea of a threesome it means she's been having sex behind your back, man.

Keep your eyes wide open and be ready to dump her if you find out that's the case.

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MEAD

This is very much the case.

MEAD

We have been all over each other, pretty much one nod away from intercourse, since its long distance all we can do is talk about it right now, so i think its a case of her getting ahead of the current situation.

Johnny Rotten

There's never a perfect time to get laid. Go with it, and thank me later

But do use protection, because that threesome talk is moving a little fast. I wouldn't hold on to this one too tightly.

MEAD

Oh yeah a note on that threesome thing she said she'd only be willing consder it if I wanted to try it and to do it once and that's it, basicly for me she said. I thought it was a very generous offer, but thats theres no way in hell that id do that to us.

fhqwhgads

Sounds to me that you found a girl who's going out of her way to try to please you, since you can't be together right now... maybe you're just putting too much thought into this.