Cherrymo0n

I thought I posted this earlier quess not, but anyway I just wanted to know why the majority of afro/asian relations are asian femmes & african american men I thought maybe someone could help me understand why asian femmes are so liberal in this particular area & asian men are liberal when it comes to dating white women or latino basically any other ethnic group except the one in question.... Just incase you are wondering, Yes I am african american (mainly) as well as eurasian & choctaw indian.... Yes I find asian men attractive

goodhabits

Well if u take into account stereotypes, asian men are usually smaller or skinnier, while african american women are generally strong and curvacious. Its easy to see how a guy could feel emasculated if his girlfriend could use him as a back scratcher.
On the other hand i think asian women and african american guys are attracted because the guys are typically tall and strong while the girls are more petite, fitting the sterotypical male-female relationship.

Take it further and u could say that rumours about penis size (for both asians and blacks) would be intimidating to an asian dude. Imagine you wanna ask a girl out thats been with giant guys her whole life, from a girls point of view it would be like asking out a guy who's always been with really good looking girls- a bit intimidating

The only other reason I can think of is that most asian guys (based only on the ones i know personally btw) are shyier because theyve been brought up in a conservative household, while black women are usually pretty outspoken.

All this is based on stereotypes and generalisations about race, though..

Cherrymo0n

"u could say that rumours about penis size (for both asians and blacks) would be intimidating to an asian dude" (quoted from the above statement)
About that I am criticized ALL the time by people because of this "stereotype" or "rumor" my friends say " I don't know why you like asian men, you must like men with a small p****" how do they know the size of ALL asian men? anyway "sex" itself does not make a relationship... besides even if you do not have the opinion based "desirable" size, does not mean that you can't make a gurl climax (repeatedly) it just means that you have to be "creative" & there is more to sex besides the constant usage of the stick....

froseph

I'm a little asian guy (5'4") and the thing is I'm typically attracted to people about my height (or shorter), so it's not that I wont date african american women, but most women in general are "too tall" for me to be attracted to them physically (also makes it much harder to ballroom dance with most women grrr). I have been attracted to people taller than me, but it's just the way things go. There is one african american girl in my classes who I think is cute and would probably try to date if I didn't have a g/f who i love aready. But take everything I say with a grain of salt because I wouldn't say I'm a good datapoint for most asians because I have natrually curly hair but i'm 100% asian . Also I never think about my penis size, and don't understand why people are so hung up about it. Most of your life isn't spent fucking, but rather just hanging out having a good time.

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Orpheus

CherryMoon,

Before I forget, you sound beautiful...

But I digress.

I don't know why Asian men don't date outside their ethnicity- they don't know what they're missing out on. I can speculate on their reluctance (cultural, geographical, emotional, etc.) but I'd rather just state that I love women of all nationalities, colors, and creeds. To me, that is what makes this country such a wonderful place to meet people.

That said, I've dated mostly Caucasians and some Asians, but approach all types of women when given the chance.

Be assured, keep an open mind.

toxic515

Come to think of it, I don't guess I've ever seen that combination at all... Save Jet Li and Aayliah in Romeo must die.... I've known a lot of people of most every ethnicity, and may simply have never noticed though. I SERIOUSLY doubt that my lack of noticing that combination has anything to do with the sexual stereotypes though. The height thing MAY have more to do with it, but that's still kind of grasping at straws. I've always found that reasonable, thoughtful, educated people tend to find it easy to appreciate potential sexual partners and or life mates of ANY ethnicity and most any background. I am with Orpheus on this one, I happen to like women... I've dated pretty much all the ethnic options that I can think of at the moment.. I loved them all, some of them even loved me back. <grin> The best thing that I can think of to tell you is: When you find one you want... Let him know. Ask him out.

And good luck! hope you'll find that the one you like is as intelligent a person as you richly deserve.

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doncalypso

I doubt I can say anything on the subject since I've never seen black men dating Asian women or Asian men dating black women... but I'm pretty certain that if Asian men don't date black women it has to do with all the negative stereotypes out there about black people in general (especially those about black women being loud and having that I-don't-need-a-man attitude).

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Cherrymo0n

[QUOTE=Orpheus]CherryMoon,

Before I forget, you sound beautiful...

Just wanted to say thank you for the compliment...

qtpye4u84

Well, my boyfriend and his cousin are asain, they both told me that they were scared to date a african american women, because they think they are very pushy and too wild in the sac. Just their opinion.

A friend of mine is asian, his last girlfriend was african american they fought a lot.

My friend will only date asian women because he gets turned on by them due to them being smaller then him, and he thinks that they are raised to get married and take care of their husbands.(2004 now and some cultures change some don't depends on the family)

Some of that is true for me because, where I live the wife and the grandma clean, cook and take care of the kids(they ask me to all the time, to avoid doing so I hang out with my friends,anything to get ou t of the house) the men in the house are not asked to help clean or do anything makes me mad cant wait to move out.

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UnKnOwNGuRL

Maybe most asian men are not attracted to women that are too much of a challenge... Maybe the "stereotypes" that most people live by about african american women make them uncomfortable with dating a women from that ethnic group... Lets face it, african american people in general have been given a bad rap, most of the bad images placed & talked about, are about african american men/women maybe they think by dating a woman of that ethnic group would make people think they have no "class"...

UnLiKeMoi

Hey, there are some asian men who are liberal out there & wouldn't mind mixing green tea with brown sugar... They are usually already taken though... Thats why not many of this open minded fellows are seen hanging solo, by the way I like that you are using the term "african american" instead of "black" because most "black" people tend to be brown... I think asian guys are attractive & I have been bold enough to make it known to them but their response is usually "I'm flattered but....." anyway its late I'm going to rest up a bit... Ya'll have a good nite or morning or day....

Cherrymo0n

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Never heard it put that way before...

Halx

Hey, I'm nowhere near asian and I'm intimidated by black women! I do find them extremely attractive (I had a good time in the Carribean!) but the culture difference is huge in some eyes. I'm just not familiar with them at all. If there was ever a black kid in one of my schools growing up, it was *the* black kid.

I would guess that any American-speaking Asian man that you encounter in the US who is intimidated by black women is intimidated for the same reason: he knows absolutey nothing about them. It has nothing to do with being intimidated sexually.

Personally, if a black girl were to take interest in me, I would jump on it. Ahh.. I can dream.

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Konichiwaneko

As an asian guy, I like Cacausian girls honestly because of their complexion. It's something i don't have.

I would date a black girl though, actually most females who outwardly flirt with me are black, but I haven't been asked out yet

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KirStang

In south florida, where i spent the majority of my childhood, i'd get hit on, eyed, etc. by african american girls alot (I'm asian btw). But, unfortunately, they weren't really my type.

Cherrym0on, i kno that this doesn't apply specifically to you, but it seems that alot of the african american girls that i've come in contact with are generally more outspoken, if not crass/ rude at times. Furthermore, the really pretty ones know that they are challenges, and thus play really hard to get. I guess to me, the feminity factor isn't there. I look for more docility in women and most of the time, it isn't there, at least not on the surface.

Also, i think that the backgrounds of african americans and asian americans differ greatly. This is all perceptive, but it seems that most african americans are raised to be proud, self independent, unafraid to speak their minds or stand up for themselves when called upon to. On the other hand, a good majority of asian americans are raised to not challenge authority, keep their heads down and succeed academically. I guess what i'm saying is that the values between the two races are somewhat different.

I would definitely get with an african american girl, if i had the chance, but she'd have to be pretty femine and interested. Think the latter part of Deliver us from Eva.

shtebe

I'm Asian, and I have dated black girls before .

animal909

Im asian and actually have seen a lot of asian men african american females date. My cousin is a prime example (soon to be engaged i hope). Only thing stopping him is the fact that his parents, my parents, and every other aunt and uncle in the family disagree. They give some B.S. reason that she has a child but whatever... the cousins know the truth. She isn't "rude" or "very outspoken" but rather shy. I guess being an asian man with old school asian parents can hinder choices. I must tell you though, that my cousin and my friends who dated black females will always say, "once you go black, you never go back". And its true for them too lol.

yippiekiyeh

Let me tell you it totally depends on the situation. As an asian man, dating a Black Female has presented itself a few times, and I have had the opportunity to do so. It was fun, like dating is fun. But I was sorry to see it not work out. It's all about matching personalities and attractions.

Lockjaw

I have a couple of Asian associates that date or have dated black women so it's not an oddity so much for me anymore. The only interracial couples I have yet to see are black/native American
black/arabian
black/Indian
Asian/Arabian
Asian/Indian

BTW:I'm black, and I'm high yellow, so I don't want anybody hating on me using black as a term...I can't stand when people call me African-American.

omid

Lockjaw-

by Arabian im guessing you meant middle eastern? well if you did, i'm Persian and going out with a gorgeous asian girl

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boredom

I'm asian and ill date any ethnic backround. Sadly im 6'2" and 165 so i dont really fit the asian mold of short and skinny, maybe thats why i dont feel intimdated.

My family has pressured me not to date anyone who is black. I have no idea why maybe one day ill come home and surprise the hatred out of them.

Maybe Cherrymo0n will help me break my parents will.

blar

i have seen many asian males dating black women

But i guess you have to be more specific....as in what Asian ethnicity

WeAllDie1Day

I've dated two black women in my lifetime, and i Think the main reason you don't see it often, is family. Generally speaking, my parents (I'm chinese) "disapproved" of african-american women for whatever reason. I am sure the reverse applies.

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If you think back to late 19th century europe and the whole whites being the supreme race and they shall never mix with blacks. This is the same sort of situation, with all the asian immigrantion that occurs parents fair that their bloodline gets diluted with african americans hense the whole "think of your children" situation.

I personally am asian and my parents have told me countless times in a humourous manner that if i should never bring home an african american. But i think there is many truths in their statements, i personally wouldn't date a majority of them because they tend to clash with my personality, i suppose its more of a family conditioning thing than anything else.

ThatOnePerson

although i am not asian, i did grow up with a huge southeast asian household and there is a definate distrust from the parents towards dark skinned folks. i think the main reason for this is the media and how it can affect a person's perception if they rely on it too much. by the way, HELLS YEAH for all the multi racial couples out there. celebrate diversity.... in the bedroom!!!!! heh heh.

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Cherrymo0n

Thanks for all the kool responses....

Cherrymo0n

I just might be able to help you in that area....

Lockjaw

I said Arabian because Middle-Eastern is kind of a broader term from where I come from. I.e. it encompasses folks from Isreal, Persian areas, Afghanis,Pakistanis and Indians. But hey Persian and Asian...I can check that one off my check list now.

mandal

i'm asian and I have to say that i've never dated an african american women simply because i've never met one that i was attracted to. I'm mainly attracted to cute, shy girls that are very womanly. It might be old fashioned, but i like my girls real lady like, for example, I love it when a girl wears skirts and dresses, also I find girls who swear extremely unattractive. I wouldn't say that i'm not attracted to african american women though. I've always thought vivica a. fox and especially robin givens REAL hot.

MiSo

im asian and my first two girlfriends were african american.
i dont think it (race) mattered much to me because i was born and raised in miami (im 23 yrs now). my parents/grandparents didnt like it so much though. they never told me to break up with them but i knew they didnt like me being with a black girl.
race isn't really an issue as long as two people like each other.
ppl from the old country have a harder time adjusting to the "new times" that is today (meaning younger generation people wont be bothered by it compared to elders)


although i can honestly say that there are many asians who date asians exclusively.
i know many ppl who wont date another because they aren't asian.

littlebighead

I'm an Asian male and I find women of all ethnicities attractive. If I had the chance, I would have loved to date an African-American woman. Fortunately, I'm happily married now, so I don't have to worry about dating anymore. I never had the chance because I was "conditioned" by my parents to always concentrate on schoolwork and to never consider dating until later. Dating in high school was now allowed. Dating in college was slightly more acceptable, but I was too damn busy getting my BS in Electrical Engineering and Computer Science.

I think some of the reasons why Asian men don't date African-American women are family pressures. My asshole racist father made if very clear that I would be disowned if I dated one. Asian was his first preference, but Caucasian might be acceptable to him. I'm sure there's a lot of societal reasons for this, like post-colonial mentality (historically, European powers controlled much of Asia). And part of the problem is how the media defines beauty, which is pretty much "white". Looking at all the African-American women that people find attractive (Vivica Fox, Naomi Campbell, etc.), I've always felt that they had characteristics that were more stereotypically "white" than "black" (I don't mean to offend anybody here).

I do have one Asian male friend who has a fetish for African-American women, so keep looking -- they are out there! But I also know of friends who would never ever consider dating non-Asians. I always thought it was just narrow-mindedness, maybe cultural or familial pressures, I was never sure.

But Cherrymo0n, what is it that you find attractive about Asian men? Is there some stereotype of which I'm not aware? I'd really like to know!

longbough

I'm an Asian man. I've dated Chinese, Indian, caucasian and African-American women. I don't have an aversion.

But that gets me thinking...
I don't think I'm alone in observing a few tendencies in the US:
Asian female and caucasian male couples. (more common than the other way around)
African-American male and caucasian female couples (more common than the other way around).

Maybe it's a biased perception, but I don't think I'm the only one. That leaves the Asian men and African-American women out in the cold. I wonder if this has anything to do with the Hollywood portrayal of various ethnic groups because both Asian men and African-American women are not routinely portrayed as ideal sex-symbols (the African-American women are usually lighter-skinned e.g. Halle Barry). Asian men have supporting or androgynous roles (comic-relief or sidekicks). Or we appear in films only to make some social statement.

Sorry about the digression but you just got me thinking...
What was your question again?