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littlebighead · 11-30-2004, 02:34 AM

I'm an Asian male and I find women of all ethnicities attractive. If I had the chance, I would have loved to date an African-American woman. Fortunately, I'm happily married now, so I don't have to worry about dating anymore.

I never had the chance because I was "conditioned" by my parents to always concentrate on schoolwork and to never consider dating until later. Dating in high school was now allowed. Dating in college was slightly more acceptable, but I was too damn busy getting my BS in Electrical Engineering and Computer Science.

I think some of the reasons why Asian men don't date African-American women are family pressures. My asshole racist father made if very clear that I would be disowned if I dated one. Asian was his first preference, but Caucasian might be acceptable to him. I'm sure there's a lot of societal reasons for this, like post-colonial mentality (historically, European powers controlled much of Asia). And part of the problem is how the media defines beauty, which is pretty much "white". Looking at all the African-American women that people find attractive (Vivica Fox, Naomi Campbell, etc.), I've always felt that they had characteristics that were more stereotypically "white" than "black" (I don't mean to offend anybody here).

I do have one Asian male friend who has a fetish for African-American women, so keep looking -- they are out there! But I also know of friends who would never ever consider dating non-Asians. I always thought it was just narrow-mindedness, maybe cultural or familial pressures, I was never sure.

But Cherrymo0n, what is it that you find attractive about Asian men? Is there some stereotype of which I'm not aware? I'd really like to know!

11-30-2004, 02:34 AM	#31 (permalink)
littlebighead Upright Location: Berkeley, CA	I'm an Asian male and I find women of all ethnicities attractive. If I had the chance, I would have loved to date an African-American woman. Fortunately, I'm happily married now, so I don't have to worry about dating anymore. I never had the chance because I was "conditioned" by my parents to always concentrate on schoolwork and to never consider dating until later. Dating in high school was now allowed. Dating in college was slightly more acceptable, but I was too damn busy getting my BS in Electrical Engineering and Computer Science. I think some of the reasons why Asian men don't date African-American women are family pressures. My asshole racist father made if very clear that I would be disowned if I dated one. Asian was his first preference, but Caucasian might be acceptable to him. I'm sure there's a lot of societal reasons for this, like post-colonial mentality (historically, European powers controlled much of Asia). And part of the problem is how the media defines beauty, which is pretty much "white". Looking at all the African-American women that people find attractive (Vivica Fox, Naomi Campbell, etc.), I've always felt that they had characteristics that were more stereotypically "white" than "black" (I don't mean to offend anybody here). I do have one Asian male friend who has a fetish for African-American women, so keep looking -- they are out there! But I also know of friends who would never ever consider dating non-Asians. I always thought it was just narrow-mindedness, maybe cultural or familial pressures, I was never sure. But Cherrymo0n, what is it that you find attractive about Asian men? Is there some stereotype of which I'm not aware? I'd really like to know!