BigDonkey2

She went to France for 3 months to study abroad. I can't help but feel sad and lonely inside. I'm really trying to keep myself as busy as possible to try not to think about it too much. Today is just a really bad day for me. We talked on the phone and it was really nice, but hanging up was the hardest part. She was telling me all about her weekend and stuff and it kinda made me sad, but I know shes having fun on her own, which is most important. 91 more days to go. I know I can do this but its going to be really tough. I guess I'm just looking for some friendly support from my fellow TFPers. I could really use it right now. I feel really crappy today. I really can't wait for her to come back. I email her everyday and will write letters at least once a week. I want to surprise her and pick her up from the airport when she comes back. We go to school down in SoCal, so I'd have to fly up to her house in NorCal and pick her up from San Francisco. I think she'll flip. Just trying to think happy thoughts right now. Thanks in advance everybody. I really appreciate it.

robodog

Get VoIP peer to peer software. Heck if she has broadband where she is get a couple of video camera's and video conference. Distance makes the heart grow fonder is a cliche, but for a good reason. Personally I can't imagine being away from the one you love for so long, since I met my wife the longest we have been apart was a week when I had to go to LA for business, the second half of that week was one the crappiest times in my life despite being with cool coworkers in a really neat part of the country. Hope your day picks up and I'm sure your time together when she gets back will be really special (and getting to know one another in the intimate sense is always fun).

Grondar

One bit of good news for you is that while her not being there may suck now, when she does finally return and you two meet, it will likely be an overwhelming and awesome experience, one that might make the wait worthwhile (maybe).

It's kind of like eating Big-Macs. Eating one every day is kind of sickening, but if you don't eat one for months, and then have one, it can be an enjoyable experience that transcends words.

Take care, and be well.

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bermuDa

Welcome to the club, I'm two months into a three month sentence myself, while my SO is home in Japan. She'll be back the first week of november, I'm tingling with anticipation

It's rough, but so worth it just keep those lines of communication open!

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Konichiwaneko

I tell this to people all the time.

The best SO is one who falls for you for who you are, not what they can make you. If you are fretting, worrying, and lonely it's only a diservice to both of you. Enjoy life, have fun, and when she gets back listen to her memories, but have some to share with her.

Take this time to do something that you've wanted to do, or even just go out and do something you haven't.


Oh also if you do be careful with how you word it to her, don't ever just say "Because you left, I did this". Liveyour life, be you, and when she sees you again you are a person instead of a shell. Tell her you missed her with a smile and with passion... that's the best way I think.

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Averett

Time apart from the one you love really sucks. I live 6 1/2 hours driving distance from my boyfriend, which isn't too bad, but I only get to see him every 3 weeks or so. We email and chat and talk on the phone often so we're still connected.

You'll just have to stay connected to her as well. Send letters. Girls LOVE letters. Well, most I know do. They don't have to be the most perfect love letters ever. A simple card with a simple note in it can really make her day. And she'll have something to look at from you when she's having those moments when she really misses you.

Chat, email and call when you can. Of course the distance between you is great (9 hours, I think?) but you control the impact it will have on your relationship. You can either choose to make it difficult, or you can choose to use this time to make your relationship grow in a different way.

Good luck, and just remember that she's in the same boat as you are.

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HockeyGuy

As it was said to me on this board when my girlfriend went away

"Absence is to love what wind is to fire; it extinguishes the small, it enkindles the great."
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The only advice that I have is to stay in constant communication, make sure that you guys talk often and even things such as texts i found really great. The distance is tough but you are both going through the same experience. Best of luck mate!
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hossified

how long have you gusy been dating for? just curious.....been there with an x-gf who I had been seeing for 1 1/2 years....she went away for the summer, had a blast....used to call me up drunk (collect!)....and I find out she was making out with other guys. My concern would be her having too much fun especially in france....afterall 20 sumthing year old chick studying abroad...things happen......but as long as you trust her than it'll go by fast!

rukkyg

Hahahahha, great way to make him feel better!

I was only dating my girlfriend for 1 and a half months before we had to be apart all summer, last summer. That sucked a lot. A lot. I hated it. I'm ok now, but I swear I won't let it happen again.

gabshu

it's not that long. it'll be over before you know it, especially when you start having midterms and such. so suck it up and try to stay bussy

good luck!

BigDonkey2

we've been together for a little over a year now. I know she's having fun. I know for sure that she would never do anything like cheat on me. Thats the one thing I'm positive about. I have complete faith and trust in her. Her past long distance relationship didnt work out because the guy didnt trust her and thought she was fooling around with other guys. I know for a fact that she wouldnt do that to me. She loves me too much and I love her just as much. We get to talk twice a week and I usually email her everyday. I just wrote her a letter today and mailed it out so I think that will make her feel better about things. Actually, it was 3 letters I had written in the past few days.

thanks for the support everybody!

saut

Good luck to you man. My girlfriend only lives 20 minutes away but I only get to see her for an hour or two every week with how fucking busy our schedules are. I can't imagine how bad not being able to see her for 3 months would be. Seems like you're doing well, though. She'll definitly love the letters.

skills1

Yea definitely try to keep busy with hobbies (Take new stuff up) to kill time. It works, trust me, first hand experience