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Captain Nemo · 08-03-2004, 07:40 AM

Ok, I did a serach and didn't see this so here goes:

What are your thoughts on your significant other posing nude for professional photographs? Here's my situation, the photographer for our wedding (friend of my brother's) recently did another wedding gig, through our referral. The bride was recently back to him to discuss a family portrait, and the subject of posing for professional nude pictures arose. The bride (who is a co-worker with my wife) told my wife, who then conveyed the information to me later that evening. I could tell she felt slighted that he wouldn't have at least asked her, even though she said she would never do it.

Well, the co-worker (who decided to do it by the way) told the photographer, and he then e-mailed my wife asking her if she would be interested. Reading between the lines, I think he probably didn't originally ask because of the family connections. Well, now my wife is strongly considering it, and I have encouraged her. The pictures will all be taken at our home because he wanted to use the leaded and stained glass in our home to get natural lighting. I will be there when this takes place. And I think this would be a somewhat "freeing" experience for her.

Would any of you reacted (or acted) differently?

ratbastid · 08-03-2004, 08:32 AM

Nope, I'd have reacted (or acted) exactly the same.

lurkette has done a pretty fair amount of nude modeling in the past. Of course, her photographer has been purely amature (cough cough).

stephthegeek · 08-03-2004, 09:20 AM

Well, I'm a bit biased (

) but I think it's a wonderful thing. It's very freeing, and being in front of the camera (not saying that it has to be public... just has been in my case) has made me even more comfortable with my body and aware of my strengths and weaknesses. The first shoot I did with a real photographer, I really wasn't too happy with the results. The quality and experience was great, but I didn't find the photos very flattering at all. It's been through that process that I've discovered my most attractive traits and learned how to showcase them, ultimately making me a more confident and appealing person.

Redlemon · 08-03-2004, 09:27 AM

While I'd have no problem with my wife posing for a professional photographer, I know that she would not feel comfortable with someone else having access to the negatives. At least she lets me use the digital camera (and, for the same reasons, no you can't see them).

st33lr4t · 08-03-2004, 09:46 AM

personally i would prefer to keep things between the two of us. im kinda paranoid and wouldnt trust whoever is taking the pictures to keep them private. but hey...if its what she wants im not going to stop her because at the end of the day shes still "yours".

Spicy McHaggis · 08-03-2004, 09:54 AM

I can't comment on this until you post some pictures... just so I can see the artistic value, of course

raeanna74 · 08-03-2004, 10:06 AM

I'm sure hubby and I would react the same. I would love the experience and in your situation you'll be present when the pictures are being taken. I'm sure hubby would be fine with that. I think it'd be cool to have some more artsy, professional photos.

Captain Nemo · 08-03-2004, 10:24 AM

reanna74, I think the being present part is also a nod to a certain voyeuristic tendency on her part (actually it is more of the closet nature but this could be a way of exposing herself to the genre)

(no pun intended)

unoaman · 08-03-2004, 11:44 AM

Interesting, we were talking about nearly the same thing the other evening. Anitra was asked a few years ago to pose nude for a relatively famous artist friend. She agreed to, but something happened that prevented the sitting, anyway she said it would be fun, because she knew him. My question was, would it be more comfortable (if not fun) posing for someone you know, or a total stranger, that you would probably never see again. The discussion wen't on for quite some time, and I really don't know what conclusion we came to...knowing us, probably none.

Captain Nemo · 08-03-2004, 12:07 PM

Interesting question, she is actually more excited because she knows him and his reputation, therefore she doesn't have to worry about what might happen with the pictures.

repeater · 08-03-2004, 12:57 PM

I think as long as I was certain the pictures would be done professionally and wouldn't be used for anything else I wouldn't care at all. It'd be kind of nice to have something like that actually.

Dale Kemp · 08-03-2004, 02:13 PM

If he's to use the photos, he'll have to get a modelling release from her. Be sure to read the fine print. Pictures can be used way out of context.

But it has to feel quite sexy to a woman to have a photog do a shoot of her skin. And then to contemplate herself in the resulting photos. Have fun. But know that those shots may show up in strange ways years later. He'll OWN the rights to those pictures, and probably to use in any way he chooses.

robodog · 08-03-2004, 08:25 PM

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Originally posted by stephthegeek
The first shoot I did with a real photographer, I really wasn't too happy with the results.

Well if it's any of the photo's I've seen of you then I would say you are WAY too hard on yourself. You're very attractive and quite photogenic (not always the same thing).

Kazic · 08-03-2004, 08:48 PM

Well if I had a SO that this was an oppurtunity for. I think as long as it was in a comfortable enviroment and she was comfortable withit. I would be.
I have thought about doing some provacative shots of myself just for me so it seems fair she could.

MSD · 08-03-2004, 09:16 PM

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Originally posted by Spicy McHaggis
I can't comment on this until you post some pictures... just so I can see the artistic value, of course

This joke has been used enough that it is not, in any way, funny anymore.

Blonddie · 08-08-2004, 05:02 PM

I think if she wants to let her. You will be there and the guy is a professional so why not?! It will probally be very arousing for both of you....

macmanmike6100 · 08-09-2004, 12:04 AM

If she wants to do it, why not? Part of loving somebody is loving the ways in which they are happy. Plus, it's not like anything going to happen, even if you weren't there...you trust her, right?

Good luck!

freeload · 08-09-2004, 12:55 AM

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Originally posted by Dale Kemp
But know that those shots may show up in strange ways years later. He'll OWN the rights to those pictures, and probably to use in any way he chooses.

This is the "tricky" part. Otherwise I would have loved it if my wife would pose nude for a professional photographer.

A tlitte O.T. A norwegian couple never got their weddingphotos because the photographer moved shortly after the shoot. 13 (i believe) years later they attend an exhibition and find their weddingpicture as a part of the photographers collection of art!

ManWithAPlan · 08-09-2004, 04:20 AM

i dunno, but i personally wouldn't be very comfortable with it. could you explain what you mean by "freeing experience"?

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Originally posted by Dale Kemp
He'll OWN the rights to those pictures, and probably to use in any way he chooses.

Unless you have enough forsight to sign a contract where he can not publish the photos without permission.

mtsgsd · 08-09-2004, 08:22 AM

I wouldn't mind at all. Then again, maybe I should mention that I think most of us in America have way to many hangups and taboos about nudity or anything of a sexual nature.

In fact, we're working on some for TFP right now. She doesn't want her face to show, but she wants to do it.

Btw, about that contract idea. Unless you plan to keep the photos private, and completely safe from theft, the photos can end up anywhere. Even without your involvement. Better be sure you're ok with that before the photos are taken, or don't do it at all.

ManWithAPlan · 08-09-2004, 11:42 AM

but you can always sue afterwards:-D

Halx · 08-09-2004, 12:53 PM

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Originally posted by ManWithAPlan
but you can always sue afterwards:-D

It's standard practice for photographers to get their models to sign a release after the pictures are taken, that way it can't happen.

Hash_Browns · 08-09-2004, 12:57 PM

I think this is a great idea!!

I personally love getting in front of the camera, hubby doesn't know how to take the best pictures or capture what I put into them...to have someone who knows how to make those certain things *POP* (as they say

haha) and stand out and look as awesome as I picture them, would make it that much better. However, I do not have the guts to pose for anyone other then my hubby...so....no professional photos of me

Maybe one day...

That's where I think the 'freeing feeling' comes from, being comfortable with ones self to let other's see you in your natural state, when I first did it for hubby it was very freeing for me...

08-03-2004, 07:40 AM	#1 (permalink)
Captain Nemo Insane Location: In a forest of red tape (but hey, I have scissors)	Significant Other Posing Nude Ok, I did a serach and didn't see this so here goes: What are your thoughts on your significant other posing nude for professional photographs? Here's my situation, the photographer for our wedding (friend of my brother's) recently did another wedding gig, through our referral. The bride was recently back to him to discuss a family portrait, and the subject of posing for professional nude pictures arose. The bride (who is a co-worker with my wife) told my wife, who then conveyed the information to me later that evening. I could tell she felt slighted that he wouldn't have at least asked her, even though she said she would never do it. Well, the co-worker (who decided to do it by the way) told the photographer, and he then e-mailed my wife asking her if she would be interested. Reading between the lines, I think he probably didn't originally ask because of the family connections. Well, now my wife is strongly considering it, and I have encouraged her. The pictures will all be taken at our home because he wanted to use the leaded and stained glass in our home to get natural lighting. I will be there when this takes place. And I think this would be a somewhat "freeing" experience for her. Would any of you reacted (or acted) differently? Last edited by Captain Nemo; 08-03-2004 at 08:09 AM..

08-03-2004, 09:20 AM	#3 (permalink)
stephthegeek Upright Location: Torontoish	Well, I'm a bit biased () but I think it's a wonderful thing. It's very freeing, and being in front of the camera (not saying that it has to be public... just has been in my case) has made me even more comfortable with my body and aware of my strengths and weaknesses. The first shoot I did with a real photographer, I really wasn't too happy with the results. The quality and experience was great, but I didn't find the photos very flattering at all. It's been through that process that I've discovered my most attractive traits and learned how to showcase them, ultimately making me a more confident and appealing person.

08-03-2004, 09:27 AM	#4 (permalink)
Redlemon Devoted Donor Location: New England	While I'd have no problem with my wife posing for a professional photographer, I know that she would not feel comfortable with someone else having access to the negatives. At least she lets me use the digital camera (and, for the same reasons, no you can't see them). __________________ I can't read your signature. Sorry.

08-03-2004, 10:06 AM	#7 (permalink)
raeanna74 I'm not a blonde! I'm knot! I'm knot! I'm knot! Location: Upper Michigan	I'm sure hubby and I would react the same. I would love the experience and in your situation you'll be present when the pictures are being taken. I'm sure hubby would be fine with that. I think it'd be cool to have some more artsy, professional photos. __________________ "Always learn the rules so that you can break them properly." Dalai Lama My Karma just ran over your Dogma.

08-03-2004, 12:57 PM	#11 (permalink)
repeater Crazy Location: Chicago	I think as long as I was certain the pictures would be done professionally and wouldn't be used for anything else I wouldn't care at all. It'd be kind of nice to have something like that actually. __________________ When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro. -Raoul Duke

08-03-2004, 08:32 AM	#2 (permalink)
ratbastid Darth Papa Location: Yonder	Nope, I'd have reacted (or acted) exactly the same. lurkette has done a pretty fair amount of nude modeling in the past. Of course, her photographer has been purely amature (cough cough).

08-03-2004, 09:46 AM	#5 (permalink)
st33lr4t Psycho Location: Dallas, Tx	personally i would prefer to keep things between the two of us. im kinda paranoid and wouldnt trust whoever is taking the pictures to keep them private. but hey...if its what she wants im not going to stop her because at the end of the day shes still "yours".

08-03-2004, 09:54 AM	#6 (permalink)
Spicy McHaggis Tilted Location: Athens, OH	I can't comment on this until you post some pictures... just so I can see the artistic value, of course

08-03-2004, 10:24 AM	#8 (permalink)
Captain Nemo Insane Location: In a forest of red tape (but hey, I have scissors)	reanna74, I think the being present part is also a nod to a certain voyeuristic tendency on her part (actually it is more of the closet nature but this could be a way of exposing herself to the genre) (no pun intended)

08-03-2004, 11:44 AM	#9 (permalink)
unoaman Loser Location: Scenic Drive	Interesting, we were talking about nearly the same thing the other evening. Anitra was asked a few years ago to pose nude for a relatively famous artist friend. She agreed to, but something happened that prevented the sitting, anyway she said it would be fun, because she knew him. My question was, would it be more comfortable (if not fun) posing for someone you know, or a total stranger, that you would probably never see again. The discussion wen't on for quite some time, and I really don't know what conclusion we came to...knowing us, probably none.

08-03-2004, 12:07 PM	#10 (permalink)
Captain Nemo Insane Location: In a forest of red tape (but hey, I have scissors)	Interesting question, she is actually more excited because she knows him and his reputation, therefore she doesn't have to worry about what might happen with the pictures.

08-03-2004, 02:13 PM	#12 (permalink)
Dale Kemp Crazy Location: New Mexico	If he's to use the photos, he'll have to get a modelling release from her. Be sure to read the fine print. Pictures can be used way out of context. But it has to feel quite sexy to a woman to have a photog do a shoot of her skin. And then to contemplate herself in the resulting photos. Have fun. But know that those shots may show up in strange ways years later. He'll OWN the rights to those pictures, and probably to use in any way he chooses. __________________ Trueheart

08-03-2004, 08:48 PM	#14 (permalink)
Kazic Psycho Location: Fortress of Solitude	Well if I had a SO that this was an oppurtunity for. I think as long as it was in a comfortable enviroment and she was comfortable withit. I would be. I have thought about doing some provacative shots of myself just for me so it seems fair she could. __________________ "Computer games don't affect kids; I mean if Pac-Man affected us as kids,we'd all be running around in darkened rooms, munching magic pills and listening to repetitive electronic music." -Kristian Wilson, Nintendo, Inc, 1989

08-08-2004, 05:02 PM	#16 (permalink)
Blonddie Crazy Location: Southern California	I think if she wants to let her. You will be there and the guy is a professional so why not?! It will probally be very arousing for both of you.... __________________ "There's one in every family...two in mine actually.."--- Zazu

08-09-2004, 12:04 AM	#17 (permalink)
macmanmike6100 High Honorary Junkie Location: Tri-state.	If she wants to do it, why not? Part of loving somebody is loving the ways in which they are happy. Plus, it's not like anything going to happen, even if you weren't there...you trust her, right? Good luck!

08-09-2004, 08:22 AM	#20 (permalink)
mtsgsd Addict Location: Wisconsin, USA	I wouldn't mind at all. Then again, maybe I should mention that I think most of us in America have way to many hangups and taboos about nudity or anything of a sexual nature. In fact, we're working on some for TFP right now. She doesn't want her face to show, but she wants to do it. Btw, about that contract idea. Unless you plan to keep the photos private, and completely safe from theft, the photos can end up anywhere. Even without your involvement. Better be sure you're ok with that before the photos are taken, or don't do it at all.

08-09-2004, 11:42 AM	#21 (permalink)
ManWithAPlan Addict Location: M[ass]achusetts	but you can always sue afterwards:-D __________________ In the end we are but wisps

08-09-2004, 12:57 PM	#23 (permalink)
Hash_Browns Psycho Location: Right behind you...BOO!	I think this is a great idea!! I personally love getting in front of the camera, hubby doesn't know how to take the best pictures or capture what I put into them...to have someone who knows how to make those certain things POP (as they say haha) and stand out and look as awesome as I picture them, would make it that much better. However, I do not have the guts to pose for anyone other then my hubby...so....no professional photos of me Maybe one day... That's where I think the 'freeing feeling' comes from, being comfortable with ones self to let other's see you in your natural state, when I first did it for hubby it was very freeing for me... __________________ Smile It makes people wonder what you're up too!