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kristov · 04-23-2003, 07:11 PM

A really good girlfriend of mine (im a guy) is now my wife.

Go for it, you may regret it, or it may be the best thing to ever happen to you.

Uuudar · 04-23-2003, 08:29 PM

Somenosuke · 04-23-2003, 08:59 PM

Owie. Sorry to hear that, Uuudar. Don't stay down too long. There is someone (or many someones) out there who operate on the same wavelength you do. They will show up.

gjbourke · 04-24-2003, 02:11 AM

I don't think people want to laught it up in your face Uuudar.
Am interested to see how it progresses though. She didn't call you a "nice guy" did she?

Still there maybe a future if she can get her head around the situation.
Very sad, hope it improves.

synkron · 04-25-2003, 11:30 AM

Don't delude yourself. Friends come and go, but a great schtooking is forever. Risk the friendship! If it works, you might have a long term thingy here. If not, hey at least you banged her.

ND_Ranger · 04-26-2003, 02:02 PM

I'm good friends with both of my ex-girlfriends. I couldn't date them again, but I could marry them.

Dating is an exploration of the other person. You can't explore your good friends you already know them, so you just end up fighting over stuff that didn't matter as friends but doesn't work when dating.

If you want a long-term marriage track relationship find out what she thinks. You can ask as a friend and not seriously mess up the relationship. However, if you are just looking for a quick lay, say goodbye to your friend.

phoenix1002 · 04-26-2003, 02:29 PM

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Originally posted by Uuudar
Ha. Well, all you jealous people can now laugh it up in my face. She says that her relationships don't work like this, becoming friends then that. Instead, she perfers the random guy then knowing him etc etc what the fuck ever. Stupid thing is, she hasnt ever tried a relationship this way. Sigh, whatever. God damn. Ah well, it was good for that 10 minutes I guess.

Current Music: Rhett Miller - Come Around

Sorry to hear that, man... don't let it get you down too much. Sometimes these things work out, sometimes they don't.

analog · 04-26-2003, 09:29 PM

fuck her. fuck her HARD. make her scream if you can.

BUT- treat her the right way afterwards and you won't be the "friend bootycall"- cuz no one likes developing feelings for someone else to find out they only like you as a stunt cock.

soloist124 · 10-17-2004, 04:53 PM

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Originally Posted by Uuudar

The past few days, my best friend and I have had the most sexual tension ever between us. It is so rediculous. You could cut it with a knife. I dunno though, I think she's hot as hell and would totally be all over it if I wasn't friends with her. I don't know if it's worth risking the great friendship that I have to take it up a notch. Any advice is greatly appreciated, drawn from past experiences and whatnot. Thanks in advance!

definately not worth it, unlesss u guys mutually agree to do it..

LiquidSquid · 10-17-2004, 08:18 PM

Although I suppose it could technically work, you're really going out on a limb. I can say from experience that once you cross that line, there's no going back to 'just friends'. And if it doesn't happen to work out, well...be prepared for an abundant harvest of awkward moments.

brokenangel · 10-17-2004, 09:25 PM

i believe there can be sex with no strings attached if you are both can walk out of it without emotions.
i have always been very emotional in any romantic relationships, but i know of one guy whom i can go to bed with and walk away the next morning feeling nothing.
and it has happened, more than once, and we're still good friends.
we still confide in one another bout our problems, but we flirt and get it off too.
it really depends, but i have realized that in most cases, it has screwed up friendships.

mighty_whitey · 10-18-2004, 09:10 AM

I tell you what; marrying your best friend is the best. I did and things have never been better. At least you have gotten to know someone that you can share your life with. Someone that you have something in common with. Not just a sexual partner. Sex is fine but if you don't have a life it is not worth it in the long run. Sex is only a part of a relationship and a minor one at that. You have to really get along to make a relationship work. Just take it slow and hopefully it will make you as happy as I am in my relationship.

Jay You Dee · 10-18-2004, 09:16 AM

I had the same situation going on that you did about 2 years ago. Me and a friend of 15 years started hanging out a lot, just real friendly like. Then, one night after a football game we were talking, and boom we were on the couch making out like nothing else mattered. That relationship lasted about 3 months before it just blew up. Over a year goes by and we don't speak, and I really just hate life because I not only lost a girlfriend who I loved very much, but one of the best friends I'd ever had. Then, one day my friend hands me his phone with her on it and within seconds we're back together. I can now say I'm in the happiest relationship anybody could probably ever be in. Dating a friend can be a great thing, just take things slow... maybe jump to the whole friends with benefits thing first before really committing. That's always a fun thing to do... let's you test the waters a little bit before you dive on in

04-23-2003, 08:29 PM	#42 (permalink)
Uuudar Insane	.. Last edited by Uuudar; 06-09-2008 at 09:15 AM..

04-23-2003, 08:59 PM	#43 (permalink)
Somenosuke Insane Location: The 7th Level..	Owie. Sorry to hear that, Uuudar. Don't stay down too long. There is someone (or many someones) out there who operate on the same wavelength you do. They will show up. __________________ Sex is not the answer. Sex is the question. Yes is the answer.

04-26-2003, 02:02 PM	#46 (permalink)
ND_Ranger Upright Location: Midwest	I'm good friends with both of my ex-girlfriends. I couldn't date them again, but I could marry them. Dating is an exploration of the other person. You can't explore your good friends you already know them, so you just end up fighting over stuff that didn't matter as friends but doesn't work when dating. If you want a long-term marriage track relationship find out what she thinks. You can ask as a friend and not seriously mess up the relationship. However, if you are just looking for a quick lay, say goodbye to your friend. __________________ Pick Two: [1] Fast [2] Right [3] Cheap

10-17-2004, 08:18 PM	#50 (permalink)
LiquidSquid Upright Location: Ottawa (frozen hellscape)	Although I suppose it could technically work, you're really going out on a limb. I can say from experience that once you cross that line, there's no going back to 'just friends'. And if it doesn't happen to work out, well...be prepared for an abundant harvest of awkward moments. __________________ "There cannot be good living where there is not good drinking." - Benjamin Franklin

04-23-2003, 07:11 PM	#41 (permalink)
kristov Upright Location: Houston, TX	A really good girlfriend of mine (im a guy) is now my wife. Go for it, you may regret it, or it may be the best thing to ever happen to you.

04-24-2003, 02:11 AM	#44 (permalink)
gjbourke Upright	I don't think people want to laught it up in your face Uuudar. Am interested to see how it progresses though. She didn't call you a "nice guy" did she? Still there maybe a future if she can get her head around the situation. Very sad, hope it improves.

04-25-2003, 11:30 AM	#45 (permalink)
synkron Crazy Location: in the midst of a dissociative fugue	Don't delude yourself. Friends come and go, but a great schtooking is forever. Risk the friendship! If it works, you might have a long term thingy here. If not, hey at least you banged her.

04-26-2003, 09:29 PM	#48 (permalink)
analog Banned	fuck her. fuck her HARD. make her scream if you can. BUT- treat her the right way afterwards and you won't be the "friend bootycall"- cuz no one likes developing feelings for someone else to find out they only like you as a stunt cock.

10-17-2004, 09:25 PM	#51 (permalink)
brokenangel Upright Location: Toronto	i believe there can be sex with no strings attached if you are both can walk out of it without emotions. i have always been very emotional in any romantic relationships, but i know of one guy whom i can go to bed with and walk away the next morning feeling nothing. and it has happened, more than once, and we're still good friends. we still confide in one another bout our problems, but we flirt and get it off too. it really depends, but i have realized that in most cases, it has screwed up friendships.

10-18-2004, 09:10 AM	#52 (permalink)
mighty_whitey Upright	I tell you what; marrying your best friend is the best. I did and things have never been better. At least you have gotten to know someone that you can share your life with. Someone that you have something in common with. Not just a sexual partner. Sex is fine but if you don't have a life it is not worth it in the long run. Sex is only a part of a relationship and a minor one at that. You have to really get along to make a relationship work. Just take it slow and hopefully it will make you as happy as I am in my relationship.

10-18-2004, 09:16 AM	#53 (permalink)
Jay You Dee Tilted Location: Cleveland, TN	I had the same situation going on that you did about 2 years ago. Me and a friend of 15 years started hanging out a lot, just real friendly like. Then, one night after a football game we were talking, and boom we were on the couch making out like nothing else mattered. That relationship lasted about 3 months before it just blew up. Over a year goes by and we don't speak, and I really just hate life because I not only lost a girlfriend who I loved very much, but one of the best friends I'd ever had. Then, one day my friend hands me his phone with her on it and within seconds we're back together. I can now say I'm in the happiest relationship anybody could probably ever be in. Dating a friend can be a great thing, just take things slow... maybe jump to the whole friends with benefits thing first before really committing. That's always a fun thing to do... let's you test the waters a little bit before you dive on in