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World's King · 05-03-2004, 10:33 AM

So, I work with this girl… well she’s not a girl, she’s 33 or 34. She is the coolest person I have ever met… very attractive and her and I have almost everything in common. Everything right down to the fact we both eat pussy. She’s a lesbian. I’ve fallen in love with a lesbian. I know this sounds very “Chasing Amy” but please don’t relate me to Ben Affleck. I get all nervous when I see her and her girlfriend… they just moved into a new house and I flaked on helping them paint and move because I’m all weirded out by this crush. Luckily I don’t have to work with her much but we see each other all the time and have become really good friends. I even took her to the strip club one night.

I don’t know if I have any real questions here… but please tell me that someone else has been in this situation.

kwoodmex · 05-03-2004, 10:58 AM

I was in a similar situation not too long ago, except she was my manager none the less. Innuendos were a constant thing and it drove me mad.

She left to another state for a better job, and on the day she left, she had me in the office for an adios, before I left her office she gave me a kiss on the cheek, smiled and said it would never have worked out.

She was obviously right, no doubt that it would not have worked out, but damned if that 6 months didn't drive me absolutely insane.

RoboBlaster · 05-03-2004, 03:34 PM

I can't even imagine. At least with a straight woman in a relationship, there is always that small sliver of hope.

Terminal Frost · 05-03-2004, 04:06 PM

Hmmm - that sounds pretty rough. Have you ever thought about asking her if you could join in with her and her lady friend or maybe just observe? By just reading this post I'm unable to tell if she would be the kind of girl that would be into something like that; perhaps even after a few drinks or so. Lesbians seem to be pretty liberal in general - including their sexuality. Depending on what kind of relationship you have it might be worth giving it a shot. You don't have to ask outright. Even to just plant the idea in her head in a joking manner might work to your advantage. You said you took her to a strip club already so you two must be somewhat comfortable together. I'm sure you could work it into a conversation in a manner as to not offend her but instead get her to think that it might be a good time. Good luck with with the situation in general.

Mondak · 05-03-2004, 06:32 PM

Maybe this will help

http://www.tvtome.com/Seinfeld/season6.html#ep102

World's King · 05-03-2004, 09:33 PM

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Originally posted by Mondak
Maybe this will help

http://www.tvtome.com/Seinfeld/season6.html#ep102

Thank you for making my life a Seinfeld episode. That's worse then being Ben Affleck.

And on another note. I have no desire to watch or even get involved in their sex life. I don't want them to break up so I can have her. They just baught a house together. I was just wondering if anyone else had fallen in love with someone on the other team?

guthmund · 05-03-2004, 09:37 PM

You know this sounds like that movie....what was the name.....Chasing Amy, right?

/smirk

Ahhhhh, Conversion. I don't know too many gay folk, but my understanding is flipping teams only works if they switch hit already.

I had pretty strong feelings for a lesbian once. She was pretty honest and open about....well just about anything, which is a trait I tend to admire. She assured me that she'd been through this before (my infatuation) and preceeded to pre-emptively shoot down any flipping and threesomes. She assured me that with time, I'd get over it and she was absolutely right. She turned out to be one of my best friends.

I don't know if that helps, but chances are if you're flaking yourself out she's on to you. Sounds like you're pretty comfortable with her, so I would suggest broaching the subject. Chances are she's already thought it out for you.

moonstrucksoul · 05-04-2004, 08:54 AM

is she a hardtop or convertable? i dated a bi-sexual woman long ago, she had recently come out of a lesbian relationship, and after we broke up she got married to a guy. I must have done something right, but apparently not enough.

05-03-2004, 10:33 AM	#1 (permalink)
World's King Here Location: Denver City Denver	Work Crush. Worse Then You Think. So, I work with this girl… well she’s not a girl, she’s 33 or 34. She is the coolest person I have ever met… very attractive and her and I have almost everything in common. Everything right down to the fact we both eat pussy. She’s a lesbian. I’ve fallen in love with a lesbian. I know this sounds very “Chasing Amy” but please don’t relate me to Ben Affleck. I get all nervous when I see her and her girlfriend… they just moved into a new house and I flaked on helping them paint and move because I’m all weirded out by this crush. Luckily I don’t have to work with her much but we see each other all the time and have become really good friends. I even took her to the strip club one night. I don’t know if I have any real questions here… but please tell me that someone else has been in this situation. __________________ heavy is the head that wears the crown

05-03-2004, 06:32 PM	#5 (permalink)
Mondak Industrialist Location: Southern California	Maybe this will help http://www.tvtome.com/Seinfeld/season6.html#ep102 __________________ All truth passes through three stages: First it is ridiculed Second, it is violently opposed and Third, it is accepted as self-evident. ARTHUR SCHOPENHAUER (1788-1860)

05-03-2004, 09:37 PM	#7 (permalink)
guthmund big damn hero	You know this sounds like that movie....what was the name.....Chasing Amy, right? /smirk Ahhhhh, Conversion. I don't know too many gay folk, but my understanding is flipping teams only works if they switch hit already. I had pretty strong feelings for a lesbian once. She was pretty honest and open about....well just about anything, which is a trait I tend to admire. She assured me that she'd been through this before (my infatuation) and preceeded to pre-emptively shoot down any flipping and threesomes. She assured me that with time, I'd get over it and she was absolutely right. She turned out to be one of my best friends. I don't know if that helps, but chances are if you're flaking yourself out she's on to you. Sounds like you're pretty comfortable with her, so I would suggest broaching the subject. Chances are she's already thought it out for you. __________________ No signature. None. Seriously. Last edited by guthmund; 05-03-2004 at 09:39 PM..

05-04-2004, 08:54 AM	#8 (permalink)
moonstrucksoul hovering in the distance Location: the land of milk and honey	is she a hardtop or convertable? i dated a bi-sexual woman long ago, she had recently come out of a lesbian relationship, and after we broke up she got married to a guy. I must have done something right, but apparently not enough. __________________ no signature required

05-03-2004, 10:58 AM	#2 (permalink)
kwoodmex Crazy	I was in a similar situation not too long ago, except she was my manager none the less. Innuendos were a constant thing and it drove me mad. She left to another state for a better job, and on the day she left, she had me in the office for an adios, before I left her office she gave me a kiss on the cheek, smiled and said it would never have worked out. She was obviously right, no doubt that it would not have worked out, but damned if that 6 months didn't drive me absolutely insane.

05-03-2004, 03:34 PM	#3 (permalink)
RoboBlaster Psycho Location: Ouuuterrrr Spaaaaacccceeee	I can't even imagine. At least with a straight woman in a relationship, there is always that small sliver of hope.

05-03-2004, 04:06 PM	#4 (permalink)
Terminal Frost Tilted Location: Manhattan Island	Hmmm - that sounds pretty rough. Have you ever thought about asking her if you could join in with her and her lady friend or maybe just observe? By just reading this post I'm unable to tell if she would be the kind of girl that would be into something like that; perhaps even after a few drinks or so. Lesbians seem to be pretty liberal in general - including their sexuality. Depending on what kind of relationship you have it might be worth giving it a shot. You don't have to ask outright. Even to just plant the idea in her head in a joking manner might work to your advantage. You said you took her to a strip club already so you two must be somewhat comfortable together. I'm sure you could work it into a conversation in a manner as to not offend her but instead get her to think that it might be a good time. Good luck with with the situation in general.