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StormBerlin

My question is, why is she so emotional? How old are you guys? I don't know... my parents were never protective like that. My mom just went and put me on the shot when I told her... I don't know, I think there's some stuff you're not telling

I feel for you that you don't have the freedom to share yourself sexually, but I don't really have any advice. Maybe sit down (both of you) with both sets of parents and explain that you care about each other and are being careful (you are being careful, right?) so they shouldn't freak out?

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SixEdxMia

*sigh* reminds me of seventeen...It's hormonal honey,especially around the time of a period.And these arent every day.... feelings for a young.... girl..Ya know? (my opinion)

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Amano

WOAH! She said that??? That must have been EXTREMELY awkward when she said that to your girl.

But I guess it's good that she's looking out for you hehehehe

s4dfish

I sounds to me like your gf isn't terribly comfortable with a sexual relationship. I think that rather than trying to find someplace to get off, you need to work on the intimacy issues in your relationship.

Is there a history of abuse (physical/sexual) in her family? Oft times individual who were raised in such environments have a difficult time with sexual intimacy.

Averett

Exactly. Work on other aspects of your relationship, and forget about the sex for awhile.

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bermuDa

echo. sex isn't priority one... If you can't find a safe place to be intimate together, then maybe it's not a good idea to be so concerned about it.

and for your bemusement, my first gf and I had a similar problem, only it wasn't finding a location, it was unfortunate coincidences; first her car broke down, her dad wanted her home right after work, her period started, then she had to move away to college. lol what a frustrating couple of weeks that was

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brianna

completely agree -- though i don't necessary think there needs to be a history of abuse her hormones may just be more ready than her emotions -- which i think is a pretty common occurrence (especially when the idea that 'sex is wrong' is reinforced by having to sneak around).

I think maybe you guys should be a bit more concerned about the bleeding -- even if it is from dryness, why are you trying to have sex with her when she's not wet? if she's not wet her body is not ready to have sex -- i respect the fact that you feel like you do not have enough time to engage in a proper amount of foreplay but honestly having sex with a woman who is not physically prepared is pretty selfish.

Eugeni

Maybe it is only a matter of time. Why don't you try and learn from every time something good or bad happens? I did that, and I still do it.

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SexyCat

If she just started the birth control, her feelings could be related to the added hormones. Depo can really mess with your emotions. Perhaps she should try another form of birth control.