My question is, why is she so emotional? How old are you guys? I don't know... my parents were never protective like that. My mom just went and put me on the shot when I told her... I don't know, I think there's some stuff you're not telling
I feel for you that you don't have the freedom to share yourself sexually, but I don't really have any advice. Maybe sit down (both of you) with both sets of parents and explain that you care about each other and are being careful (you are being careful, right?) so they shouldn't freak out?