Triscut

Hey everyone, thanks in for taking the time to look at my thread. Also, thanks in advance for the replies. Sorry in advance for the long winded post, it is just sometimes hard for me to convey my thoughts.

I am 19 years old, and there is this girl who I have became good friends with recently.

Anyways to move the story along last weekend she gave me a massage over at my place, when I was really stressed out about something. Nothing Sexual, just a friendly shoulders and back massage, while i was sitting leaning back against her. She did this for like a couple hours and we just talked and had a great time.

I am going over to her place for Dinner and a Movie this next weekend (We live far away and dont get to hang out that often only on weekends) .

I was thinking I want to repay the favor and give her a little shoulders and back massage type of thing. Nothing sexual just a friendly little rub down while we talk and watch a movie.

Anyways, she usually just leans back against me when we watch Tv or whatever, so The posistion we would probably be in would be me sitting next to her on the couch sitting sideways with her facing the Tv. and he back to my front section.

I am not inexperienced sexually or anything, its just I have never given a "non sexual massage" before. LOL.. I know it sounds dumb. So what I am asking is how should I go about giving her an excellent shoulder and back massage without making it to sexual? I really want to impress her and do a good job, however I dont want to make it too intimate.

She plays basketball and tennis and has sore shoulders a lot, and has slight tendinitus in one of her shoulders. If that helps.

So basically, anyone have any tips or techniques for giving a great shoulder massage? Also, I plan on asking her wahts he she likes and ya know asking her what feels good and all that, its just I wanna try and be good right off the bat without having to ask

Once again, sorry for the long post, thanks in advance for the help. Have a Good day.

pocon1

Go pay for a legitimate massage by a therapist. Then pay attention, and talk to them about what they are doing. You can learn a lot from this technique.

WarWagon

Just be sure to talk to her, she'll let you know what she likes in terms of area and pressure. One thing that works well is to work in small circles along the sides of the spine. To find the tight muscle groups, use your thumb and forefinger. They will feel like thick bands or knots. You can also use your thumbs to apply pressure when you get to the shoulders. Massaging just in front of the traps often feels good for athletes.

You could also use some lotion too when doing the neck and shoulders. Its not too sexual, but it can keep your thumbs from binding up/tugging on her skin if you apply a moderate amount of pressure.

But in any case, don't worry, just wing it. You'll be hard pressed to find a girl who wont love ANY massage, as long as you're not jamming your fingers into her or chudo chopping her to death.

Billy Ocean

I say you should just wing it also. Feel her body respond to your touch and go slowly.

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motdakasha

1) Minimum massage should be no less than 15 mins.
2) Don't just use your fingers to push/rub/whatever. Use knuckles, tools, etc.
3) Put your back into it, your hands will tire out slower. Don't go too hard if she doesn't want it that way, but also don't skimp or wimp on time and effort.
4) Don't do the same motions for more than a minute or two because you can rub that part of the back sore/sensitive. Change techniques and areas constantly. Google for techniques, there are millions well ok, maybe I exaggerate. Some techniques to research should include kneading and circular motions, etc.
5) Use massage oils and lotions.

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Seaver

Motdakasha had it dead on, but I'm going to try to extend that out for ya.

1) I never give massages if they are sitting upright unless in hot tubs (you cant lay her down there. If she is sitting upright when you are giving a massage her muscles can not relax for they are supporting her, if she lays down those muscles will eventually completely relax and only then can a good massage be effective. Of course provide her a pillow at absolute minimum. Since its non-sexual no need for candles, dimed lights, relaxing music, or massage oils (these are a requirement for a massage to a girl you are with, she'll put up with a LOT of shit if you do this just once a month just for her).

2) Dont go soft, but dont be rough. What I mean is go deep into her muscles, slow, and deep. The key to a good massage is guaging her reaction. If you're rubbing her shoulders and she tilts her head to one side it means it hurts what you're doing, but if she starts to let her head fall (tiny difference, so watch closely) you're doing everything right. If she falls asleep pat yourself on the back, you're the man.

3) If you find a knot work on it until it goes away. Since you said she plays a lot of sports it's almost guaranteed she will have some. It will hurt her a little bit, but it truely is one of those good-hurts. I used to play football and wrestle, I've had tons of knots in my back, so I know even though it hurts she will NOT let you stop hehe.

4) As stated, 15 min should be a minimum. Yes if you havent given massages before, or in a long while, your hands will become very tired. Use your back and shoulders.

5) Dont do the chopping thing. Yeah professional therapists do it, because they know how and when. Doing this at the wrong time will cause her back to tense back up and will do the opposite that you want. Chopping causes a revitalization of the muscles, great when the patient wants to attack the rest of the day, but bad when you want to return the favor of relaxation.

6) Dont forget her arms. Work the tricep in a circular motion going upwards, and long strokes down to her fingertips. The circular strokes help get rid of any soreness, and the long slow strokes downward relax the entire arms. Also dont forget the shoulder, getting all the soreness is key to a good massage.

7) As said change your techniques. Use small circular, sort of shallow, motions to begin with, then follow up with a long, deep motion.

That's all I can really explain through this. Good luck.

motdakasha

If you're going to do deep muscle massage, you have to warm her up first and get her relaxed or it's going to be painful.

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Triscut

Thanks for the advice everyone. I will let you guys know how it goes.

Also, I plan on talking to her and asking her what she likes etc. Anyone have any other tips or techniques for the shoulder area?

SiN

When I give my bf shoulder massages, I focus on the area on either side of the spine, and around/under the edges of the shoulderblades, and where the neck/shoulders meet.

Seems to be the most needed/effective places.

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HLP

Okay, whatever you do do it harder than you think. ALOT harder than you think. Go up and down the back and shoulders. Dont leave any stone unturned.

What would you rather have your girlfriend say? That your a little rough or too wimpy?

GO HARDER! Like your molding clay hard.

AlCap0wn

That's about all the tips you need. Follow her suggestions and go with the flow.

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tommy thompson

Nice read here! I plan on giving my other half a massage tonight! She's been a real sweetheart.

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kurty[B]

Since it's a friendly massage don't massage her breasts, or ass, or pelvic region, that'll get you slapped!