Harshaw

Ok, so I met a girl at a new years eve party. We kind of hit it off, but I didn't really make a move. I met with a mutual friend last night and she said her friend really wants me to call her, and gave me her number. I didn't make a move at the party because I know I am moving out of this state in 3-5 months. Nothing will keep me in this state. Nothing.
If I were going to stay here, I would call her and see how things went from there. I wouldn't mind going out with her for a while and then going into a long distance relationship (as long as it sucked less than my last one). Not calling her is not an option (I've read way too many threads about guys who don't call). Do I call her, thank her and explain? Do I go on a few dates and explain?

What is the best way to do this without leading her on? Or being a jerk in some other way?

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numist

Lemme give you an anecdote.

I met my g/f in the summer a year and a half ago.
3 weeks later I went to college.
We are still together, even though we live prohibitively far from each other.

It can work, and its your loss if you miss out on lost opportunities.

Go for it, and never look back.

*Nikki*

I met my boyfriend a week before he was moving 500 miles away to work on a project for his job.

A week is not a long time at all esp. when the relationship is new. We did the long distance thing for months before he was finally able to move back home.

We are still together 9 months later and plan to be married in the next couple of years.

wilbjammin

Call her and be honest. The worst that can happen is that you'll force her to make some decisions.

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gabshu

Call her, tell her on the first date, nicely. Who knows if you´ll even really hit it off with her. Give it a shot. Good luck

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cj2112

I am currently involved in a long distance relationship, and yeah it has it's challenges, but it's not undoable. I say call her and ask her out, let the date dictate the timing. You never know what might happen.

Johnny Rotten

I'd tell her your story right up front, before you even go out anywhere. I'd hate to go out on a nice date with someone I'm into, only for them to say, "Oh, buy the way, I'm moving to CHINA for the rest of my life! But wasn't the fish deeelish?"

Let her know you are determined to skedaddle. 3-5 months is enough for the both of you to decide whether she should come with you, I reckon. Good luck and keep us posted, if you like.

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analog

Honesty is, as always, the best policy.

1. Just give her a call for a chat. During said chat, bring up topic.
2. ?
3. Profit.

skysooner

I was dating this psycho girl who was bi-polar and an absolute bitch to be around. I had finally had it. This was late May. I was moving in August at the earliest and October at the latest to a town that was a 12 hour drive away from my college. It all depended on when I finished my thesis. I put an ad in a local dating magazine asking for a summer romance. My idea was just to meet some cool, uncomplicated chick for a few months and then quietly let it die a LD death once I moved. This was just to kind of get back in the game. The only one that responded to my ad was my now wife of 12 years. We were in deep within 2 weeks. You just never know.

tisonlyi

**platitude**
This isn't a rehersal.
**platitude**

True though.

Live like there's no tomorrow, love like you've never been hurt, etc, etc.

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Yalaynia

I met my fiance on line. We hadnt even had a chance to date really. Finally I went to visit him twice in 2002 and he came to see me once in 2003. He asked me to marry him in febuary 2003. Most of our relationship has been nothing but computer and phone talking because of the 800 mile distance over State and Province.
I say go for it you got nothing to lose. If you dont you might regret it later for not calling.

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asterjolly

a lot of my relationships have started within a couple months of one of us leaving for some place far away (ive done a lot of moving, traveling, etc, in the last few years). half the time weve only dated a little and it didnt last those couple months anyway and the other half the time it was totally worth having to leave the other and have those couple months as opposed to not having spent any time with each other at all.. dont let the future hold you back.