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AfterBurn · 12-09-2003, 03:26 PM

Again i appologize for my poor grammar, my main language is french, but ill try to keep things legible.

A girl that was once interested in me and made it quite obvious is sending me mixed signals. Whenever i talk to her she seems nice and everything but sometimes totally ignores me, then i get mad and say forget it to myself and just totally ignore her by not looking at her or anything and just sitting away from her, making it quite obvious i dont want be near her. When i do this she gets sort of sad i guess and keeps looking at me and trying to be all flirty with her hair and something. But when i show her i like her it all reverts to the same old thing. Should i just move on and forget about anything thats happened or is she testing me or something?

Averett · 12-09-2003, 03:34 PM

Your signature says "Life is too short to be spent dwelling on the past" so... don't!!

Just act normal! Don't be a jerk, talk to her when she talks to you. Don't be put off if she doesnt fall all over you or anything. Don't worry about her, she's being a silly little girl. But no offence, you're being a bit of a silly little boy too

Just act normal towards her, don't make any efforts or anything. Soon things will even out.

lurkette · 12-09-2003, 03:36 PM

Oy. Would you two TALK TO EACH OTHER? Enough of this flirting and ignoring each other and trying to guess what each other is thinking.

See if the following story makes you laugh:

Girl ignores guy
Guy gets mad and ignores girl
Girl flirts with guy
Guy perks up
Girl ignores guy

Would you two quit punishing each other and just talk? You're such dopes

AfterBurn · 12-09-2003, 04:02 PM

this cycle has been going on for awhile now, i'm sure she noticies too and still continues to do the same thing, and she never talks to me so what am i supposed to think?

Silvy · 12-09-2003, 04:10 PM

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Originally posted by AfterBurn
and she never talks to me so what am i supposed to think?

Now change 'she' to 'he' and imagine the quote being hers....

You wouldn't get anywhere by looking at the other then, would you...
Take Lurkette's advice and talk to her, make a move, make two...
Just go past the ignorig stage...
Ask her out, or move on. But the game is played by both. push the situation in the way you want it to go. And don't stop because her reation isn't overly positive at first.
As long as she doesn't say 'no', go for it.
She might find a guy coming on to her a little scary, so she's holding you off a little.
(but only a little, you still have to push because she is interested...)

AfterBurn · 12-09-2003, 04:26 PM

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Originally posted by Silvy
Now change 'she' to 'he' and imagine the quote being hers....
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actually i usually take inititive and start a conversation but she never does, she doesnt even bother asking me anything ever even after i talked to her and make it obvious i dont mind talking

analog · 12-10-2003, 01:10 AM

I see she plays the same videogame this one chick at my work plays... it's available on the Gettin' Play Station and may soon be available on the Ex-Box, called Hard To Get: Mindfuck Deluxe.

Sarcasm aside, I agree with lurkette on this one. Fuckin TALK to each other! lol... what do you have to lose? You're not going anywhere NOW, so if you fuck it up or she's not really interested, what have you lost? All you've lost is the mind games she's playing on you, which i'm sure you WANT to lose. lol...

This has potential, but one of you needs to be able to step up to the plate and get the ball rolling. Don't move on until you're sure there's nothing there, because NOTHING... and I speak from personal experience here... NOTHING sucks quite like a lingering "what if".

Best of luck to you!

Sledge · 12-10-2003, 01:21 AM

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Originally posted by analog
I see she plays the same videogame this one chick at my work plays... it's available on the Gettin' Play Station and may soon be available on the Ex-Box, called Hard To Get: Mindfuck Deluxe.

That was amazing.

AfterBurn · 12-10-2003, 08:27 AM

All good points but thing is she asked some guy beside me if he could pick her up for something on the weekend, then when i totally ignored her and turned away she became all sad? what is this about?

lurkette · 12-10-2003, 08:49 AM

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Originally posted by AfterBurn
All good points but thing is she asked some guy beside me if he could pick her up for something on the weekend, then when i totally ignored her and turned away she became all sad? what is this about?

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WHY DON'T YOU ASK HER?!?

None of us has any idea what's going on in her head. Could be she's too shy to talk to you, could be she's a lunatic, could be she has no idea how to approach you. The only way you're going to find out is to TALK TO HER, point blank, frankly, honestly.

"Hi, I've noticed that we seem to be sending each other a lot of mixed signals, and I just want you to know that I like you a lot, and I wanted to find out what's going on for you?"

This is not rocket science.

Bloodslick · 12-10-2003, 08:52 AM

My misinformed, maladjusted take on things:

She's desperately tired of hearing you talk and wishes that, instead, you would pick her up, throw her over your shoulder and carry her off somewhere to be alone.

Strangely enough, this might actually be good advice. Some women enjoy that sort of thing.

(And that was hi-larious, analog.

)

-Anders · 12-10-2003, 09:28 AM

Yeah, there's nothing to discuss really, just go talk to eachother alright? And do it like right now.

Averett · 12-10-2003, 09:30 AM

These threads make my head explode.

AfterBurn · 12-10-2003, 12:08 PM

i was going to talk to her today but i got distracted and spent the whole time talking about something with a friend...i wanna talk to her but i sort of see the whole 'talking to another guy right besideme and never talking to me' thing as a blow off.

skysooner · 12-11-2003, 07:29 AM

She is playing a game with you. This may or may not mean she is interested. Many girls are just putting on an act to see how it effects guys in general. I never had a use for women who did this, so I wouldn't stay around. IMHO, it is best to be direct. Ask her out. If she says no, move on and don't give her another seconds thought. There are LOTS of women out there to waste time on someone who is just going through the motions.

analog · 12-11-2003, 10:19 AM

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Originally posted by AfterBurn
i sort of see the whole 'talking to another guy right besideme and never talking to me' thing as a blow off.

she wants you to get jealous and start talking to her so she'll stop talking to HIM!! *smacks his own forehead* Mindfuck Deluxe. Remember that.

AfterBurn · 12-11-2003, 10:39 AM

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Originally posted by analog
she wants you to get jealous and start talking to her so she'll stop talking to HIM!! *smacks his own forehead* Mindfuck Deluxe. Remember that.

this may be the case, but why doesnt she just talk to ME instead, where does it say that guys have to be the ones to initiate everything

AfterBurn · 12-11-2003, 10:42 AM

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Originally posted by skysooner
She is playing a game with you. This may or may not mean she is interested. Many girls are just putting on an act to see how it effects guys in general. I never had a use for women who did this, so I wouldn't stay around. IMHO, it is best to be direct. Ask her out. If she says no, move on and don't give her another seconds thought. There are LOTS of women out there to waste time on someone who is just going through the motions.

what did actively ignoring/avoiding her show then in this case?

12-09-2003, 03:26 PM	#1 (permalink)
AfterBurn Psycho	Move on? Again i appologize for my poor grammar, my main language is french, but ill try to keep things legible. A girl that was once interested in me and made it quite obvious is sending me mixed signals. Whenever i talk to her she seems nice and everything but sometimes totally ignores me, then i get mad and say forget it to myself and just totally ignore her by not looking at her or anything and just sitting away from her, making it quite obvious i dont want be near her. When i do this she gets sort of sad i guess and keeps looking at me and trying to be all flirty with her hair and something. But when i show her i like her it all reverts to the same old thing. Should i just move on and forget about anything thats happened or is she testing me or something? __________________ smoking weed everyday keeps the doctor away

12-09-2003, 03:34 PM	#2 (permalink)
Averett Is In Love Location: I'm workin' on it	Your signature says "Life is too short to be spent dwelling on the past" so... don't!! Just act normal! Don't be a jerk, talk to her when she talks to you. Don't be put off if she doesnt fall all over you or anything. Don't worry about her, she's being a silly little girl. But no offence, you're being a bit of a silly little boy too Just act normal towards her, don't make any efforts or anything. Soon things will even out. __________________ Absence is to love what wind is to fire. It extinguishes the small, it enkindles the great.

12-09-2003, 03:36 PM	#3 (permalink)
lurkette My future is coming on Moderator Emeritus Location: east of the sun and west of the moon	Oy. Would you two TALK TO EACH OTHER? Enough of this flirting and ignoring each other and trying to guess what each other is thinking. See if the following story makes you laugh: Girl ignores guy Guy gets mad and ignores girl Girl flirts with guy Guy perks up Girl ignores guy Would you two quit punishing each other and just talk? You're such dopes __________________ "If ten million people believe a foolish thing, it is still a foolish thing." - Anatole France

12-09-2003, 04:02 PM	#4 (permalink)
AfterBurn Psycho	this cycle has been going on for awhile now, i'm sure she noticies too and still continues to do the same thing, and she never talks to me so what am i supposed to think? __________________ smoking weed everyday keeps the doctor away

12-10-2003, 08:27 AM	#9 (permalink)
AfterBurn Psycho	All good points but thing is she asked some guy beside me if he could pick her up for something on the weekend, then when i totally ignored her and turned away she became all sad? what is this about? __________________ smoking weed everyday keeps the doctor away

12-10-2003, 01:10 AM	#7 (permalink)
analog Banned	I see she plays the same videogame this one chick at my work plays... it's available on the Gettin' Play Station and may soon be available on the Ex-Box, called Hard To Get: Mindfuck Deluxe. Sarcasm aside, I agree with lurkette on this one. Fuckin TALK to each other! lol... what do you have to lose? You're not going anywhere NOW, so if you fuck it up or she's not really interested, what have you lost? All you've lost is the mind games she's playing on you, which i'm sure you WANT to lose. lol... This has potential, but one of you needs to be able to step up to the plate and get the ball rolling. Don't move on until you're sure there's nothing there, because NOTHING... and I speak from personal experience here... NOTHING sucks quite like a lingering "what if". Best of luck to you!

12-10-2003, 08:52 AM	#11 (permalink)
Bloodslick Loser Location: a darkened back alley	My misinformed, maladjusted take on things: She's desperately tired of hearing you talk and wishes that, instead, you would pick her up, throw her over your shoulder and carry her off somewhere to be alone. Strangely enough, this might actually be good advice. Some women enjoy that sort of thing. (And that was hi-larious, analog. )

12-10-2003, 09:28 AM	#12 (permalink)
-Anders Custom title. Location: Denmark.	Yeah, there's nothing to discuss really, just go talk to eachother alright? And do it like right now. __________________ Signature 101

12-10-2003, 09:30 AM	#13 (permalink)
Averett Is In Love Location: I'm workin' on it	These threads make my head explode. __________________ Absence is to love what wind is to fire. It extinguishes the small, it enkindles the great.

12-10-2003, 12:08 PM	#14 (permalink)
AfterBurn Psycho	i was going to talk to her today but i got distracted and spent the whole time talking about something with a friend...i wanna talk to her but i sort of see the whole 'talking to another guy right besideme and never talking to me' thing as a blow off. __________________ smoking weed everyday keeps the doctor away

12-11-2003, 07:29 AM	#15 (permalink)
skysooner Registered User Location: Oklahoma	She is playing a game with you. This may or may not mean she is interested. Many girls are just putting on an act to see how it effects guys in general. I never had a use for women who did this, so I wouldn't stay around. IMHO, it is best to be direct. Ask her out. If she says no, move on and don't give her another seconds thought. There are LOTS of women out there to waste time on someone who is just going through the motions.