Shadowman

So, another thread from me about my misforgivings with women, or, should I say girls, because they certainly don't act like mature women. So I go to a party last nite, and theres a girl there I like, we're pretty huggy and friendly. Im sitting on the couch, with her sitting next to me, legs over my lap. She gets up to go get another drink and talk to some friends, and another girl that I don't know that well, sits next to me. We're talking for a bit, and she gets very friendly. She puts her head on my shoulders, and just lies there. After a while, she grabs my hand, puts it into her lap, and is holding my hands and caressing them with her fingers. Now, I haven't had this much affection for months, and having affection makes me go all stupid, but I controlled myself. Im not the kind of person to just 'lay' a girl for the sake of it, I thought something was actually developing here. Anyway, this girls holding me, stroking my hand and arm, putting my hand on her breast, and Im lapping it up, thinking 'Wow, somethings happening' and I was honestly, so happy at that moment. Then I had to go, my mate wanted to leave, that was all good. So I said to her, can I get your number and I'll give you a call. Then the bomb hit, she replies 'Uhm, no because Im sort of seeing someone'. My heart sank to my feet. This would all be OK if it was a friend, but this was someone I'd never really talked to, and she came onto me fairly strong (in my opinion). I got home, and was very peeved off (actually, to be honest, I cried...I was sick of being rejected, hurt all the time, bah...everyone knows the rest). So I chose the wrong girl. Who knows if anything would've eventuated with the first girl, but Im sure I wouldn't have been hurt by her. Why do girls do this, she didn't know me well, but insisted on getting close with me, then rejecting me like that? I don't get it, why do you girls play with our minds like that?

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lurkette

Honey, you're hanging out with the wrong people. The actions of drunk strangers of indeterminate mental and emotional stability should never be taken personally. You can't let yourself get so emotionally invested in people you don't really know. I'm sorry this girl hurt you - she sounds like a twit. If you're really interested in relationships and not in random hooking-up, try looking for people who share your interests and values, rather than pinning all your hopes on people you meet at parties. Join interest clubs, volunteer organizations, take classes, whatever. You need to know that all women aren't like this, whatever it might seem like right now, and that as painful as this was for you, it had nothing to do with you and everything to do with this girl's immaturity and thoughtlessness.

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Zorvox

Bad luck bro, I had the EXACT Same thing happen to me once.

They don't know what they missing out on man thats for sure... most guys go to parties to get laid these days, not to meet people, it's ridiculous.

Women are weird like this man, When it happend to me, it seemed that her "boyfriend" was just looking for a fight, so she found one.. I didn't do anything back to her and he saw so he decided to come over and kick me in the head, sure I got back up and fought back, but he got kicked out and so did his girl.

There are some women, who are just stupid.. some women who are just sluts, some women who are good genuine women.

Same with men..

You'll be right mate, just drift around for a while, don't go looking... it'll all just happen, it's called magic

rufgti

Very true about letting it happen. When you go looking, either nothing happens or shit happens.

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la petite moi

I totally agree with Lurkette. That girl is scummy for doing that. She's scummy for doing that to her SO, and to you. However, parties are never the best places to get to know someone to have a good strong relationship. And most girls that go and get drunk at a party are just feeling good and want someone to give it to them quick.

emphant

That was shitty of her.

It's okay though. Look at it like this - At least girls have some interest in you. You did the right thing though by asking. Good job! Now keep trying.

diddagirl

Wow...what a bitch. Those kind of girls piss me off, and make us look reaaaaally bad. Her b/f wasnt there, but she wanted attention so she moved in on you. Stay away from chicks like that.

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skysooner

I won't say it can't happen, but I never met someone I dated a second time at a club or a party where there was alcohol involved. It just seems it totally messes with people's sense of reasoning. I prefer meeting women in other places where there isn't such a premium placed on appearances. Yes, this has happened to me to, so it is pretty common.

Tiger69z

Dontcha hate it.

I'm in the same boat as you. I went to homecoming, slow danced and danced w/ this girl...i mean we were friends @ school, but it seemed like she was interested in me and i was interested in her. So when we danced that night i thought that something serious had happened. AFter the dance I went to an after party and didn't see her till monday (homecoming was saturday). Turns out she fucked another guy satuday night. Fucking had me so messed up mentally for two weeks.

Just the way it is. You have you smart girls, then you have "stupid"girls. (don't mean this in any offensive way ladies)

Good luck on finding a good woman bro.

Shadowman

I think Lurkette hit the nail on the head. Im not neccesarily pinning my hopes on parties, because I've been to many parties...hundreds, where I haven't picked up, and I've all but given up on picking up at parties. This was just a first for me really, and well, I took her bait, hook line and sinker. She lead me on, Im angry at her for that, what Im really angry about is the fact that a girl I liked was also cracking onto me, and I happened to take the wrong girl. Who knows what would've happened, but I guess my lesson is well learnt. Im feeling less furious now, but still hungover with the fact that things always turn out crap. So life goes on, and I guess I'll just go out, have fun and make the most of it! Thanku everyone who replied, you really did make me open my eyes, and rethink the situation.

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Rippley

Uhm...yeah, girls are odd sometimes. Has the chance passed with the first girl you mentioned, or is that being pursued? I know thats what I would do, instead of burning calories over some stranger...just my .02$

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Shadowman

Im not sure if the chance has passed, Im sure she saw us on the couch together, but the balls in her court now. If it works with her, I'll thank my lucky stars, but Im not going to wait on it. I'll get to see her this weekend, we'll see what happens!

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