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mojomasta · 11-10-2003, 11:18 PM

Ive been with my girlfriend for a little over 10 months now, and we have been sexually active for about 5 months. Its not that the sex is bad, its not that she isnt open to new things, its just that I have a much larger sex drive then her. I get jealous when I hear my buddies talk about all night sex sessions with their girlfriends. I mean, its not THAT bad, we have sex probably three or four times a week (we dont live together), but I just cant seem to get enough of it.

I can tell she enjoys it, and I dont have a hard time getting her off. I just wish we could do it more often. I have strong feelings for her, and Im not affraid to talk to her about my emotions, I make it clear that I love her (I really do), so all this isnt about "using her" for sex.

Can anyone give me any advice? Is there anything I can do (without going behind her back and slipping her a pill) to possibly up her sex drive? Shes on birth control, and I know this can cause a lower sex drive.

Or am I just a sex addict? Maybe Im the one who should look into doing something about it for myself.

bermuDa · 11-10-2003, 11:47 PM

people's sex drives differ... you can't really convince her to satisfy your desires if she doesn't want to. don't beg for it either, just drop those subtle hints that you'd love it if she'd etc etc.

GakFace · 11-11-2003, 02:47 AM

3 to 4 times a week and you don't live together? I'm impressed already.

analog · 11-11-2003, 02:54 AM

perhaps more foreplay is in order. despite the fact that you can get her off easily, she may feel like you don't spend enough time stoking the oven. if you're already getting her off and not doing enough foreplay, you could make her get off a million times better by first heating her up to the point of explosion.

That, and people just operate differently. Take it with a grain of salt, and NEVER push the issue or it'll get worse.

mojomasta · 11-11-2003, 03:58 AM

Heh, foreplay isnt really a problem either, I almost enjoy foreplay more then the sex itself.

I guess there isnt really much I can do about it, really. I suppose I shouldnt really complain.

Thanks for your input.

absorbentishe · 11-11-2003, 06:35 AM

Just wait till your married for a while, and have children. I can not have enough even though it's 3-4 times a week. My wife always says she wants more, but she's too tired, yatayatayata... Enjoy what you've got, and how much you get it.

skysooner · 11-11-2003, 06:51 AM

3 to 4 times a week is actually pretty good. However, many times the issue is not physical it is emotional. Meet her emotional needs and oftentimes you will find her meeting your physical needs (which suprisingly have become her physical needs). What I mean by this is spend quality time with her where you aren't having sex. This doesn't mean watching tv together, but sit down and really talk (and it doesn't have to be serious). Just remember that women love to talk about their problems. They want empathy and not necessarily solutions. Talk about her day with her. Give her a little back rub with no expectations (and in fact you should do it when there is no chance of having sex).

Jim Kata · 11-11-2003, 07:23 AM

Try "setting the mood", candles, massage, take a bath together. Shit like that. She may just be bored with the same ole same ole.
God I miss the days of getting 3 or 4 times a week...minimum.

Smoey · 11-11-2003, 07:50 AM

ask her about her fantacies(spelling error), and maybe she will want to fullfill some of your and vice versus

Nazggul · 11-11-2003, 09:03 AM

Yah, spend some time being creative. Set up situations that are seductive.

vveronica · 11-11-2003, 09:09 AM

bring that big hard muscle over here... shes crazy....
heheheh well I guess my sex drive doesnt have a problem...
yeahhhhh!!!! seriously though.... man you have a problem and all i can say is get a playboy magazine.

ledzep · 11-11-2003, 07:59 PM

could be a sex addict? i dont know. youl calm down. ive been with my g/f for about 8 months. over the summer we couldnt get enough of it. we would go at it 2 times a day, everyday. now we limit it to about like once or twice a month, and let me tell you... it is the best sex you can ever get. dont do it often, it ruins ya. me and my g/f still give eachother oral and all that like everyday. its great.

11-10-2003, 11:18 PM	#1 (permalink)
mojomasta Upright Location: Quebec canada	I want more sex then she does Ive been with my girlfriend for a little over 10 months now, and we have been sexually active for about 5 months. Its not that the sex is bad, its not that she isnt open to new things, its just that I have a much larger sex drive then her. I get jealous when I hear my buddies talk about all night sex sessions with their girlfriends. I mean, its not THAT bad, we have sex probably three or four times a week (we dont live together), but I just cant seem to get enough of it. I can tell she enjoys it, and I dont have a hard time getting her off. I just wish we could do it more often. I have strong feelings for her, and Im not affraid to talk to her about my emotions, I make it clear that I love her (I really do), so all this isnt about "using her" for sex. Can anyone give me any advice? Is there anything I can do (without going behind her back and slipping her a pill) to possibly up her sex drive? Shes on birth control, and I know this can cause a lower sex drive. Or am I just a sex addict? Maybe Im the one who should look into doing something about it for myself. __________________ Its the nexus of the crisis and the origin of storm.

11-10-2003, 11:47 PM	#2 (permalink)
bermuDa don't ignore this--> Location: CA	people's sex drives differ... you can't really convince her to satisfy your desires if she doesn't want to. don't beg for it either, just drop those subtle hints that you'd love it if she'd etc etc. __________________ I am the very model of a moderator gentleman.

11-11-2003, 02:47 AM	#3 (permalink)
GakFace Go Ninja, Go Ninja Go!! Location: IN, USA	3 to 4 times a week and you don't live together? I'm impressed already. __________________ RoboBlaster: Welcome to the club! Not that I'm in the club. And there really isn'a a club in the first place. But if there was a club and if I was in it, I would definitely welcome you to it.

11-11-2003, 03:58 AM	#5 (permalink)
mojomasta Upright Location: Quebec canada	Heh, foreplay isnt really a problem either, I almost enjoy foreplay more then the sex itself. I guess there isnt really much I can do about it, really. I suppose I shouldnt really complain. Thanks for your input. __________________ Its the nexus of the crisis and the origin of storm.

11-11-2003, 09:03 AM	#10 (permalink)
Nazggul Psycho Location: San Francisco	Yah, spend some time being creative. Set up situations that are seductive. __________________ "If something has to give then it always will." -- Editors

11-11-2003, 02:54 AM	#4 (permalink)
analog Banned	perhaps more foreplay is in order. despite the fact that you can get her off easily, she may feel like you don't spend enough time stoking the oven. if you're already getting her off and not doing enough foreplay, you could make her get off a million times better by first heating her up to the point of explosion. That, and people just operate differently. Take it with a grain of salt, and NEVER push the issue or it'll get worse.

11-11-2003, 06:35 AM	#6 (permalink)
absorbentishe Boy am I horny today Location: T O L E D O, Toledo!!	Just wait till your married for a while, and have children. I can not have enough even though it's 3-4 times a week. My wife always says she wants more, but she's too tired, yatayatayata... Enjoy what you've got, and how much you get it.

11-11-2003, 06:51 AM	#7 (permalink)
skysooner Registered User Location: Oklahoma	3 to 4 times a week is actually pretty good. However, many times the issue is not physical it is emotional. Meet her emotional needs and oftentimes you will find her meeting your physical needs (which suprisingly have become her physical needs). What I mean by this is spend quality time with her where you aren't having sex. This doesn't mean watching tv together, but sit down and really talk (and it doesn't have to be serious). Just remember that women love to talk about their problems. They want empathy and not necessarily solutions. Talk about her day with her. Give her a little back rub with no expectations (and in fact you should do it when there is no chance of having sex).

11-11-2003, 07:23 AM	#8 (permalink)
Jim Kata Swollen Member Location: Northern VA	Try "setting the mood", candles, massage, take a bath together. Shit like that. She may just be bored with the same ole same ole. God I miss the days of getting 3 or 4 times a week...minimum.

11-11-2003, 07:50 AM	#9 (permalink)
Smoey Upright	ask her about her fantacies(spelling error), and maybe she will want to fullfill some of your and vice versus

11-11-2003, 09:09 AM	#11 (permalink)
vveronica Psycho Location: northern california	bring that big hard muscle over here... shes crazy.... heheheh well I guess my sex drive doesnt have a problem... yeahhhhh!!!! seriously though.... man you have a problem and all i can say is get a playboy magazine. __________________ ...We find ourselves in a struggle for our very right to exsist... We will not go quietly into the night... We will not give up without a fight...

11-11-2003, 07:59 PM	#12 (permalink)
ledzep Upright	could be a sex addict? i dont know. youl calm down. ive been with my g/f for about 8 months. over the summer we couldnt get enough of it. we would go at it 2 times a day, everyday. now we limit it to about like once or twice a month, and let me tell you... it is the best sex you can ever get. dont do it often, it ruins ya. me and my g/f still give eachother oral and all that like everyday. its great.