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Old 10-10-2003, 11:55 AM   #1 (permalink)
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3rd base play is ok -- but Orgasm makes her regret the session

There's this girl I know who has 'partial' sex with her bf.
They go as far as 3rd base, but nothing more.

The girl doesn't really initiate foreplay, so the bf starts it always.
Now the thing is, she's ok with making out and specially 2nd base..
but when 3rd base happens -- and she gets reaches orgasm...
and they stop....

she goes weird and distant on the bf, and the guy feels that he did some disservice (although it was a service!)! Like he did something wrong, and she's regretting the whole session.

Note though that the girl doesn't stop or avoid the sex...
she just doesn't initiate it, or "appreciate" the orgasm.


Can anyone 'explain' or say something enlightening about the whole thing?
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Old 10-10-2003, 11:57 AM   #2 (permalink)
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.... maybe she's nuts because

.... she's a girl

Some people are just screwy if your involved with one maybe you shouldn't be.
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Old 10-10-2003, 12:12 PM   #3 (permalink)
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Or maybe she's really a guy, that sounds like a guy thing to do right after orgasm.

Sorry, couldnt resist that

Maybe she feels guilty about her sexuality, some people do? Past issues, childhood bad experience etc.
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Old 10-10-2003, 12:16 PM   #4 (permalink)
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Yeah, he should talk to her, ask her if there is something she wants to talk about.
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Old 10-10-2003, 12:25 PM   #5 (permalink)
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This sounds like a social stigma that is implanted in her brain either by religion or parents. I have experience with dealing with this situation. It's all mental, of course.

It's up to her to progress out of this. If she wants to enjoy without regret, then practice makes perfect. Also, boyfriend needs to be MEGA-UNDERSTANDING about this. If she is not into it, though, it will never happen.
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Old 10-10-2003, 12:42 PM   #6 (permalink)
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I totally agree with Halx about this. I dated this one girl who was basically a prude until one day we got in the hot tub and she blew me on the side of the tub and we had sex there. She was totally into it. A few weeks later she was staying over at my house for the first time, and we had sex in my bed. She told me she knew that was the only reason I invited her over. She was basically a psycho due to her strict religious upbringing. If she had enough redeeming qualities I would have stayed with her, but alas she didn't. I ended up marrying my next girlfriend who was a virgin until our wedding day and pretty much psycho about sex for a few months afterwards.
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Old 10-10-2003, 01:40 PM   #7 (permalink)
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How about the Girls? anything to say?

And yeah.. the girl is pretty much religious (though she's not the 'catholic' who goes giving blowjobs).. and closed/attached to her family; fear of pregnancy, etc

BF kinda thinks that maybe when she finds sex more comfortable.. say when marriage comes along or something else to make her comfortable about sex... that'll be the only time
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Old 10-10-2003, 01:44 PM   #8 (permalink)
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Old 10-10-2003, 01:45 PM   #9 (permalink)
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I've dated women like this and I've dumped them.
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Old 10-10-2003, 02:06 PM   #10 (permalink)
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Guilt induced by whatever.

I dated a girl for awhile back in college who was exactly the same way. She was HOT until the end, feeling me up, letting me feel her up and then BAM! The guilt started that she actually enjoyed (near) sex with someone not her husband.

In this case, she was a strict Baptist and couldn't consolidate her feelings with her upbringing.
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Old 10-10-2003, 04:41 PM   #11 (permalink)
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I took a virgin (STRICT) Mormon girl who would blush and tell you not to be crude if you used the WORD "sex" in a sentence, let alone talk about the topic itself and turned her into a total sexaholic nympho. It can happen. It takes time- it takes PATIENCE- it takes understanding (and in my case, actual love ). Go slow. TALK. Really.

In your case, she most likely was taught at an early age that sex is bad, it's dirty, etc., more specifically that sex purely for pleasure and not for procreation (read: religious nuts) was wrong or bad or dirty or slutty, etc.
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Old 10-10-2003, 05:32 PM   #12 (permalink)
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This sounds like a social stigma that is implanted in her brain either by religion or parents. I have experience with dealing with this situation. It's all mental, of course.

It's up to her to progress out of this. If she wants to enjoy without regret, then practice makes perfect. Also, boyfriend needs to be MEGA-UNDERSTANDING about this. If she is not into it, though, it will never happen.
Bingo!! When I get involved with a girl like that I'm running in the opposite direction as fast as I can. I don't have enough time in my day to deal with a mental patient.
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Old 10-10-2003, 09:58 PM   #13 (permalink)
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It could be she's in a religion or something.
coud be a religious belief.
There are so many religious beliefs out there and some of 'em our kinda whacky in my opinion. I don't like the part of a religion when they show discrimination against a group/sex/race/emotions. Maybe religion has gone far enough as to prohibiting you to orgasm.

What is this world coming to!!!?
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Old 10-12-2003, 09:50 AM   #14 (permalink)
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she could've been molested as a child...

just a thought.
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Old 10-12-2003, 10:37 AM   #15 (permalink)
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The boyfriend probably ought to try a different track altogether. Talk, talk, talk, and more talk. Then, perhaps he could start with the sexy talk, and if that goes well, he might suggest mutual masterbation.
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Old 10-12-2003, 04:38 PM   #16 (permalink)
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i dated a girl like this once...she didnt want me to touch her "down there". so i respected that and didnt try to push the envelope. i found out later she got molested by her stepdad when she was younger makes you wish you could have done something to prevent it *sigh*
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Old 10-12-2003, 11:20 PM   #17 (permalink)
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Seems kinda strange, but I'm going to award this woman/story... hmm.... i'd say about a 2.5 on the "weird-o-meter"

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Old 10-13-2003, 09:14 PM   #18 (permalink)
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As a marginally trained psych major, this sounds very much like she has a belief that causes a guilt response with the antecedent being an orgasm with another person (anything approximating sex).

The first thing to do is talk about it, if she doesn't want this belief to change, no attempt should be made to change it.

If she does want it to change, then ideally one should go to a psychologist (sp?) and draw up a self-behavior modification plan, then implement it.

If you must be cheap about it, the get a psychology text on behavior modification, read it until you understand it, read it some more, and draft up a b-mod plan yourself, then read the text some more, and safety-check your plan. BE CAREFUL, this is a mind you are playing with.

I am not a doctor, and am not liable.
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Old 10-14-2003, 06:02 AM   #19 (permalink)
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I once was dating a girl that would get so into making out that she would beg for me to have sex with her while making out but then as we got closer to doing it (like naked in a missionary position) she would change her mind and say things like she was scared God would strike her down for having sex before marriage. Needless to say that relationship did not last too long.
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