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Old 09-18-2003, 01:44 AM   #1 (permalink)
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Surfing through old Dan Savage columns and I found this one-

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My mom taught me that striking a woman is something you just don't do under any circumstances. However, while I was being intimate with a female coworker, I made a joke that she reacted to quite negatively. She is a very loud, chatty person by nature, and while she was performing oral sex on me I said, "I finally found a way to shut you up!" She proceeded to bite my penis very hard, on the side, corncob-style. It hurt so much that I reflexively slapped her. I was trying to get my penis out from between her teeth! Needless to say, she left immediately and things have been icy at work. I feel awful that I hit a woman, Dan, but she drew blood! Do I owe her an apology?
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No, you don't owe her an apology. While I generally agree with your mother--men shouldn't strike women--all bets are off when a woman bites down on a man's penis so hard that she draws blood. I imagine your mother didn't anticipate this particular circumstance when she taught you not to strike a woman. It's too bad your mother didn't teach you not to make jokes at the expense of a person who happens to have your penis between her teeth.
Ouch- I think I feel for the guy, it would have been an apology worthy comment, probably still is, but biting down like that is pretty harsh. The thing is, I can almost see that as a comment I might make. As far as hitting her, I think in a case like this, it was justified.
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Old 09-18-2003, 04:51 AM   #2 (permalink)
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This guy deserved it.

What idiot is going to say something like that to a girl in that position? I'd bite down too
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Old 09-18-2003, 04:52 AM   #3 (permalink)
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Belittling a woman who is honoring you with an intimate act is asking for it.

There are times when it's best to just shut up, lay back, and enjoy!

As for her reaction, biting down lead to very little confusion as to her feelings on the matter.

IMHO, she was justified.
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Old 09-18-2003, 05:02 AM   #4 (permalink)
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I dunno about being justified in drawing blood. It was a comment made in jest (I believe), and if she didn't like it she was certainly justified in stopping or giving a light nip. Biting hard enough to draw blood is grounds for an assault case, and it has to be a pretty horrible fuckin' joke to warrant that kind of reaction.
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Old 09-18-2003, 05:11 AM   #5 (permalink)
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Double ouch -- this kind of statement is just plain demeaning to woman. However, her reaction was a little excessive. They are obviously not meant to be together. I'm glad she left and never came back.
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Old 09-18-2003, 05:13 AM   #6 (permalink)
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Yeah, I wouldnt really bite down.... But I'd sure as hell stop, smack him upside the head, and get the hell out of there.
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Old 09-18-2003, 05:21 AM   #7 (permalink)
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I dont know man... biting someones penis is pretty harsh *quivers*. I understand that she was pissed, and rightly so, but its not right to inflict bodily harm like that. I think it would have been fair for her to stop and slap the guy or something.
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Old 09-18-2003, 05:38 AM   #8 (permalink)
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If someone bit me hard enough it is possible that my survival instinct might kick in and it is possible that I might hit someone...

It would not be an act of the rational mind.
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Old 09-18-2003, 05:51 AM   #9 (permalink)
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There are some girls that like being talked down to...she was out of line.

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Old 09-18-2003, 06:08 AM   #10 (permalink)
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She certainly was not justified in biting him over a joke, any more than a man would be justified in hitting a woman (or another man) over a joke, no matter how tasteless. As for him hitting her, I don't really feel that it was justified, but I think it's probably going to be a common reaction when a man thinks his penis is about to get bit off...
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Old 09-18-2003, 07:10 AM   #11 (permalink)
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Y'know, I've always believed that it's not right to hit a lady, but it's perfectly acceptable to smack a bitch. (How's that for women's rights? I'm a perfectly equal-opportunity bitch-slapper.)

Ladies (AND gentlemen) don't do anything worthy of being smacked. It's that simple.
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Old 09-18-2003, 07:41 AM   #12 (permalink)
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i'd just kick him in the shins instead :-D
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Old 09-18-2003, 07:46 AM   #13 (permalink)
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dumbass for making the joke in a comprising situation.
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Old 09-18-2003, 08:25 AM   #14 (permalink)
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Old 09-18-2003, 09:01 AM   #15 (permalink)
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Anyone who makes a joke like that in that situation doesn't deserve a dick. I'm surprised she didn't bite it clean off.
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Old 09-18-2003, 09:18 AM   #16 (permalink)
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Old 09-18-2003, 09:20 AM   #17 (permalink)
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The joke was bad, and so was the biting. You both goofed.
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Old 09-18-2003, 09:24 AM   #18 (permalink)
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she was wrong.
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Old 09-18-2003, 09:27 AM   #19 (permalink)
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Yeah it was stupid of him to make that joke--especially considering his dick was in her mouth--but she didn't have the right to assault him because of it. He did, however, have the right to defend himself. She's lucky she just got slapped. It's an instinctive reaction to fight back when you are attacked and it could have easily gotten more violent than that.
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Old 09-18-2003, 12:02 PM   #20 (permalink)
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I wouldn't have slapped I would have punched, YOU DONT BITE A MANS PENIS HARD ENOUGHT TO BLEED!! especially over a joke. btw I have never hit a woman, and I never will, also I would never make a joke like that i'm just saying you bite my penis hard enought to bleed you get punched.
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Old 09-18-2003, 12:12 PM   #21 (permalink)
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hahahahah.

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Old 09-18-2003, 12:25 PM   #22 (permalink)
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Any woman that uses teeth during a bj deserves to be called to attention. The severity of that call will depend on how hard she uses her teeth.

According to this she would have gotten punch and then kicked while she was down ...
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Old 09-18-2003, 12:44 PM   #23 (permalink)
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I believe it might have been possible that she accidently bit him too hard, but it isn't fair that guys like him take all the blowjobs away from me.
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Old 09-18-2003, 04:03 PM   #24 (permalink)
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Neither of them were justified in their actions.
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Old 09-18-2003, 04:16 PM   #25 (permalink)
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No, she was not justified in biting him, but to hit her only makes it three times wrong. What moron to say that!!! Personally, I probably would have slapped him, and left. That's bullshit to say something like that, especially when someone is in a vulnerable position. I almost take it back - she might have been justified in biting him.
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Old 09-18-2003, 04:25 PM   #26 (permalink)
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Anyone who knowingly attempts to bring harm to the favorite protruding organ of someone 50-150 lbs heavier, with a lot more muscle and a known gender-tendency to use violence in defense of oneself, really can't expect not to get hit.

If my penis is in peril, I would defend it and then file a police report/charges.
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Old 09-18-2003, 04:58 PM   #27 (permalink)
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he should work on his timing
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Old 09-18-2003, 05:33 PM   #28 (permalink)
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Yes, he was wrong for sayin' it.
Yes, she was wrong for doing it.
Yes, he was wrong for doing it, but at the same time it was understandable considering the pain.
Yes, he should apologize.
Yes, she should apologize.
No, I doubt he'll ever get any again from her.
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Old 09-18-2003, 05:35 PM   #29 (permalink)
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The way I see it, if you're dumb enough to say something that stupid while someone has their teeth/sharp object near your genitals, you deserve what's coming. Darwinism at its best.
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Old 09-18-2003, 09:30 PM   #30 (permalink)
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Wonder if either of them learned anything from this...
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Old 09-18-2003, 10:52 PM   #31 (permalink)
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She should have punched him.
but THE BITE is a nasty badass attack. LOL
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Old 09-19-2003, 12:43 AM   #32 (permalink)
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Old 09-19-2003, 05:22 AM   #33 (permalink)
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You guys have hashed out all the main things about this story.... I just found it a little funny the way the question was worded.

One day while my coworker was giving me head....

Not "girl from work I've been seeing" or "fuck-buddy from work". "Coworker".

I don't know about you, but none of my coworkers give me head in the normal course of things.

I d'know, it just struck me funny.
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Old 09-19-2003, 08:31 AM   #34 (permalink)
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I might stay at a job longer if that was one of the benefits. Screw the company car insurance plan, I want the Blow job plan!
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Old 09-19-2003, 09:20 AM   #35 (permalink)
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he must've confused his lame joke with friendly blowjob banter by the water-cooler
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Old 09-19-2003, 09:26 AM   #36 (permalink)
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you're lucky she doesn't try to claim you raped her.
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Old 09-19-2003, 12:32 PM   #37 (permalink)
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I would say you both crossed the line first why would you say that when she is being good to you and no women should bite if she was not hit first now after you hit her all is fare
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Old 09-19-2003, 12:55 PM   #38 (permalink)
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Um yeah the guy was out of line, even if he was joking...I'm assuming they must be familiar enough that he can crack a joke though, I mean she was sucking his dick after all.

Her biting his dick was not justified...maybe we all forget a little nursery rhyme:

sticks and bones will break my bones...
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Old 09-19-2003, 03:26 PM   #39 (permalink)
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Wow, the funny thing is, me and my gf have a relationship that is based on jokes alot of the time, i make so many jokes to tease her, but i make her feel good just as much, so it balances out, but from one angle, i totally could see myself saying something like that, but on the other hand, d00d, shes giving you a blowjob, a BLOWJOB, when i get those, i keep MY mouth shut, i dont complain, i dont tell her stuff she doesnt want to hear, she has got your manhood in her mouth, and not to mention, girls dont really get too much enjoyment out of sucking dick. shes doing it for you. so... that was probably one of the comments i would just keep to myself and my buddies in the garage when were sitting around drinkin beer and makin jokes......
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Old 09-19-2003, 03:39 PM   #40 (permalink)
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Ouuuuuch man... I would smack a fist in her face if I made a joke and she bit my penis. Imagine you were going down on a girl and she said something similar, would you chew her clit off? Come on people, rub a couple brain cells together!

You get up, smack him in the face and leave.
or, You get up, and leave her alone.
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