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REDL|NE · 09-12-2003, 01:05 PM

Heres my situation:

Ive had sex maybe 10-15 times and everytime i cant come from intercouse....I usually go for about 20-25 min then go limp, its the most fustrating thing in the world. I know people say just relax and have a good time. I do that, but still no dice.

Heres the scary part....im only 18 facking years old. After about 10-15 min i can pull out and masturbate while kissing her and i can come in 20-30 seconds, but i can never come just from intercourse, i need to finish myself off.

Maybe there is nothing wrong with that, but i feel sometimes the girl thinks she is doing something wrong, when its not her.

Same thing goes for when getting head.

Any suggestions? Should i go see a doctor or take some viagra or something? Im open to any and all suggestions, any help is extremely appreciated.

Thanks for your time.

Shokan · 09-12-2003, 01:31 PM

What do you think about when you masterbate?

Try thinking about that when having sex or getting head.

micah67 · 09-12-2003, 01:42 PM

How often do you masturbate? Try refraining for several days prior to intercourse - get the pump primed...

The.Lunatic · 09-12-2003, 01:55 PM

practice dog. Don't worry about it you've got no idea how many people have sextual "problems". Anyways I can't come when she's on top or even usually when getting head "usually" she got better. But when i'm doing the thrusting its easy. Doen't mean it doesn't feel good other times, but you don't come. Its ingrained into your instincts to thrust in a way that will bring you to come. Just don't think about it. Tell her about this. Some day you can

Johnny Rotten · 09-12-2003, 02:01 PM

If you start masturbating when you hit puberty as most are wont to do, your brain will be wired to a certain extent so that you'll only get off when you stimulate yourself manually. You stick that thing in a hole and work it around, your brain doesn't make the association right away, even though humans have been bumping uglies for hundreds of thousands of years.

You have to un-learn your subconscious sexual associations, and that won't happen right away.

Rlyss · 09-12-2003, 04:03 PM

Same problem I've got REDL|NE, check out my thread 'No orgasm during sex'.

Looks like you and me both have to quit masturbating

Johnny Rotten · 09-12-2003, 04:37 PM

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Originally posted by Dorito2

Looks like you and me both have to quit masturbating

Well, it's not masturbating that's the problem, it's using masturbation as your sole sexual outlet for an extended period of time before you have your first sexual experience with someone else.

Flesh · 09-12-2003, 04:48 PM

yeah my friend has this too. but i like to make fun of his girl by saying she sucks in bed

(not the good kind of sucks mind you)

jbrooks544 · 09-12-2003, 06:46 PM

flesh could have something there... Maybe this girl doesn't turn you on. When you do come off, do you fantasize about anything. If so, try to do that fantasy in real life to get off. If you don't then it is a physical stimulation problem - you have trained yourself to only come off in your hand. How about when she is on top? sometimes if I'm tired or drunk i can go for hours on top with no come. Then I have her climb on top and I'm done in half a minute. You can "untrain" yourself. If nothing else works then I suggest that you don't jerk yourself off at all - not even after your lovemaking sessions. Just fake come if you don't want to draw attention to yourself with her. If you don't jerk off on your own time or after servicing her then I bet it won't take a week or two before you blast your load and get past your minor problem.

Plan9Senior · 09-12-2003, 07:42 PM

That seems very odd at 18. Do you have any guilt associated with sex? I even find it strange that at only your 10-15 time having sex and you last 25 mins. Best of luck to ya.

anleja · 09-12-2003, 08:48 PM

Some people do things to prolong their sex by thinking of things like baseball stats. Maybe you should lay off the baseball stats. Just kidding. Maybe deep down you are thinking of pregnancy, which could be a turn-off. Is she on the pill?

That's my input. Everyone here seems to have different ideas, I hope one of them works for you.

Oh, and I wouldn't consider this anything "seriously" wrong. If it something mental, as this probably is, nothing is seriously wrong until you start believing it is wrong. Everyone is different, I'm sure you'll, uh, reach your goal.

Smashingbanana · 09-12-2003, 09:04 PM

best of luck to you man.. hey just keep practising..you will get it trust me..

eci · 09-13-2003, 09:36 AM

Yup, practice makes perfect

Jack Ruby · 09-13-2003, 10:57 AM

I'm your age and I'm having the exact same problem :/

I think the problem is tension. You're just not relaxed enough somehow - and I've found a great way to get rid of tension is by trying out new and silly things in bed. Don't take things too seriously and keep experimenting with different positions and ways to stimulate both you and your gf... It (and you) will come eventually. I hope.

Ganguro · 09-13-2003, 01:09 PM

yeah my girlfriend and I had that problem for a while when we started having sex..
relax.. it's not THAT important..
it'll happen when you least expect it (just be sure to wear a condom)

09-12-2003, 01:05 PM	#1 (permalink)
REDL\|NE Crazy	Something is seriously wrong with me Heres my situation: Ive had sex maybe 10-15 times and everytime i cant come from intercouse....I usually go for about 20-25 min then go limp, its the most fustrating thing in the world. I know people say just relax and have a good time. I do that, but still no dice. Heres the scary part....im only 18 facking years old. After about 10-15 min i can pull out and masturbate while kissing her and i can come in 20-30 seconds, but i can never come just from intercourse, i need to finish myself off. Maybe there is nothing wrong with that, but i feel sometimes the girl thinks she is doing something wrong, when its not her. Same thing goes for when getting head. Any suggestions? Should i go see a doctor or take some viagra or something? Im open to any and all suggestions, any help is extremely appreciated. Thanks for your time.

09-12-2003, 01:31 PM	#2 (permalink)
Shokan Addict Location: Canada	What do you think about when you masterbate? Try thinking about that when having sex or getting head. __________________ Legalize it.

09-12-2003, 01:42 PM	#3 (permalink)
micah67 Thor Location: 33:08:12N 117:10:23W	How often do you masturbate? Try refraining for several days prior to intercourse - get the pump primed... __________________ ~micah

09-12-2003, 01:55 PM	#4 (permalink)
The.Lunatic Psycho Location: Somewhere just beyond the realm of sanity...	practice dog. Don't worry about it you've got no idea how many people have sextual "problems". Anyways I can't come when she's on top or even usually when getting head "usually" she got better. But when i'm doing the thrusting its easy. Doen't mean it doesn't feel good other times, but you don't come. Its ingrained into your instincts to thrust in a way that will bring you to come. Just don't think about it. Tell her about this. Some day you can __________________ Proud memeber of the Insomniac Club.

09-12-2003, 02:01 PM	#5 (permalink)
Johnny Rotten lost and found Location: Berkeley	If you start masturbating when you hit puberty as most are wont to do, your brain will be wired to a certain extent so that you'll only get off when you stimulate yourself manually. You stick that thing in a hole and work it around, your brain doesn't make the association right away, even though humans have been bumping uglies for hundreds of thousands of years. You have to un-learn your subconscious sexual associations, and that won't happen right away. __________________ "The idea that money doesn't buy you happiness is a lie put about by the rich, to stop the poor from killing them." -- Michael Caine

09-12-2003, 04:03 PM	#6 (permalink)
Rlyss The Pusher Location: Edinburgh	Same problem I've got REDL\|NE, check out my thread 'No orgasm during sex'. Looks like you and me both have to quit masturbating

09-12-2003, 04:48 PM	#8 (permalink)
Flesh Psycho	yeah my friend has this too. but i like to make fun of his girl by saying she sucks in bed (not the good kind of sucks mind you)

09-12-2003, 06:46 PM	#9 (permalink)
jbrooks544 Addict	flesh could have something there... Maybe this girl doesn't turn you on. When you do come off, do you fantasize about anything. If so, try to do that fantasy in real life to get off. If you don't then it is a physical stimulation problem - you have trained yourself to only come off in your hand. How about when she is on top? sometimes if I'm tired or drunk i can go for hours on top with no come. Then I have her climb on top and I'm done in half a minute. You can "untrain" yourself. If nothing else works then I suggest that you don't jerk yourself off at all - not even after your lovemaking sessions. Just fake come if you don't want to draw attention to yourself with her. If you don't jerk off on your own time or after servicing her then I bet it won't take a week or two before you blast your load and get past your minor problem.

09-12-2003, 07:42 PM	#10 (permalink)
Plan9Senior Banned Location: Orange County, California	That seems very odd at 18. Do you have any guilt associated with sex? I even find it strange that at only your 10-15 time having sex and you last 25 mins. Best of luck to ya.

09-12-2003, 08:48 PM	#11 (permalink)
anleja disconnected Location: ignoreland	Some people do things to prolong their sex by thinking of things like baseball stats. Maybe you should lay off the baseball stats. Just kidding. Maybe deep down you are thinking of pregnancy, which could be a turn-off. Is she on the pill? That's my input. Everyone here seems to have different ideas, I hope one of them works for you. Oh, and I wouldn't consider this anything "seriously" wrong. If it something mental, as this probably is, nothing is seriously wrong until you start believing it is wrong. Everyone is different, I'm sure you'll, uh, reach your goal.

09-12-2003, 09:04 PM	#12 (permalink)
Smashingbanana Upright Location: Regina	best of luck to you man.. hey just keep practising..you will get it trust me.. __________________ Life's a bitch, and then ya die...

09-13-2003, 09:36 AM	#13 (permalink)
eci Tilted Location: UK	Yup, practice makes perfect

09-13-2003, 10:57 AM	#14 (permalink)
Jack Ruby Psycho Location: Belgium	I'm your age and I'm having the exact same problem :/ I think the problem is tension. You're just not relaxed enough somehow - and I've found a great way to get rid of tension is by trying out new and silly things in bed. Don't take things too seriously and keep experimenting with different positions and ways to stimulate both you and your gf... It (and you) will come eventually. I hope. __________________ You don't know what you don't know.

09-13-2003, 01:09 PM	#15 (permalink)
Ganguro Army of Me	yeah my girlfriend and I had that problem for a while when we started having sex.. relax.. it's not THAT important.. it'll happen when you least expect it (just be sure to wear a condom)