And, for my first post in a long time, I will say that I went down on a girl two or three weeks ago that pulled me up and said (and I quote) "I don't like that, I want your hand." I was in shock.

I realized then that maybe that's where my talents were, after she said (again, direct quote) "where did you learn that?" Then, she failed to do anything other than a handjob, and because I was drunk off of Kentucky Gentleman (not only a title appropriate to me, but a cheap whiskey) she couldn't get me off. I was a bit pissed, and weirded out.

I'm not too big on giving or receiving. When giving, my jaw just hurts and I feel foolish. When receiving, I feel like I'm being examined and I'm just not comfortable with it. Then again, it could be my poor self-image.

I love giving my bf bjs but receiving can be quite uncomfortable initially. It all depends on the mood I suppose :lol:

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Giving is one of my favorite pleasures. Receiving... well, it took me a while. I'm just too sub to have enjoyed it for the longest time. Hubby had to literally pin me and take away the choice - my first few mind-blowing orgasms from receiving were under "duress". Not something I would recommend when the relationship is new, though. Hubby knew me well enough to know what I needed, and was happy to oblige... :D I do go through my dom times, and can demand it on occasion (or Cleopatra can, anyway...) *g*

What is the deal with "no hands?" :confused: Not every man is the same, of course, but experimentation tells me that most of my guys (past and present) cocks have responded most strongly to a mix of oral with handjob and breast play. I know that sometimes in porn I see the guy pushing the girl's hand away from his cock, but I thought that was just because of the camera. To keep the hand from "upstaging" the mighty dick.
Do you guys really not like hands???? I LOVE the feel of a hard cock in my hands! And then my mouth is free to kiss, nipple nibble and to explore other areas. ;)
Lindy

Somebody with more experience please tell me. Should this subject start a separate thread?

no hands ;)

I like giving. I'm not always comfortable with recieving, not sure why.

sweetpea

I have never received, and yet my feelings towards that sort of thing are less favorable than indifference. So I suppose that my preference as such is destined to remain the same.

Being the perpertrator I am relatively indifferent to, although I simply cannot imagine liking a girl enough to do this.

If I like the girl then I love going down on her. I will go down on her for hours. I love it. I like just kissing the insides of her thighs and right beside her lady lips and just driving her so insane that she grabs my head and just slams it into her crotch. Boo yea.

I love my BJ's as well. But the girl I am with now just won't give them, like not at all. Its kinda irritating actually, but oh well.

>>>Does anyone have any ideas they can share about the couple thing described in the above paragraph?>>>

Join a swing club maybe. Or a swingers personals site. Also www.polymatchmaker.com might work for you, but it isn't a meat market like the swinger sites are. Be nice.

Jonathan

>>>Is there anyone out there who doesn't like to GIVE or RECEIVE oral sex? >>>

I love both to give and to get.

>>>And why or why not?>>>

Some of my partners are too good at oral sex and I have to stop them before I come so I can still have sex with them. (^: Some of my partners are so so at giving oral sex so I let them go down on me as long as they want to. One friend of mine had difficulty going down on men or women. I told him where to buy strawberry flavored lube and he now loves going down on both men and women. he used to think oral sex was nasty and tasted horrible.

I love giving oral sex to men and women. I think our sexual confidence really stems from the first two times we have sex or try oral sex. Thankfully the first few people I was with really enjoyed what I did, so after that it was much easier to have awkward experiences happen to me. Easier to bounce back I guess..... My wife likes to have sex once a week and give me oral sex once a week. She loves the intensity of not having sex that often. She loves getting oral sex twice a month or so. I have never had the red wings fiasco because I always have some sort of light on during sex or oral sex. I don't like total darkness. I love to go down on women for as long as it take to make them come. I have not yet had bad oral sex given to me. **crosses fingers** When I go down on some men, they seem a little rubbery I guess. Odd taste, but not bad. Other men taste good. They must be drinking pinapple juice daily. (^: I get too distracted during 69, so I don't want to do it really. But if they insist, then I am willing to try it again.

Jonathan

I really dont like to give oral. I do it, and I do it with enthusiasm. Cause that is what my partner at the time wants and deserves. I have never once said that I dont want to or that I dont like to. Part of a relationship is doing thing for the other person even though you dont want to, and I classify this as one of those.

Personally the idea of a blow job gets me excited, but when it comes down to it. After about a minute. I think to myself Okay that was fun now lets get down to the fuckin.

... i like to give it but I'm not so hot on recieving it.

I prefer giving to receiving. I love watching, hearing and feeling him writhe and moan as I go to town, and I do this pretty much every time we mess around. When it comes to me though I really have to be in the right mood for it to feel good like it should. My clit is oversensitive and it took my hubby a little while to figure out what to do without overdoing everything. But even with that, I really have to be in a good oral mood to relax and really get into it.

YES.... :hmm: :crazy:

I dont like giving....neva really gotten it but dont think it would be fair to the guy
if he gives he'll probably expecting to get

I actually love giving it more than receiving. I love to make a woman react while im down there. The more she reacts the wetter she gets. That just excites me to no end. With the right woman I can stay there as long as she wants me too! :D

My wife and I both used do it alot when we were going out ,but when you get married it becomes a one sided thing ,I still love going down on her ,she loves it too but when asked to return the favour I always get "don't put pressure on me or why do you always torture me with this " :confused:

That's when you play the "Equal Rights" Card or the "You have changed" Card. There should be no boundries when it comes to pleasing your mate.

I love giving oral sex; there is nothing I like more then a girl who can stand multiple orgasms from oral sex. The majority of girls push away once they cum (yeah it's sensitive at that time), but every once in a while I find one that can pull through it. I don't know what the attraction is to that, but man it's a huge turn on when it happens. As for getting I love it during sex nothing like pulling out for oral to catch my breath then going back in refreshed. Most girls find in vulgar which I guess it is, but man I become there slave at that point it's my only weakness, it's like a true testament.

Hmm, I don't think that's a general rule, given what gets said by long-married TFP'ers around here!! :) I'd say that's a problem of communication in general... have you told her how that makes you feel, when she says things like that?

Getting married should *not* kill anyone's sex life/drive... there's always something else going on in those situations, I think. I don't intend to let anything get in the way of a mutually satisfying sex life once we're married. :D

I like both giving and receiving. My wife really enjoys giving, but doesn't care to receive. The odd thing is that I can induce orgasm through eating her out, but she still encourages me to not go down on her. I find it a little strange..but what my girl wants, my girls gets :)

There could be numerous reasons for not wanting to give or receive oral
1) bad experience
2) lack of experience
3) embarassment
4) just dont like it
5) uncomfortable about their body
6) afraid they would have to reciprocate and dont want it to be a one way giving or receiving street
7) think they smell/taste bad down there

Women expecially are very self conscious about their nether regions and how they dont look like the ones in nudie mags or the ones the porn stars have. Many women feel that no matter what they do they may smell funny or taste bad to men. Perhaps this is because people say hurtful things when they break up or they have put too much stock into convos they have heard or read in magazines. Whatever the reason, there always is one the trick is getting the person to admit WHY they dont like it.

I love lying on my back, head back and with my guy thrusting his cock into my mouth ......... need I say more!

Oh, and really, what girl could possibly not LOVE oral? Pure Heaven!! :)

I can't say I don't like oral, but I can say I believe the phrase: it is better to give than recieve.

I cant imagine a man not like liking getting head. A woman possibly, but I have only met one.

As far as using hands, sometimes it is cheating at the end of good head to use hands to get a man off. It is easier with a tighter grip. But to get a man off exclusively with head and no hands at all is pure skill.

Personally, I love getting head but Ive only ate out 3 women. A vagina is much more personal than a dick. It is much harder to properly maintain a vagina than a penis and balls.

I know that my next question has nothing to do with the bigger topic, but I beyond curious . . . .

Why is that? I know that a lot of people feel that way, but it doesn't make that much sense to me. I kinda feel like they should be treated with the same "respect" or something.

It'd be a big impediment to the old sex life if I wasn't into both giving and recieving.

Gilda

Its an issue of internal vs external. Penetrating an orifice is much for personal than a limb on the outside of the body. Not to mention its much easier to access and maintain.

I'm still not sure how it is easier to "maintain" a penis. Most women never have a need to access their vaginal canal to maintain it. It kind of maintains itself under normal conditions.

Some men on a forum I go stated he didn't enjoy receiving or giving oral sex, which suprise me... And a friend on my girl, never let a guy go down on her until lately, she always thought the idea was gross... But well, after trying she realised she was wrong the all time...

I like receiving it and love giving it, I could give cunnilingus all day long...
As for me receiving it, well if it is more than twice a day it can get boring, I still enjoy it, but I would rather have proper sex...

69s are just excellent...

It is that kind of mentality that keeps me far away from most vaginas

Sounds to me like you have a lot to learn about vaginas. :suave:

i love oral sex! the feeling i get when my man is going down on me is soo great!
and as for giving it.. i love to do it, even though i'm still learning :hmm:

So, skimming this thread, it seems like a lot more women than men DON'T like receiving oral sex. I really would like to know why... on a core level.

I think Lady Sage had a point with her list of reasons why, but it's a crying shame if women don't like oral sex due to reasons like those. I mean, everyone has a right to their reasons, but damn. It's just wrong, the way society conditions women to think about their genitals... it's beautiful down there, and if my man loves it enough to stuff his face in there, get my juice all over him... well hell, I imagine it's pretty damn good. :)

In case there's any doubt: I LOVE ORAL SEX. :D :D :D Giving, receiving, all at once... whatever it is, I'll do it.

I LOVE to give oral sex, it's my one talent!!!!

However, I dont like him going down on me because he sucks up all my juices. Granted he puts some back in + spit, but then when we do it, it doesn't slide the same. Lubes help, but I really like the feel with my natural flow.

Okay, fair 'nuff!! :lol: That's one good reason for not liking oral sex, then.

I do get a bit dry after he's been down there for a while. But then sometimes I get really hot and wet if I come, too. So, it goes both ways. :)

See, you got me their cause when I come I gush, then dry up like sand paper. Then, I am done for like 3 hours(which sucks!!!!).

Giving and recieving both have good and bad points...

Recieving does tickle after awhile, especially just after an orgasm. Sometimes it gets too ticklish to the point where it is more annoying than pleasureable. That's when I decide I've had enough. The look on someone's face when you tell them to stop...priceless lol

Giving head is great, but it gets old after a few minutes and starts to be a pain in the neck...literally. Giving and getting ehad for short amounts of time is wonderful, but like anything else, too much of a good thing is a bad thing.