Is there anyone out there who doesn't like oral?
 

An addendum to a similar post in TFP v.3:

We've talked about getting bad bj's and less than satisfactory cunnilingus, but here's the "new" question...

Is there anyone out there who doesn't like to GIVE or RECEIVE oral sex? And why or why not?

Personally I like giving and receiving; it's a very intimate act between two adults

I know lots of people who don't like to give oral, especially guys, because they don't like the taste/strain etc. My girlfriend, however, won't let me go down on her and I haven't got round to asking why. I nip a bit sometimes when we kiss, so maybe she's afraid I'll do that when I go down on her.

I got my "red wings" back in 1991 while stationed in Germany. It took me 5 years before I would go down on a woman again.

Red Wings: Going down on a girl while on her period. It was dark and the girl didn't realize she was flowing. I thought she was just really wet.

you must have looked like a lion after a fresh kill.

done that too back in the eighties...I love to eat a girl out for breakfast, lunch, and dinner...even some snacks.

OMFG! I don't even know how I'd react to that :eek:

Ugh... You have my sympathies although i'm sure there are people out there who would be envoius. <shakes his head>

I enjoy both giving and recieving but find myself living sort of a double standard. If I met a girl at a bar i'd let her give me a BJ and with protection have sex but I most likely wouldn't perform oral on her until another time.

At the risk of offending the women, to me a guy going down on a girl is more intimate than a girl doing the same on a guy.

I'm not saying I wait six months or anything but it's probably on the third encounter or so.

I never really thought about it though until now. Wierd how we do things and don't even realize it.

Kind of a weird thing happened with my wife...she used to love to receive, but after childbirth it doesn't do much for her anymore. I still try occasionally, but it just doesn't work the same as before. Manual stimulation is the thing now.

I love to give, but I'm a bit shy on the getting part. I'm submissive, but getting puts me completely out of control, the orgasms are too intense, and that bothers me. When I submit, I still have a safeword, but I can't opt out of an orgasm, if that makes sense... (am female btw)

I've always enjoyed both.

As far as the red wing stuff - just stay a little higher up - unless it's a reall heavy flow day, there's ways to work around it

Hehe, that was very funny, re the 'redwings'. That is probably something I won't be doing (on purpose, at least).

I love oral both giving and recieving, but I've only known one or two women that were any good at giving it.

I'm a huge fan of giving to women- something about the wonderful taste, smell, it just gets me goin' as well. That said, its been rare for me to find a woman who likes to reciprocate as much, and I've spent a good deal of time thinking about it. Sadly, I blame a lot of the culture of the male-bj. In so much pr0n/locker-room-talk/etc it's portrayed as a big power-thing, and I have no doubt that a disturbing number of folk out there believe the hype.

That, and I find its a bit more of an acquired taste than that of a woman, as there's a funky texture thing too - kinda like oysters...

I used to love giving head to girls, but one day it just stopped. I had a similar redwing experience and it just grossed me out.

I love to give it, and love to get it. I almost love to give it more. Something about a girl in pleasure is the biggest turn on evah! It just makes it that much better when she goes down on me. I think it's selfish if someone expects to get it and not give it.

EDIT: If she's on the red tide, I just stay away. Ewww, I had a red wing experience my very first time. Didn't ruin it for me though, just made me come to the conlusion that I'll never do that again. Mmm, endometrium lining =\

I love to give and recieve, but giving while reciving is even better!

Well, I like giving and receving it.

I love to give oral sex to a woman, but I don't like getting it much. Not to brag, but I'm a bit large, and damnit teeth HURT. Only one chick has ever done it right, and I loved it!

I love to give...it's probably one of my favorite things to do. I just got out of a relationship with a guy who didn't really care for it, and so I didn't get to do it very often. I love receiving as well, so there's really nothing better than both for me! :) :D Here's to hoping I end up with some guy who loves bjs. :D

seeing that I have a big assed mouth at times, doing an oral presentation is always a relieve for my loved one Galaxygirl

As I ponder.. "What are 'Red Wings'? Perhaps, a German minor league club of the Detroit NHL club?

As I pray... "Can the Red Wings please be a minor league club for the Detroit NHL club?" :)

Good information, but very disturbing. I hadn't heard of it before, and I surely don't know how I would react upon experiencing it. Eck!

LMAO, it's not like it bites or something :D

I love eating pussy. I love having my dick sucked (by a chic) even more. http://www.boomspeed.com/sixate/bj.gif

Johnny,

There is actually a psychological term to describe that very fear.

Sorry I can't recall it, but it exists.

I have received awesome BJ's but now my currant GF is less than satisfying. I know I somewhat show this when it is my turn to give. There are just some people who don't have the technique down yet. I am still hoping that she will watch a few movies and try different things.

You're thinking of <i>vagina dentata</i>.

Here's an article: http://www.rotten.com/library/sex/vagina-dentata/

I love giving and getting.

There was a time when I'd never given, thought it was nasty, never wanted to, etc. I'd GET, though! Then the selfishness of that dawned on me, I tried it out, and I've never looked back.

I prefer giving not getting.

nuff said.

I've given and never gotten :(

Giving and recieving are great. Although some birds are better than others. (That probably works both ways, but I'm not qualified to comment)

I'm with Roark on this one I usually wait till I've been with a girl for a bit till I munch the beef curtains. Yet they can blow me whenever and wherever they want even if I have just met them.

Didn't realise I was such a hippocrate, oh well I'll deal with it.

About six months ago I was with a girl who had her toungue pirced. I thought that that kind of pircings was supposed to make oral sex more enjoyable but it was mostly annoying. But I'm not complaining, bad oral sex is better than no oral sex.

I like to give it as long as I am getting it in return!

Could you ask for anything more reasonable?:rolleyes:

My girlfriend (for well over a month now) gives these great blowjobs, swallows the cum and everything. Fantastic, and she loves it, too. But everytime i want to ´give something back´she doesn´t want to... Says she doesn´t like it... Quite frustrating while i quite like satisfying her with the tounge..

I just have to find some way to make her understand its going to be great, but i don´t want to push it too hard. Any advice?

giving getting it is all good

You might try just nibbling on her legs and moving upwards from there. If she stops you, ask her if she's willing to put up with it once for your sake, that you really want her to try it. Start sucking/licking her thighs first and then move in from there if she lets you. Good luck. :)

I have dated some women that claim to be self conscious down there, and that is why they don't like it for guys to go down. It is not my favorite dish on the menu, but I don't mind it. She has to be trimmed down there though. There is nothing worse than going down there and getting a mouthful of hair.

I love getting oral and I can't imagine a guy that didn't.

I´ll try that tonight...;) thanks

I love to receive it but seeing my girl suck me off kinda makes me feel like she's a slut. But then I realise that we both like the feel of it and I splooge in her mouth.

Eh - I take take or leave oral when it's given to me. I can't get off that way so what's the point.

I like giving pretty much. Nothing like having your head clamped between trembling thighs. I like to get also, but don't get much. The wife just doesn't dig it.

I don't have a lot of practice giving so I don't know if I'm any good? Receiving doesn't do much for me *shrug* I hope that doesn't skew my abilities in the area.

I need more practice...that's all.

The gf I had the most sex with really really really was opposed to receiving and insisted on giving even though that just doesn't get me off...she was a control freak in bed because some experiences in her life had messed with her head something fierce.

Heh heh - there was a thread about this on the old board.
In my opinion - it aint broke, so don't go fixin' it.

Improving on the feeling of a natural, properly administered blowjob is one of life's certain impossibilities, IMO.

Obviously I like receiving and I certainly get into giving.

My last girlfriend was kind of a problem on the giving side of things, though. For whatever reason, she was uncomfortable with it, but told me to do it anyway, and would get bent out of shape if I didn't, but when I did she was never into it. It's a tough bind to be in to on the one hand have them telling you they want it, objecting if you don't and all the while clearly not being very happy when it does happen.

I asked her in a round about way why this was a couple times but never got a decent answer. Technique was never the problem, as far as I know, since she would give me pointers whenever I was doing something she did or didn't like. It's just a bit tough to really get into it when you know she's thinking "I'm not sure I want him down there, but it feels good, but it's gross, but it's good, etc." the whole time.

Any ladies just comfortable enough to let their guys do it but still get a bit squeamish when it happens or have any idea what's up with this?

I love giving it and getting it.Did date a girl once though that wouldn't give head since she said it was against her religion but she sure didn't mind taking it in the ass.Go figure.

I love to give and receive.

A man wiser than me once said: Oral sex is like pizza. There is good pizza, and there is not-so-good pizza. But hey, its still pizza!

:D

My wife doesn't like it when I give it to her because I love to kiss her afterwards......maybe it's the juices left in my goatee.HAHAHHAHH. It took me years to go down there again after watching the birth of both of my children. enough said.

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Receiving oral sex is like awesome, but my wife doesnt really dig it much - so that kinda sucks. I get it - but its far too rare.

I dont mind giving, but once again, my wife doesnt much care for it so I just dont.

i love to give for some reason, getting is a little weird, although i'm only 20 and i've had blowjobs that i'd rather i hadn't (serrated teeth)

Love it. Both giving and receiving. Almost more pleasurable giving as you get to see how much satisfaction the girl receives. No better feeling than seeing her 'quiver' as she orgasms.

I don't know, I don't mind getting oral or receiving... but for me it's not that great, I'm not incredable sensitive and doesn't do alot for me, only had one girl accually get me off from just a blow job... I don't mind eating either, but has to be trimmed/shaved, no hair diving for me!

anywhere that is good enough for my cock, is good enough for my tongue. even if it means eating a little asshole every now and then.

i like getting more then giving but thats just me

I'm not a big fan of giving, i'll do it, but once in awhile. However, i looovvee getting head. Man, there is nothing better than a girl with her lips around my cock.. gotta love it. although, i have had bad head before.. and it made me want to die. One girl was soooo bad, i actually went limp everytime she tried...

giving== great if the girl is smart enough to 1)assume comfortable position without needing to be forced to and 2) is smart enough to know when she shouldn't let you go down.
recieving== good, unless she has no skill then it is just painful. It is also more fun when giving at the same time; but that need not be said i think.

After correcting his spelling, I totally agree with this guy.

Alpha phi was my first and I didn't give him a bj till quite a while after we were having sex even though he always did me...I don't know why I didn't him ....I guess I just wasn't comfortable with it....He finally got me to try it...and I loved it....he told me he couldn't get off that way....sure as hell surprised me when he did one time ...surprised him too....now he can get off with oral all the time.....he says that he finally did because I actually cared enough to keep trying and I tried different techniques.....he says I'm the best....I'm quite proud of that....Now I much prefer to give....not that I don't like to get it...I just prefer to get off with him in me :D

I _love_ getting eaten out by my guy and I love sucking him off. A crucial part of our enjoyment tho' is communicating to one another what feels good. It doesn't have to be in a demanding way-just talking about what feels good, body language, moaning, anything that gives the message, *I dig what you're doing, please keep doin' it!*
About some women seeming reluctant to receive oral gratification, some of us buy into the big lie that we are *dirty* down there, no matter how careful we are to stay fresh and well trimmed. Our inner dialogue prevents us from relaxing enuf to really let go and let our partner pleasure us. Trust can be a really big issue for both sexes, and the idea of holding off for a little while getting to know the new partner is a good one, I think.

I _love_ getting eaten out by my guy and I love sucking him off. A crucial part of our enjoyment tho' is communicating to one another what feels good. It doesn't have to be in a demanding way-just talking about what feels good, body language, moaning, anything that gives the message, *I dig what you're doing, please keep doin' it!*
About some women seeming reluctant to receive oral gratification, some of us buy into the big lie that we are *dirty* down there, no matter how careful we are to stay fresh and well trimmed. Our inner dialogue prevents us from relaxing enuf to really let go and let our partner pleasure us. Trust can be a really big issue for both sexes, and the idea of holding off for a little while getting to know the new partenr is a good one, I think.

Never been much on the getting end. I've had some really techniques used on me, but it just not that intimate for me. I'd rather spoon if giving a choice.

On the giving end, all the anatomy courses I took for premed really pay off. I love knowing that I'm making the woman squirm and moan like a whore because of what I'm doing.

Most of the time it's because they're insecure and think they 1. smell, 2. taste bad, or 3. both. If she says no, start messing with her with your fingers. After a few minutes of that, pull them out and make a show of licking/sucking them. If you seem to enjoy it, she'll know she doesn't taste bad/smell bad, and might start to open up a bit- don't expect to lick your pointer finger and dive, you are really more laying groundwork.

One thing to try though, is when you start back in with the fingers, lean down SLOWLY and let your tongue join in, then remove fingers and proceed.

I didn't recieve oral from my "ex."

i love oral, cant give it though, seems nasty .. ;x

I've always loved to give oral to a girl. My ex-girlfriend was never a big fan of giving blowjobs so i never really thought much of them until i met my current GF. my current gf gives amazing head and i actually wish i got it more often (whereas with my ex i never recall even wanting it with her).

I love getting, and I don't mind giving, but my wife is very self conscious about her vaginal odours. I don't mind too much, but sometimes it's very noticeable, and I do find the smell stays around for quite some time. But she is very hesitant and in fact I haven't given her head in over a year.

The best is giving and receiving at the same time. Nothing like feeling her quivering thighs and hearing her muffled moans (that just feels damn good too!). The self consciousness normally goes away in that position as they are concentrating on giving you good head. If you get her to that state, don't stick with just lickin teh clit... Go on, live a little - suck on it, tongue the inside, nibble on the perineum, even give that ass a little tip if you're feelin frisky. If she doesn't slap the hell out of you, I swear you'll get the best BJ you have ever had or will ever have. Sometimes even 2 or 3 in a row! :D :crazy:

I don't like giving it, so in return I don't really like receiving it either. It doesn't seem fair :/

Peach, I don't really get off to it, but I love giving oral. You don't think it's fair to get but not give. But do you like it? If so, maybe you and I are the perfect match! :D

I LOVE giving oral, and I like receiving it, although my wife hasn't attempted in 5+ years. If I could get off going down on her, actual intercourse would probably be more rare. When she did blow me (4-5 times total), she did swallow. :-)

bad oral is still pretty good

I love to give and have been lucky in that most of the women I dated and the one I am now maried too enjoy giving.

I have to be with someone who enjoys it. For me it is a big part of sex. I need to have a healthy and enjoyable sex life in order to enjoy a relationship. It's an important piece of the puzzle...

Just a note to the girls....guys like to give oral sex! If you've been with someone for a while, oral sex can be a very intimate experience. Don't be insecure about the way you look, taste, smell, etc. Most of the time, it's the things that you're insecure about, that turn us on the most.

I believe the proper action is to wipe your face off before kissing her.

peter batah does not!

After being with two women in a row that gave great head and loved recieving great head ;) the third that didn't give head but liked to get head was a real put off.

I'm firmly in the camp of mutual give and recieve but even if I'm not getting I'll still give just because I love to do it and hopefully she'll come around to sharing the love!

I've always loved going down on girls. Luckily they were all trimmed/shaved. I'm pretty good at it (been told so anyway) so that's a plus. and of course I love getting. seems like every girl i've been with has been better than the last by leaps and bounds so thank god for that too.

I love going down on girls becuase it drives them crazy, the biggest turn on for me is when the girl is enjoying it. However, I haven't ever really enjoyed a girl going down on me. Sometimes it's just painful. Then again, I haven't gotten head from that many different girls, so maybe they just weren't the best at it. I dunno, never really bothered me before although they were kinda mad cause they couldn't get me off :rolleyes:

I also love giving head to a female. In fact I love giving it more than I like gettting it. I've never suggested that the gal do me unless she shows good indication that she really wants to blow me. The one time I really enjoyed it was when I woke up in a tent, while camping in the mountains, and the gal next to me was blowing me while I slept. We got in to the 69 position and both came at the same time -wonderful!

Position and comfort are always important when eating a gal. I prefer to sit on he floor and have her lie back on the bed with her hips right at the edge so everything that demands my attention is right there an inch in front of my face, This also provides her with the freedom of motion necessary to easily shift herself a little so that she can get the proper attention right where she wants it. It's amazintg how many of them like their asses licked a little and they show their delight with little mewings and moanings. Talking with them between licks and asking what they like the best is a good idea since it helps them break through their shyness if they are new at it.

Giving oral sex is the my main fantasy on those occasions when I decide to give Lady Fivefingers a break. If fact lately I've even had visions of myseelf giving a couple (male and female) some oral stimulation while they are screwing. Now if I can just find the right couple I think that would be a wonderful experience even though I've never done it to a guy before. I think the gal would be the main course and the guy would be just a side dish -maybe not -maybe I'd get to really like that too.

Does anyone have any ideas they can share about the couple thing described in the above paragraph? :icare: :icare: :icare:

Love receiving and giving...

I love both giving and recieving. My girlfriend doesn't always let me eat her, though. Only after she feels 100% clean and comfortable. Mmmm....pussy.

Raking the ketchup. :D

Like to give and recieve, like others said, both at same time is best.

I LOVE eating pussy. Always have. I'll pack a lunch and stay down there all damn day. Luckily, my wife likes to return the favor.

I've also "swabbed the red deck" in the dark. They really should give you some sort of award for "above and beyond" or something.

Same here! I love nothing more than a bj and then goin down on my girl. At first I hated it. The smell and the taste but......then I started to like it. Now I love it!
:thumbsup:

I LOVE to give oral but hate receiving it. I don't know why but it's never been my thing. In return I get off on some other crazy things instead so it's all good :)

oral... this seems fun.

I love to give but I'm ambivilant about receiving. The concept of a bj sounds amazing, but in reality I just don't find it feels all that great.

But maybe I just need to find the right woman :)

I will just about refuse to give oral to a woman who smokes. The taste is about as wonderful as tasting nail polish remover.

I definately don't mind giving oral to men. I enjoy it and have been told I do it well.

I'm not crazy about recieving oral. Women give oral to other women better than it seems men manage. My clit is oversensitive it seems and men tend to like to focus on my clit. It gets to the point where it's almost painful. At that point I will refuse to receive any oral.

I like giving and I love recieving. :D Theres nothing more exhilarating then a really good blowjob. Ahhhh.......

I like giving if I'm drunk. It drives my wife crazy. Otherwise, eh... I do it for her, not because I like it.

And as for earning red wings, hell. no. never. no. no. no.

I don't like recieving blow jobs. The thrill of sex mostly comes from the interaction with the woman, and I don't get much interaction when all she is doing is sucking on my thing. I want to feel her body close to me, feel her curves.. mm..

On the other hand, I love giving. It's great foreplay for me, gets me very excited for the real thing.

Well 69 then and you certainly feel close to her body then :cool:

If oral on a man is done timidly like someone is putting a rancid sausage into the mouth then it probably doesn't feel too hot! :(

Now Natasha (ex g/friend) gave me the best ever oral (good grip, no hands and her tongue moving at about 112 mph all over). Man she never failed to get me to come in her mouth.

I love to give, but can't stand to receive. I don't know why, it just doesn't feel good. I like to focus on him... I'm very tactile. and I swallow. Anything else ruins the mood.

As a woman, I love both giving and receiving, but only if there is enough time to do either one properly. Rushing oral is not as fun as doing a quickie (intercourse)... it needs time. But not too much time!!... :lol: My mouth goes numb sometimes from giving a bj, and then I become far less effective "on the job." (Hell, when I got back from my 2.5 month summer of research and gave ktspktsp a bj for the first time, my cheek muscles were sore all the next day!) :lol:

Love to give and to recieve. The last girl I dated wasn't into oral much, I had to give her a little nudge here and there.

BTW, I too have earned my Red Wings... not that bad actually. I would volunteer to do it again, but I wouldn't complain about it a hole lot. A bit bitter but, all a part of nature.

Same here - I will say this tho - in terms of getting it from women, angle of attack makes all the difference to me. I don't get much from it if the womans head is pointed down toward my feet; entirely different tho if she's between my legs w/ her head pointing upward...

Hah, you've got me all figured out.. Definitely on my list of favorites.

My girlfriend doesn't give me oral all too often, but the other day when she did the whole thing was so intense, I had never felt like that before, and we've been having sex for the past 2 1/2 years! It was so intense I couldn't control myself, but at the same time I couldn't cum.

Still, needless to say I LOVE receiving. I've only given her oral once, and no offense to her (or any girl i guess), but I'd probably only do it again if she showered beforehand - that's her deal too, she only gave me head because we had showered together beforehand.

And Red Wings (not talkin about my hometown here)... no, no, no. Sorry, not for me.

My wife and I pretty much go down on each other every time we have sex, but I have a next to impossible time cumming just from oral. I'd like to be able to, and my wife doesn't have a problem with swallowing, but for some reason no matter how good it feels I can't cum unless I'm inside her. On the other hand, I have made her come many times with oral or a combination of my mouth and hands.

I've gotten my redwings several times over. Maybe I'm just dirty, but it doesn't bother me too much and if my wife lets me I'm willing to go down on her whenever. It does seem to work better if they take a hot shower right before though.

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Its too bad that my future partner wont be reading this. :|

I HATE RECIEVING!!!!! NO ONE DOES IT RIGHT. IF I HAVE TO EXPLAIN IT, IT TURNS ME OFF. :|

I LOVE GIVING THOUGH!! I COULD GIVE ORAL ALL NIGHT LONG!! ALL DAY!! WHATEVER! :D :D

Whew! Felt good to get that out! :lol:

I love going down on a guy and looking up at the expressions on his face! Nothing turns me on more. I also love when Im giving oral and I get a man to make a noise....



(pointing mouse at log-out. walking away. getting overly excited)

[QUOTE=5757]Its too bad that my future partner wont be reading this. :|

I HATE RECIEVING!!!!! NO ONE DOES IT RIGHT. IF I HAVE TO EXPLAIN IT, IT TURNS ME OFF. :|

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Well I feel sorry for you :icare: I really do but us humans have a voice and ability to explain things and we really should sometimes. You can't expect every partner to know exactly what pleases you. Everyone has to learn and ladies aren't all the same so what pleases one might not please you. I have absolutely no problem with a g/friend (and my wife to be) telling me what to do.
Most men can't read minds and unless you tell someone (if your sounds of pleasure/silence) alone fail to work I sense a future of unnecessary unhappiness! :( Please speak up!!