Altheus

I may or may not have a problem. Using my fingers is generally how I start foreplay off but probably being so young, I cant really ask the girl if I was any good...

My technique is basically working outside the pants, rubbing with two fingers over her pussy, and then slowly moving underneath... if she's not already wet, I'll just play with the lips, gripping them between my fingers and working my way up, once I'm confident she's turned on I put one (or two, maybe even three) fingers in, but not deep, I tend to work the area just behind the pubic bone, a "come-hither" type fashion... listening to her breath getting faster, i tease her by going back outside again... Now I'm not sure if I've made a girl cum as a result of me fingering her, because they always squeeze tight with their legs, and eventually just take my hand away, leading me to believe I'm doing more harm than good.... Any tips etc...?

Silvy

Are you seeing the same girl every time?
Then wait until you get comfortable to bring the subject up and ask her.

Tell her how it was for you, she might explain how it was for her...

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denim

Yeah, ya really need to be able to ask her. It's likely that she takes your hand away 'cause she gets too sensitive after coming, or that's what she wants you to believe, or something like that.

Communication is key. TALK to the woman you've got your fingers in. What's more intimate: getting into her pussy, or getting into her mind by COMMUNICATING?

Big error I made once was getting physically involved with a woman before asking her what she was expecting from sex. What was she used to, what did she like, what positions did she want to use, etc. How does she handle a man? What do you expect and like? Goes both ways. It's really better if you talk about it rather than have one of you do something that really puts the other off. Or so it seems to me.

It also seems to me that you might make a transition from talking to fucking by getting her hot with the chat, then saying, here's what I mean....

(edit: lots of wording changes to make the meaning clearer or make the reading better)

skysooner

I've never found a consistent method of foreplay. There are some things that almost everyone likes (kissing the neck, lightly stroking the upper back), but the others are completely different. If I touch my wife in any but a few places early in foreplay she is constantly wriggling away because it tickles. Touching her breasts really does nothing for her. One girl I dated could orgasm off of that. When I touch her vagina, I do it in very specific stages and just because we have communicated so well, I know what to do when for the most part. However there is always a time when she has to take my hand and move it to a certain spot or tell me to do harder/softer/faster, etc., because it is never the same time-to-time. Like someone said before, communication is the key and getting inside someone's head like that makes sex so much more intense.

Pellaz

Communication is the real key here, just as everyone's saying.

One thing I noticed in your methodolgy there is zero mention of the clitoris, though...

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Slims

Um, they will tell you if they like it. You should just ask. Maybe ask for suggestions or whatnot.

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Jim Kata

Whats foreplay?
My girl usually just wants to just get to the sex. I always thought that was the man's job.

QuasiMojo

Stick it in
Pull it out
*repeat*

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lyxo

Foreplay = Tease
Tease = excitement = good
Start very slow. Make circles with your fingers, slowly down her body. Don't even touch her pussy at first, tease around the front, then go down the sides to the thighs, that is usually where i get the most response. Let her wait for about 2 minutes, until she's begging, then brush by it a bit, then tease around some more. By the time you get down there it should be a steam pot.

You can't have good sex without good foreplay.

Jim Kata

Ummmm yeah..... you are wrong. I've had incredible sex without any foreplay. Have you ever been in a heated argument with your SO and next thing you know you are tearing eachothers clothes off and going at it, ("FUCKING THIS ONE OUT" is what I like to call it)?

doctor_butcher

Ask her to masturbate in front of you. That way you get to see what she likes, and get a show too

sublime

you could put a suggestion box up in your bedroom, and ask her to fill out a card lol

Altheus

aye, I can see that communication is going to be nesscessary here, however, none of the three women are really that easy to talk about this kinda thing with... i'll try anyway... as for the clitoris, i try and stimulate that with my thumb and the with my middle fingers when i move out a little.

I suppose no two pussies are quite the same though, so i guess my technique wont always work. I have to agree though...

teasing = frustration = anticipation = adrenline = fantastic sex

Molly Moon

That would be because you are male.

No foreplay = no lube

No lube = nails on a chalkboard

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Altheus

ROFLMAO! Yeah, I'm designing the rating card as we speak, I'll throw it up for you to look at later

Jim Kata

Let me go a little more into depth. SHE has even said that, "FUCKING THIS ONE OUT" is some really really good sex. I don't need to even touch her to get her wet. Sometimes just talking to her gets her wet and ready. So I'm sorry to say (well, not really sorry), you are wrong about no foreplay = no lube.

I know that Mrs. Kata isn't the only female out there that can get wet without any touching....right?

urizenxvii

foreplay is as much verbal as it is physical, and depending on the lady, sometimes more.

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skysooner

This is why arguing can be foreplay to an extent. When my wife and I have an argument, we sometimes have the hottest sex, because your emotions are all jacked up.

Bamrak

I'm thinking that if by saying you're to 'young' to talk about sex, aren't you a little young to be participating in it? One of the great things about sex is the communication that goes along with it. One of my favorite things about sex with my girlfriend is that usually if we try something new a day or two afters we can openly discuss it, which makes it better for everyone, since you know exactly where the other stands on issues.

That's my .02 anyway

motdakasha

This is your problem: You are using your age as an excuse to hide from communicating with her. If you "cant really ask the girl," don't bother getting involved or trying foreplay. Being young has nothing to do with practicing communication, a vital skill you will need in all aspects of life.

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World's King

Fuck man... You turned me on... and I'm a guy.

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im just a girl

the thing about her squeezing her legs together? a lot of girls do that when they get really turned on.. it almost heightens the sensation. try leaving your hand there...

lyxo

Yes, you're right, 'Jim Kata', in a way. But arguments turn up the heat as well as the ripping off of the clothes.
But, I was referring to sex that involves immediate intercourse, or just seconds of foreplay, that not wetness is present, and that doesn't work out as well. If both of you arent into it, then it's not going to be any good. Foreplay gets you all riled up.

motdakasha

Right.

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Altheus

Okay, perhaps I'm using age as an excuse here, but I'm a fairly shy guy when it comes to the bedroom aswell. In fact I still cant say "vagina" without giggling like a school girl (not quite). I would be uncomfortable talkin about it though... Times like this I wish I was a toyboy for some sex fiend, who could show me everything I need to know

motdakasha

It's no one's responsibility but your own to make you become more mature. Also, you'll never know everything since every woman is unique as are men.

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