Yeah, ya really need to be able to ask her. It's likely that she takes your hand away 'cause she gets too sensitive after coming, or that's what she wants you to believe, or something like that.
Communication is key. TALK to the woman you've got your fingers in. What's more intimate: getting into her pussy, or getting into her
mind by COMMUNICATING?
Big error I made once was getting physically involved with a woman before asking her what she was expecting from sex. What was she used to, what did she like, what positions did she want to use, etc. How does she handle a man? What do
you expect and like? Goes both ways. It's
really better if you talk about it rather than have one of you do something that really puts the other off. Or so it seems to me.
It also seems to me that you might make a transition from
talking to
fucking by getting her hot with the chat, then saying, here's what I mean....
(edit: lots of wording changes to make the meaning clearer or make the reading better)