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Brdd99boy · 08-05-2003, 09:48 AM

Recent studies and research on brain waves show that everyone has short attention spans
even when we sit a watch porno for like 12 hours it is still just a series of short attention spans
or did you just mean "short spans"
I guess all spans are short but that of course is relative because some spans are longer than others

Brdd99boy · 08-05-2003, 09:57 AM

sagester
I guess I was not totally serious
however I do know there are a lot of gals out there of various age that would be very happy to help a 19 year old loose his virginity
The key here is to not be too particular
I lost my virginity at 18 to a 40 year old we are still very good friends

neoinoakleys · 08-05-2003, 01:09 PM

Just to let you know, I am in the Escort business. Not on the providing end but let's just say on the supporting end.

If you are serious about an escort, I would tell you to PM me, I am pretty well connected and respected in the industry and represent LOTS of girls in MANY areas, and can lead you the right way.

But on the otherhand this is my advice to you. DON'T do the escort thing. It IS highly impersonal, and do you really want to look back on your life and know deep down that you gave your virginity to someone that doesn't value the impact of your decision??

I would tell you to wait and find the right girl, paying for it is not the answer. Take the advice of some of the previous posters and get a girl that you dig and digs you back.

To squelch some of the comments about some of clientelle the escorts get, I will say a few things...

Majority of the customers that seek escorts are into the lifestyle. These are not desperate guys or ugly guys. These are mostly regulars that return over and over again. They are also from ALL walks of life. You would be amazed the kind of people that see escorts, some names you may even recognize (can't devulge that though, so don't ask). And alot of them are not even guys, you would be amazed as to how many are females and even more amazed how many are couples.

You DO however get the desperate and ugly people as well, but that is actually surprisingly low volume.

You would also be surprised as to the quality and backgrounds of some of the escorts. I am assuming that we are not talking about your standard street walkers, they are just skanky, but the professionals are model quality, and many are EXTREMELY educated and cultured, especially the ones that are in demand with the corporate tycoons and foriegn dignitaries.

Anyways, I am really not trying to plug this lifestyle, as it is clearly not for everyone (nor is it for me, I have never been with any), but I do think that people in this line of work get a really bad rep, and it is all due to the low quality ones.

Let me put it this way, if we draw conclusions about someone based on the low lifes that are usually portrayed in the media, then the people viewing Americans would assume that we are a country full of sex maniacs and violence, since that is all that is on the news and media anymore. There are idiots in EVERY line of work, there are also stars in these lines of work as well.

Anyways, bring on the flames....

dtheriault · 08-05-2003, 04:11 PM

Quote:

Mr Mephisto said, "This has got to be the most ridiculous thing I've ever heard."

In regards to being yourself isn't the best thing sometimes.

That's so very self-pitious... and not exactly conducive to increasing one's self confidence now, is it?

easy dude my main point was that maybe he should get some professional help and not just rely on a bunch of strangers who may or may not have his best interests at heart.

the part about being yourself not always being so great was kinda tongue in cheek. you wouldn't want to tell hitler or stalin or ted bundy to "just be yourself."

now i know our young friend is no where near those guys, but what i was saying is we all have the ability to change and improve. think back on what you were like 10 years ago. maybe if he got some professional advice he could improve his relationship skills, not by not being himself, but by growing into something better.

i was afraid you'd take my comments as an attack and they weren't meant in anyway to disparage your sage advice. just playing devils advocate and trying to find a solution through dialogue.

i don't want to mess with you. i may be crazy, but your insane!

*Nikki* · 08-05-2003, 05:43 PM

19 is not old to be a virgin.

You are a very attractive man who has nothing to worry about.

Your time will come. Wait until it is with someone meaningful not a trashy slut who just wants your $$.

Mephisto2 · 08-05-2003, 06:09 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by dtheriault
easy dude my main point was that maybe he should get some professional help and not just rely on a bunch of strangers who may or may not have his best interests at heart.

OK.

But I think telling someone they may need professional help just because they're worried at being a virgin at 19 is just a little bit overkill, and damaging to one's confidence.

I bet the average age for losing viriginity, even in the US, is not that far from 19 anyway...

Quote:

i don't want to mess with you. i may be crazy, but your insane!

So I am!

I hadn't noticed.

I'm spending too long on this board!

Mr Mephisto

sagester · 08-05-2003, 09:14 PM

Don’t worry guys, no comments here offend me nor do anything to lower my self esteem. I take most things people tell me with a grain of salt, especially on a message-board…

About the professional help thing, where would one turn; I don’t think I need a shrink but, if there are professionals that give woman advice, it’s something I might look into…

xxmsaxx · 08-05-2003, 09:37 PM

I lost my virginity when I was 16 and to be honest it really didnt change me much. I was a self loathing goth freak. As I got older I got more confident, and ended up with a few partners (about 10 before I got married) The point Im trying to make is sex does not effect who you are. You grow as a person, and I assure you no chick digs a guy who buys whores. If anything it seems like this would make you feel worse. your gonna end thinking "Im so lame I had to buy sex" blah blah blah and so forth. heh im not gay persay but your a nice looking guy, and your bound to get laid. My advice is the same as above. When you get with a girl MAKE THE MOVE. Your 19 so more than once im sure you have been on a couch with a chick if it was at a party or whatever. Put your arm around her, whisper something lightly sexual into her ear, rub her leg. Worse that could happen is she turns you down. If thats the case then try again. Some drinks always help to loosen one up but dont use that as your crutch. Have confidence but dont be a cocky ass and Im sure you will score.

kilty · 08-05-2003, 11:56 PM

Man just get some confidence. Women love a confident man. Take some risks. Go up to the hottest girl you can find, one you think you could never have and tell her you want to take her out. You won't know till you ask and if she says no, then move on, there are millions out there. Girls/women are so horny they just don't want you to know.

I found out a bunch of times later in life that girls I though were totally out of my league, though I was out of there league. What a rude awakenig. I decided then to not care about my stupid curiousities and just went out and had a great time. I gained so many more friends and I didn't have to try anymore, they usually were forcing me into sex.

I finally settled down and have a wonderful wifem but never had any more regrets.

Menoman · 08-06-2003, 12:20 AM

What year is it again? Last time I checked "ohmigod sex with someone ur not in love with?!!?" was out :P

"How about asking a good friend? Sure, it might wierd out the friendship if you just come right out and say "Hey, Janet, would you mind taking my virginity?""

That is good advice, but theres a badside on this too. It's possible you wont be friends after it :\ so make sure its a GOOD friend. BUT you can talk with her after and its just friendly conversation. No awkwardness about it. thats what I did.

tec-9-7 · 08-06-2003, 05:58 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by Forks
dude, you don't have to pay. all you need is to decide to get a girl.

You ALWAYS pay for it. If not directly, then indirectly.

fuzzix · 08-07-2003, 07:18 AM

Dude, are you mad? 19 and you're thinking of hookers? Sheesh, don't worry about it. As one guy said earlier, losing it to a hooker is WAY worse than being a virgin - and he's right, because later on down the track you'll hate yourself for it.

skysooner · 08-07-2003, 01:20 PM

I paid for it a couple of times in the past during long dry spells while in college, but I didn't do it for the first couple of years. Sex with a prostitute is so much different than what you will have with your girlfriend or wife eventually. I'm not sure that is how you want to start the process. It would seem to me to be better to find a girlfriend first and see how that goes first. Drunken debauchery is so much better when you really know what you are doing anyway.

niobius2 · 08-07-2003, 01:22 PM

Don't sweat it it's not that big a deal

rainheart · 08-07-2003, 03:47 PM

Out of everything I've read here I think antihero3zx makes the most sense, I'd say his advice is most sound imo.

collide · 08-07-2003, 03:48 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by skysooner
Sex with a prostitute is so much different than what you will have with your girlfriend or wife eventually.

I would imagine it being really impersonal, but other than that, what is it that makes it different?

David2000 · 08-07-2003, 06:10 PM

same situation pretty much. 21. Thought all the same things you did. I definitely wouldn't pay though. Thought about it. Basically I think antihero had some good advice--the most important thing is that you evaluate yourself critically and don't lie to yourself. Saying things like "well women just don't seem to like me whatever I do and i've tried everything" is an example of that--you're not really trying if you say that. Basically girls want to have sex too; accept that you're worthy of having sex with and you'll find someone who feels the same way.

skysooner · 08-07-2003, 07:52 PM

I paid for it approximately 6 times during college (mainly in graduate school when I was doing nothing but spending my days in a lab or studying). Out of 6 times, there was only once that I could call it a GFE (girlfriend experience) and that girl shouldn't have been doing what she was doing. She just wasn't mentally hardened enough to deal with it (I think she lasted all of 2 weeks). The other 5 were completely impersonal and most of the time the object was for them to get you off as fast as possible and get out the door. When I was that age, it was incredibly easy for me to get an erection, and I could get off at the drop of a hat. It, unfortunatley, wasn't always great when it was that fast. It is just so much better when you can take your time, do lots of foreplay and both get off. With a prostitute, it is all about you getting off, and there is no real sense of satisfaction (beyond the transitory feeling).

sstennes · 08-08-2003, 10:16 PM

Don't get hung up on the virginity thing! My experience is that when it's right it's right. I'm slightly over twice your age and madlyly in love with my wife of 17 years. Sex is greatly over rated! Making LOVE with someone you love, trust, and have an overwhelming desire to make feel better than she ever has before, now that is worth waiting for!!! Every sexual encounter I had before meeting my wife was, in retrospect hollow. Wait to meet the right woman, and really enjoy the gift of sharing yourself, by actually sharing YOURSELF.

If you friends are giving you a hard time about being a virgin, that is their problem. Give it some time, put yourself in as many social situations as possible, and you will meet someone that it is worth giving up your virgininty to.

Good Luck! But a prostitute is not the answer.

hobo · 08-08-2003, 10:23 PM

don't pay for it, you can never be too sure about how many STDs she has. you don't wanna pick up anything gross from someone you don't even wanna be with. sex is like your reward for managing to get a girl to like you. if you just buy it, you don't get the feeling that you urned it which would cheapen it.

air45 · 08-09-2003, 04:06 PM

if i were the woman, i would offer the sexing as a favor for the tfp, which is number one!

but i am the dude, and this is no help. so do not pay and do not have sex with the dude unless this is your bag.

rockbehemoth · 08-10-2003, 09:19 AM

I was 27 when I lost my virginity.
Hang in there, bro. It's worth the wait.
Give it up to someone you care about.

iceman2032 · 08-11-2003, 09:15 AM

If you do decided to pay for it. I would recommend you save up some cash and go to one of the brothels in Nevada. You'll get the fuck of your life and it will be worth every dime.

Gorgo · 08-11-2003, 09:55 PM

Ok, I checked out your pics. Guess what??
You look fine, normal shaped face, normal shaped body.

So basically, you haven't gotten laid because you haven't tried to.
In real life, the guy has to make the effort to meet the girls, they mostly hang back and wait for the guys to approach. Guys who act warm, friendly and slightly interested have the best chance.
Cocky, arrogant, rude or desperate guys don't do so well. Neither do guys who sit back and wait for the "perfect" girl, she doesn't exist.

In retrospect, I had several girls in my teen years who were sitting back and waiting for me to approach them. Like you, I was sitting back and waiting. Of course, this equals not getting laid.

My advice, look around, chances are there is at least one girl you know who wants you but is waiting for you to show interest. If not, broaden your horizons, with 288 million people in the US, more than half female, there are definitely a few girls/women who would like you to show an interest.

Last, Don't pay for it, just ask more girls you meet out, you will find a girlfriend sooner than you think.

08-05-2003, 01:09 PM	#43 (permalink)
neoinoakleys Psycho Location: Michigan	Just to let you know, I am in the Escort business. Not on the providing end but let's just say on the supporting end. If you are serious about an escort, I would tell you to PM me, I am pretty well connected and respected in the industry and represent LOTS of girls in MANY areas, and can lead you the right way. But on the otherhand this is my advice to you. DON'T do the escort thing. It IS highly impersonal, and do you really want to look back on your life and know deep down that you gave your virginity to someone that doesn't value the impact of your decision?? I would tell you to wait and find the right girl, paying for it is not the answer. Take the advice of some of the previous posters and get a girl that you dig and digs you back. To squelch some of the comments about some of clientelle the escorts get, I will say a few things... Majority of the customers that seek escorts are into the lifestyle. These are not desperate guys or ugly guys. These are mostly regulars that return over and over again. They are also from ALL walks of life. You would be amazed the kind of people that see escorts, some names you may even recognize (can't devulge that though, so don't ask). And alot of them are not even guys, you would be amazed as to how many are females and even more amazed how many are couples. You DO however get the desperate and ugly people as well, but that is actually surprisingly low volume. You would also be surprised as to the quality and backgrounds of some of the escorts. I am assuming that we are not talking about your standard street walkers, they are just skanky, but the professionals are model quality, and many are EXTREMELY educated and cultured, especially the ones that are in demand with the corporate tycoons and foriegn dignitaries. Anyways, I am really not trying to plug this lifestyle, as it is clearly not for everyone (nor is it for me, I have never been with any), but I do think that people in this line of work get a really bad rep, and it is all due to the low quality ones. Let me put it this way, if we draw conclusions about someone based on the low lifes that are usually portrayed in the media, then the people viewing Americans would assume that we are a country full of sex maniacs and violence, since that is all that is on the news and media anymore. There are idiots in EVERY line of work, there are also stars in these lines of work as well. Anyways, bring on the flames.... __________________ It's My Duty to Please That Booty!!

08-05-2003, 09:37 PM	#48 (permalink)
xxmsaxx Tilted Location: Home of the First Clone	I lost my virginity when I was 16 and to be honest it really didnt change me much. I was a self loathing goth freak. As I got older I got more confident, and ended up with a few partners (about 10 before I got married) The point Im trying to make is sex does not effect who you are. You grow as a person, and I assure you no chick digs a guy who buys whores. If anything it seems like this would make you feel worse. your gonna end thinking "Im so lame I had to buy sex" blah blah blah and so forth. heh im not gay persay but your a nice looking guy, and your bound to get laid. My advice is the same as above. When you get with a girl MAKE THE MOVE. Your 19 so more than once im sure you have been on a couch with a chick if it was at a party or whatever. Put your arm around her, whisper something lightly sexual into her ear, rub her leg. Worse that could happen is she turns you down. If thats the case then try again. Some drinks always help to loosen one up but dont use that as your crutch. Have confidence but dont be a cocky ass and Im sure you will score. __________________ .................. /..../\../\....\ \|.S.\|..V..\|.A.\| \....\..../..../ .................. Work for pay and pay for freedom

08-07-2003, 07:18 AM	#52 (permalink)
fuzzix Psycho Location: Australia	Dude, are you mad? 19 and you're thinking of hookers? Sheesh, don't worry about it. As one guy said earlier, losing it to a hooker is WAY worse than being a virgin - and he's right, because later on down the track you'll hate yourself for it. __________________ I'm most definately not 'lovin' it'.

08-07-2003, 06:10 PM	#57 (permalink)
David2000 Tilted Location: New Haven, CT	same situation pretty much. 21. Thought all the same things you did. I definitely wouldn't pay though. Thought about it. Basically I think antihero had some good advice--the most important thing is that you evaluate yourself critically and don't lie to yourself. Saying things like "well women just don't seem to like me whatever I do and i've tried everything" is an example of that--you're not really trying if you say that. Basically girls want to have sex too; accept that you're worthy of having sex with and you'll find someone who feels the same way. __________________ However livin' better now, Gucci sweater now..

08-08-2003, 10:16 PM	#59 (permalink)
sstennes Upright	Don't get hung up on the virginity thing! My experience is that when it's right it's right. I'm slightly over twice your age and madlyly in love with my wife of 17 years. Sex is greatly over rated! Making LOVE with someone you love, trust, and have an overwhelming desire to make feel better than she ever has before, now that is worth waiting for!!! Every sexual encounter I had before meeting my wife was, in retrospect hollow. Wait to meet the right woman, and really enjoy the gift of sharing yourself, by actually sharing YOURSELF. If you friends are giving you a hard time about being a virgin, that is their problem. Give it some time, put yourself in as many social situations as possible, and you will meet someone that it is worth giving up your virgininty to. Good Luck! But a prostitute is not the answer. __________________ There are 10 kinds of people in this world, those who understand binary and those who don't.

08-05-2003, 09:48 AM	#41 (permalink)
Brdd99boy Banned Location: kyle	Recent studies and research on brain waves show that everyone has short attention spans even when we sit a watch porno for like 12 hours it is still just a series of short attention spans or did you just mean "short spans" I guess all spans are short but that of course is relative because some spans are longer than others

08-05-2003, 09:57 AM	#42 (permalink)
Brdd99boy Banned Location: kyle	sagester I guess I was not totally serious however I do know there are a lot of gals out there of various age that would be very happy to help a 19 year old loose his virginity The key here is to not be too particular I lost my virginity at 18 to a 40 year old we are still very good friends

08-05-2003, 05:43 PM	#45 (permalink)
Nikki ~~~~~~~ Location: Charleston, SC	19 is not old to be a virgin. You are a very attractive man who has nothing to worry about. Your time will come. Wait until it is with someone meaningful not a trashy slut who just wants your $$.

08-05-2003, 09:14 PM	#47 (permalink)
sagester Upright	Don’t worry guys, no comments here offend me nor do anything to lower my self esteem. I take most things people tell me with a grain of salt, especially on a message-board… About the professional help thing, where would one turn; I don’t think I need a shrink but, if there are professionals that give woman advice, it’s something I might look into…

08-05-2003, 11:56 PM	#49 (permalink)
kilty Tilted	Man just get some confidence. Women love a confident man. Take some risks. Go up to the hottest girl you can find, one you think you could never have and tell her you want to take her out. You won't know till you ask and if she says no, then move on, there are millions out there. Girls/women are so horny they just don't want you to know. I found out a bunch of times later in life that girls I though were totally out of my league, though I was out of there league. What a rude awakenig. I decided then to not care about my stupid curiousities and just went out and had a great time. I gained so many more friends and I didn't have to try anymore, they usually were forcing me into sex. I finally settled down and have a wonderful wifem but never had any more regrets.

08-07-2003, 01:20 PM	#53 (permalink)
skysooner Registered User Location: Oklahoma	I paid for it a couple of times in the past during long dry spells while in college, but I didn't do it for the first couple of years. Sex with a prostitute is so much different than what you will have with your girlfriend or wife eventually. I'm not sure that is how you want to start the process. It would seem to me to be better to find a girlfriend first and see how that goes first. Drunken debauchery is so much better when you really know what you are doing anyway.

08-07-2003, 01:22 PM	#54 (permalink)
niobius2 Upright	Don't sweat it it's not that big a deal

08-07-2003, 03:47 PM	#55 (permalink)
rainheart Psycho	Out of everything I've read here I think antihero3zx makes the most sense, I'd say his advice is most sound imo.

08-07-2003, 07:52 PM	#58 (permalink)
skysooner Registered User Location: Oklahoma	I paid for it approximately 6 times during college (mainly in graduate school when I was doing nothing but spending my days in a lab or studying). Out of 6 times, there was only once that I could call it a GFE (girlfriend experience) and that girl shouldn't have been doing what she was doing. She just wasn't mentally hardened enough to deal with it (I think she lasted all of 2 weeks). The other 5 were completely impersonal and most of the time the object was for them to get you off as fast as possible and get out the door. When I was that age, it was incredibly easy for me to get an erection, and I could get off at the drop of a hat. It, unfortunatley, wasn't always great when it was that fast. It is just so much better when you can take your time, do lots of foreplay and both get off. With a prostitute, it is all about you getting off, and there is no real sense of satisfaction (beyond the transitory feeling).

08-08-2003, 10:23 PM	#60 (permalink)
hobo Archangel of Change	don't pay for it, you can never be too sure about how many STDs she has. you don't wanna pick up anything gross from someone you don't even wanna be with. sex is like your reward for managing to get a girl to like you. if you just buy it, you don't get the feeling that you urned it which would cheapen it.

08-09-2003, 04:06 PM	#61 (permalink)
air45 Loser Location: Midwest	if i were the woman, i would offer the sexing as a favor for the tfp, which is number one! but i am the dude, and this is no help. so do not pay and do not have sex with the dude unless this is your bag.

08-10-2003, 09:19 AM	#62 (permalink)
rockbehemoth Junkie	I was 27 when I lost my virginity. Hang in there, bro. It's worth the wait. Give it up to someone you care about.

08-11-2003, 09:15 AM	#63 (permalink)
iceman2032 Crazy	If you do decided to pay for it. I would recommend you save up some cash and go to one of the brothels in Nevada. You'll get the fuck of your life and it will be worth every dime.

08-11-2003, 09:55 PM	#64 (permalink)
Gorgo Tilted Location: Tampa Bay, Florida	Ok, I checked out your pics. Guess what?? You look fine, normal shaped face, normal shaped body. So basically, you haven't gotten laid because you haven't tried to. In real life, the guy has to make the effort to meet the girls, they mostly hang back and wait for the guys to approach. Guys who act warm, friendly and slightly interested have the best chance. Cocky, arrogant, rude or desperate guys don't do so well. Neither do guys who sit back and wait for the "perfect" girl, she doesn't exist. In retrospect, I had several girls in my teen years who were sitting back and waiting for me to approach them. Like you, I was sitting back and waiting. Of course, this equals not getting laid. My advice, look around, chances are there is at least one girl you know who wants you but is waiting for you to show interest. If not, broaden your horizons, with 288 million people in the US, more than half female, there are definitely a few girls/women who would like you to show an interest. Last, Don't pay for it, just ask more girls you meet out, you will find a girlfriend sooner than you think. __________________ Will Code for food . . .