sexanoe

this is kinda embarrassing but i seem to get hair trigger hard ons from female contact. Having a girl grind on me at a club can make me noticeably hard within 30 seconds. Or even just hugging my arm over a girl while she's leaning close as we sit on the sofa can get me up. However I can watch porn or go to the strip club and control myself much better.
I'm thinking maybe its because I dont have alot of experience with this to not get so excited all the time. I'm 25 and have had relatively very little intimacy with a women.
I know its all mental but does anyone have any tips or tricks for this? thanks

mb99usa

Sounds pretty normal to me. You can control yourself watching porn and at the strip club because there is no direct contact. You'll probably start to have less of a hair trigger as time goes by.

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dlish

try not thinking that you're not going to get lucky with whatever girl you're in contact with.

if you're not getting lucky, you wont be as worked up and your cock wont be as responsive. it's probably why you dont get hard in a strip club.

every teenage boy has those sort of issues to deal with. hell, i used to dread having the teacher ask me to come to the chalkboard because my hard ons could be triggered by everything from random thoughts to nerves.

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Bonkai

You could always masturbate before you go anywhere, i know it's sounds kind of ridiculous but it worked for me in early high school where random-gust-of-the-wind hard-ons were frequent. It's take the edge off, plus usually after an orgasm sexual urges go right out the window and you're read for other goings-on.

Sexanoe, you probably masturbate already, why not just try before you go out. can't hurt.

sexanoe

ya ive heard conflicting advice on masturbation. Some say doing it all the time conditions your body to get hard easier. Others have said it makes it more easier to control when you dont want to have an erection. I'm very torn to which one is more true and I've done the "masturbate everyday" route and apparently that doesnt seem to help.

Yes getting off just before i leave can help, but my body is ready to go again just 20 minutes later. And all bets our off with direct genital contact like grinding or cuddling.

dlish

sexanoe, you could always think of the worst thing you can possibly think of.

i dont know..if she's grinding you, imagine you're grinding your dick against a meat mincer or something. that'd definately make my erection go away. i guess it works the same way when you want to delay coming also.

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Shadowex3

Dude if you're under 30 nothing's going to help, just learn to live with it and wear underwear/pants that hold it well.

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Zeraph

Do really tough long division in your head. :P

Lindy

My boyfriend when I was a senior in high school (who later became my husband and then ex-husband) used to get a hard on in (among other times) in church. We both sang in the choir, and choir robes can hide a lot. Sometimes I would reach in his robe and take advantage of him. But I digress. Some good suggestions in the posts above but he said the the surest way to make his hard on wilt was to... are you ready for this???... the most horrible thought for any teenager... he would think of his parents having sex.

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angelsndevils

I have told myself for the last 25 years my parents ONLY had sex 3 times. Never would i want to think of it more then that nor do I want to think of a man genital grinding on a meat grinder!
The sad part is when your 35 your going to be wondering why you have such fast response to stimuli and your done for the day...I wish my better half had this issue! LOL

genuinegirly

Seems pretty natural for someone to get a hard-on when they're grinding with a girl. If the guy I was dancing with didn't have a hard-on, I would be concerned that he doesn't find me attractive. The woman is going to take your "enthusiasm" as a compliment.

As for unwanted erections in professional settings and other socially inappropriate times, I'll leave it to the men to give you suggestions. So far it looks like they're offering some pretty good advice.

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Shadowex3

When wearing real underwear and pants that fit properly an erection shouldn't tentpost. For the most part, if it's even visible, people in any remotely professional setting will simply ignore it.

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RogueGypsy

Dude, relax. It's not all bad, libido + stimulation = erection. You're just healthy and inexperienced.

While there is some good advice in this thread, I don't see anything that will really help you long term. I've been there, though I had a bit more experience. In my late teens to my early 20's, Mr Happy had a mind of his own and exercised his will when he saw fit. Then I met a Cougar. Problem solved. Trust me on this, a cougar will not only solve your problem, but it's one hell of a fun ride from start to finish for both of you. Find a woman between 38 and 42, the combination of your libido and her perimenopausal hormones are fire and gasoline. WooHOO! When it finally smolders out after a couple of years, you'll both be happier, healthier people. The experience you'll come away with is priceless.



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Derwood

Enjoy it while it lasts, because when you get older, it takes more than a stiff breeze.....

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WhoaitsZ

dude, i often get fully hard just seeing a cure girl. thankfully since I am in a chair its easier to hide.

masturbating before going out can help. it also may change your mood and if you -do- luck out she may be unimpressed by your slow progress.

citadel

Exactly. Worst case scenario, you put your hand in your pocket and do some re-arranging.

FlatLand Flyer

This is a problem I wish I had and I'm only 31.

Zeraph

Try wearing boxer-briefs and, thick, loose pants.

Otherwise a girl rubbing on your junk is natural.

The other thing to remember is that people rarely look directly at your crotch.

Shadowex3

Actually thats a terrible idea: that gives you no support or guidance and will tentpost if you get a boner. Normal pants and briefs that are the right size will guide and support an erection up along the body in your preferred direction, creating a minimal bulge that doesnt flap around noticeably.

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citadel

Uh, not all penises erect at the same angle.

Shadowex3

Lay flat on your back with an erection. It will naturally find some way of laying flat against your abdomen. That's where briefs will hold it if you pop a stiffy while out and about. Unless of course your penis is on backwards and points down and behind you when erect, in which case I suggest pursuing a lucrative and varied career in pornography.

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MSD

Just tried this, my dick points right at the ceiling. Should I see a doctor?

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I censored my reply twice. Suffice it to say that I have a doctor in the house. And I want to see that particular doctor when I exhibit symptoms resembling that particular condition

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Shadowex3

As long as you can bend it to lay flat I'd say you're probably fine. Then again I'd also say that you should put a pinwheel on the end of your penis and I'm not a doctor so...

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citadel

Mine does too. Not everyone is shaped the same way, it's no big deal.

Strange Famous

To echo what others have said, I think it is quite normal to get a hard on if a girl is grinding against you in a nightclub. I certainly would.

I have actually gotten a hard on exchanging text messages with a girl in the past.

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In terms of mental tricks, think about sports. This works for me anyway. If I am on the bus, or at work or whatever and get a hard on I think really concentrated on playing football, and it normally downgrades to a semi within 10/15 seconds

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Anyway, getting a hard on too easy is a lot better than not being able to get one when you want it, isnt it?

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mathew856

I do agree with the previous user, getting a hard on too easy is much better than not being able to get one when needed

I'm 30 and I had the same problem. I improved my ejaculation time with Generic Priligy (Dapoxetine)
I went from 2 min to 20 min

Jaquen

Hello all! This is not only my first time posting, but this is my first visit to TFP period. But after reading this thread I had to comment.

I found this site searching for other men with the same "problem" as I have. I completely understand what the OP, and a few other gentlemen, have said about getting erections "too easily".

I have wondered for years if there was something "wrong" with me, or at the very least abnormal. I become very easily erect, too easily, under certain circumstances.

When I kiss my wife I get an erection, and I've been in love with this woman for over a decade. Sometimes all I have to do is hug her, and I'm up. If I feel extremely affectionate, but not necessarily horny or sexually excited, I'm still solid as a rock. I have never struggled with getting, or maintaining, an erection. Sometimes I'm not even in the mood and my wife, if she is, will "take advantage" of me knowing full well that very little will tip me over.

Some say this issue dies down after 30. Nope. I'm 31, turning 32 in less than two months. This is actually much "worse" now than when I was a teenager.

I'm a very loving guy, on the whole. I just feel a great deal of affection for the people in my life. Sometimes if I'm feeling very loving I'll pop wood. Not a sexual thought in my mind, but there I am, sporting a hard on. No desire to jack off, or have sex, but it's there. Those "non-sexual erections", which is how I refer to them, typically rise up fast and die down quick, versus sexual erections, which linger for quite awhile. This isn't the best reaction if you pop wood over your little nephew, or male best friend, giving you a hug. Or just because somebody says "I love you" and really means it.

Someone says masturbating helps. That is not the case for me. I can't jack everyday because masturbating for me just begets more masturbating; seldom will once do. I can go 3, 4, or sometimes more times in a day with no issue, sometimes it takes that much just to feel satisfied and have the urge finally die down. Sex is more satisfying, but even then if I wanted to I can almost always get going shortly after finishing.

The first time I ever came with a woman, when I was just barely 18, I was merely eating her out, with no direct contact on my genitalia.

But get this, porn, pics, photos, I'm fine with all those. I don't pop wood because I see a gorgeous girl out in about, or in real life, even if she is sexy or gorgeous. It's firmly rooted, for me, in actual affection, emotion, and sexually it's largely focused around my wife, whom I am still so in love with. I can go to the strip club and get a lap dance and not pop wood, but ask me to kiss my wife passionately without popping a hard one and it's literally impossible.

I spend my days constantly fluctuating between various states of erection. I don't spend my days steeped in sexual fantasy, or constantly starving for sex, but that seems to be irrelevant. I'm often at half mast more than I am completely flaccid. Even when I am am flaccid there is often an almost ever present "tingle" down there, as if it's ready to get going at any second.

I apologize for the length (every ounce of pun intended). But I'm just glad to see there are others who can relate.

Miss.Robyn

Meditation helps with erections, when you feel yourself getting hard just breathe and think about something other than females and your dick.

Blobert!

Dude, I get hard from a nice breeze. It's healthy and normal. It means your fucking penis works. The girls in pornos never seem too happy when they're trying to work on some dude's flacid monstrosity he had surgically enlarged and can't get hard anymore.

Or you could take the unethical amoral route and go down to TJ and bang the hell out of some mexican whore so you wont be so nervous around women anymore, knowing you finally fucked one.

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LOL! talk about impossible.

DB750

It's really not a big deal and not worth worrying about. I've heard from women that they expect you to get hard if they are grinding on you. It's not a surprise to them.