Xiomar

I don't know. It's just a whim. I really didn't know where to put this. so, here goes.
I've known this girl all my life. We spent our entire childhood together. She use to love getting me and my brother in trouble. Her and her mom moved away... flash foreward. She came back into our lives again, and even stayed with us for a couple of months. We both were suprised at how much the other had grown, and how good we looked. We slept together every night. Just slept. Cuddled... you know. She gets her house, I even helped her move in. I get a shitty G/F and lose contact with everyone. Including this girl. Flash foreward... 5 years later. This year to be exact. My mother passes away at the begining of the year. I am able to get ahold of everyone... exept this girl and her mom. After months of looking, I finally run into her mom. Her mom gives me her number, and I call and leave a message.
Next day, she calls back and we end up getting together to hang out that night. Now, after not seeing each other for so long, we both get out of our cars and look at each other. After a few seconds we hug and its just like we never lost touch. The whole night was spent catching up and interrupting as to how beautiful, or amazing the other looked.
Now, there has always been sexual tension between us. That I know. But when we first got out of the cars and looked at each other... my heart jumped. Skipped. Stopped. Whatever you want to call it. I couldn't breathe. I never thought of her in "that way". As a potential G/F or anything. I dunno. How do I know how she feels without blatantly coming out and asking her. I dont want to jeopardize this friendship of our lifetimes.
The reason why I am asking is... This kinda blindsided me. I totally wasnt looking for anyone... and "BAM". So I am REALLY confused. I dont know what to do.

Xio

Jaseca

Be honest and tell her how you feel or you'll always wonder. You're lifelong friends so if she doesn't feel the same way you'll work things out.

lurkette

What Jaseca said.

If you have the kind of friendship that's able to just pick up where you left off after 5 years, it'll be able to withstand it if she doesn't feel romantic towards you. Better to find out now and proceed on a solid footing of mutual understanding - platonic or otherwise - than to lust after her in silence and try to interpret every little nuance of what she says and does and cause you both confusion and upset.

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isandro

If she feels more or less the same way it could be the start of a fantastic relationship.

And I agree with Jaseca and Lurkette, find out or wonder forever. Trust me, that sucks

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Xiomar

This is insane. Im 28 year old for gods sake. I shouldn't be feeling like this. Maybe I'm just realizing what I want. What I really want. Hell, maybe wanted all along. You think I should talk with her?
I dunno. Heh, maybe If enough people tell me I should, I'll have to do it. The good kinda peer pressure... LMAO.
Hell.

Xio

ratbastid

When you're lying on your deathbed, it won't be the screwups or the times you tried and failed that you'll regret.

What you'll regret is the times you let your fear stop you from even trying.

Xiomar

Yeah... and If it goes like I want... It will be worth it. And if it doesn't I guess at least I'll know... Right?

motdakasha

It's now or never. Sort out confusion later.

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sub zero

Keep it real. I'm fairly sure you had to have thought of her in that way, if even for a glimpse of a moment.

To answer your post: You, as a friend, have the best opportunity to 'romance' her if you so choose. If I were in your position, I would do it in a heartbeat.

I wouldn't go about entrancing her with your love in just any old way. For instance, just going out and telling her? Fuck no. I'm going to let her feel it for herself first hand. I want her to be the one to realize that we could be amazing together.

How the hell could you make her realize that and get her to naturally fall into your love web? TOUCHING AND FEELING!

I may be going over the edge here, but this is what I deem is in order. Instead of just being a 'friend' to her, be a 'touchy' friend to her from now on. Start by being more sexual and more “touchy-feely” –flirt more. This could simply be you laying a hand on her shoulder or elbow while you're talking to her. And you could simply be more sexual by 'checking her out' every now and then -I’m hard on thinking at the moment, otherwise I’d suggest something else- and letting her know that along with all other men, <u>YOU</u> are a sexual being as well.

I'll suggest <a href="http://fastseduction.com/guide/03_Approaching/11_The_Patterns/p_indiff2attract.shtml">this webpage</a> for breaking the friendship barrier.

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Xiomar

Sub-Zero.... Sounds like a plan. I'm so on it.
Thanx, peeple.
Xio

sexymama

Xiomar, you definitely have reason to be more touchy feely; but you also should tell her how you are feeling. Most woman I know what to hear about, as well as feel, the love of their man. Be honest with her and don't play games! Tell her how you feel. My guess, from what you shared, is that she is having feelings too. Good luck and let us know what happens.

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Xiomar

So... I should do a lil of both? Makes scense. Thank you all
The one
The only...
Xio