Shell

I'm a one guy gal. That may sound boring to some but....it's not. Creativity, imagination, and keeping oneself fit and sexy makes up for it. I love making my man feel special and how would I do that if I had multiple partners?

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Craven Morehead

Shouldn't the limit imposed on a partner's sexual encounters be similar to the limit one would place on their own encounters?

Mantus

I hate the social double standards on this subject. I've even had a girl pull "this is my first time" ala Wedding Crashers on me.

Still, you can't lie about this if the plan is long term.

Too many cocks in one room that is

captaincanada84

I'm probably in the minority with this, but I've always felt that 1-3 partners is the best. I've had two including my current girlfriend. I just think of that kinda stuff as being too important and too special to just share with anyone that comes your way. Thinking that way has made things so much more exciting.

BlueStar

As others have said, it's not about the numbers, it's about the intentions and the person. If someone has had 20 vacation flings or nights on the town that left them smiling, or went through an exploratory phase where they set about trying different things with different partners, that's much different (and more attractive) than if they had ten attempted relationships that failed because of the same unrealistic expectations every time.

morepleasure

unless you have a friend who can help!

Iliftrocks

I agree. This much activity shows a lack of value of the act, and possibly of relationships in general. Not a big deal if your partner is of similar mind, but when you want to settle down to a serious relationship a partner who values these things will think that you don't, with good reason, value these things too.

Personally a very low number like 0 or 1 at an age of 25 is just as worrisome, as the person might be the type to commit too quickly and become your next stalker....

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MSD

I wouldn't even place that sort of limit on someone. If I meet a girl who's had plenty of partners but doesn't regret any of them and was safe with all of them, it won't bother me. It's getting into dangerous and regrettable behaviors for whatever reason that sets off alarm bells in my mind. The only number that matters to me is "none that I regret."

Plan9

"Little bits of skin. I begin to tear away, to tear away. Pin prick, beware I sold my, sold my soul. A restless reaction to what becomes the norm. Sold my soul for little bits of skin."

/inebriated post

ClayMan

I'd say 10+ is a bit much. But now ask me if I care. I don't. If someone calls you a slut reply with "Thank you." It only means you get more ass than them. lol.

xenonman

I would say that 30 is probably par for the course for anyone (either gender) coming of age since the Seventies.

Of course, women aren't supposed to openly keep such stats!

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I think that any figure above 100 should bwe suspect!

Baraka_Guru

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Plan9

What, Baraka? What?

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audioguru

And therein lies the rub, because you freaked out about one guy, which if she sensed was going to be problematic due to your nature, was a fib in the first place just to test the water and see how you would react. If you did react about the one guy you will never know anything else, that's the way it is.

Guys who flip out about sexual things in any way shape or form will never know their partner's real sexuality, their wife or girlfriend will simply keep that part of herself a secret. It's a huge percentage of married people that don't share their experiences or fantasies with the one they are married or living with.

My favorite thing in the world is getting someone to trust me enough to tell me their dark secrets and fantasies. I love it when I bring out a sexual side of a woman that may have been repressed all of their lives because guys do freak out about different things that might come out.

I have put it out there to engaged women right before they are going to get married that they owe themselves one last chance to turn loose for one of the greatest nights they've ever had in bed. You would be amazed about how many women will go for that, and I'm talking the uptight and straight laced ones that you'd never believe it of. I'm convinced that it wouldn't happen if they had guys who were open and easygoing about sex between them, they wouldn't be curious like that. What makes sex great is being able to be really open and honestly direct, what's more direct than suggesting one last fling that's purely about sex and nothing else?

I love a woman that has been with a fair number of men because they love sex, and you know what? They are a hell of a lot better in bed generally speaking than uptight women are.

Redlemon

Thanks for sharing, Audioguru, but no. (a), you missed the word "internally". (b), we have discussed *everything*, including going through old photo albums.

Also, "congratulations" on boning engaged women.

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Zeraph

Unless any of those number were being cheated on, I wouldn't care if a girl had had sex with 30+ guys. I'd ask her how long her relationships usually last. And if I was interested, then I'd talk to her about how we might make this one last.

Part of me actually likes the idea of dating a much more experienced woman. It means she's likely brave, good in bed (best part), good libido, and doesn't care what others think of her (ah and probably not religious ).

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I'm under 5, and the opposite of clingy. I wouldn't say that's true at all. I just like to get to know a girl better before I sleep with her, otherwise its ick.

PS and I'm a 26 year old male who went through college! Surprise!

Plan9

Wait, what does college have to do with anything?

It's scientific fact that stupid people have more sex.

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LordEden

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james t kirk

I'm the same way.

I love hearing about my GF's past. Totally turns me on. Don't know why, just does. I'm not really insecure about the number of men a woman has slept with. In fact, the more the better. It turns me on, and I love women who love cock. (I don't want to be with some up tight woman who was raised to keep a dime between her knees at all times. I want a woman who reaches down and crabs my cock and tells me to fuck the shit out of her.)

She5

Two people is too many.

dlish

you love a woman who crabs your cock huh??

hahah! thats the greatest freudian slip ive ever heard!

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typo

"grabs"