dlish

a woman gives her husband a 40th birthday present of "sex for 365 days".

she actually achieved that feat and went on to write a book about it.

i couldnt fathom having sex everyday. not sure i'd want it everyday.

would you have sex everyday if you could or if you were offered?

sometimes you're just not in the mood or sick or something.. but everyday without fail is astonishing.

fair play to her for going through it, but in the end she was looking forward to not giving him sex. so is that really a good outcome?

would you promise this to someone, and would you accept if it was offered to you?

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Poppinjay

I was offered this as a valentine's present when we were much younger, I didn't cash in on it. Like you post, there are some days when it's just, no. Tired, allergies, sick, pressing duties.

Quite frankly, I enjoyed it more when we were able to get together for lunch every day. That was sometimes (TMI), sometimes just a sandwich.

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Willravel

I'd have sex on the 366th day.

Baraka_Guru

I'd be happy with once a week....every week! For a whole year!

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snowy

We work to do something intimate every day--it's not always regular sex. Sometimes we masturbate together, sometimes he gets a BJ, sometimes we just snuggle because we're too tired to do anything else, or we're not in the mood. I think that's really the key here--intimacy, and doing something that puts you into regular physical contact with your partner, where you have to communicate about your wants and needs.

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Iliftrocks

I would like for someone to pledge to try this with.

Honestly, I'd probably start calling something else "sex" after a while though, just so the goal was doable. When I was 18, sex once a day forever looked realistic. At 41, not so much, but something sexual everyday is.

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Plan9

My initial snarky thought was: "Everyday?! With a woman?! Impossible! They don't even like sex."

Eh, that probably says a lot more about me than anything else. Heh.

I knew she'd get tired of it. I mean, you can wear out anything good.

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Yes, this was well put and I whole-hardon-ly agree.

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Poppinjay

Maybe some class, a bed with a frame, and a decent evening would help.

D and I do something intimate every day as suggested by Snowy. We care for our baby. We laugh with him, we hope this is the day he crawls, speaks, whatever.

Sorry for going all real on this thread. We have loads of sex. Loads of catch as catch can, here and there, occasional sex. Like once a year.

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Magpie_1

I can't imagine how you could have sex every day for 365 days in a row. I love sex and all but like we've all established. Some times you're just not in the mood. I would rather just cuddle and relax at times. Sex every day isn't necessary.

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PonyPotato

Sex every day for a year with my current partner would be physically impossible.

I get sore enough after a few days in a row that I just have to say no and offer something else just as satisfying. Perhaps if it wasn't full-on sex, but intimacy like Snowy described, it would be possible. If we lived closer together, anyway.

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kramus

Of course, pound into the mattress sex, or round and round with lotions and toys and suggestions to follow is great - but not twice a day. Not even once a day for this middle-aged fellow. I need a broader definition of having sex before it can be considered to be an everyday occurrence.

It is more doable if there is no need for either/both folks to "O". I personally like some sort of contact pretty well every day. That can be as simple as a caress, nuzzling a beautiful breast before getting out of bed in the morning. Kissing the back of her neck and holding her close as she's at the kitchen sink. Sometimes a bit of oral when squeezing past her study chair at the foot of the stairs. Maybe bending her over the bed for a minute of coitus before getting dressed, or pulling her on top for a languid minute of riding before sleep, or even just telling each other how great it was, or great it will be when that next full-on bout occurs.

This is doable 365 days a year. Especially for a guy who has zero interest in wearing the red badge of courage ( ) during those monthlies.

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Jozrael

I'm 20, and get sex far, far less often than I'd like. I'd prefer once a day to what I get, even though it could become a chore. Not for a whole year, though ><

lostgirl

I guess I am the weird one then, I WANT sex everyday. If we don't do it everyday it is usually because my SO is tired.

I know I have an unusually high sex drive for a girl, but I thought a lot of men would also be into it.

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Xerxys

Everyday .... this has actually ever happened?!?!?!

HELL YEAH!!!

vinceco252

Unless I am seriously sick or exhausted, I am probably good for at least 1 a day.

Willravel

We're not buying it, Xerxys. We know that, like any legitimate god-king, you have a massive harem you retreat to daily where servant girls answer your every whim gratefully. The facial piercings are a dead give away.

vinceco252

I've got to get me a harem...

dlish

come to arabia..i live in the desert with a whole tentful of harems

i dont think i could pleasure myself for 365 a year, let alone someone else everyday for a year...

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Martian

I'd much rather have great sex twice a week than mediocre sex daily.

When people are viewing sex similar to how they view doing the dishes you know something's fucked up.

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genuinegirly

I'm the same way, lostgirl.

My hubby is a gentle lover - I wouldn't be worn out if we enjoyed it every day. But every day doesn't always happen. Just frequently. We cuddle every night at least, which is emotionally fulfilling.

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lostgirl

I didn't think I was the only one. Nice to know I am not alone in this.

I don't view it like doing the dishes or anything similar at all and I think it's far from mediocre.

Just cause we do it a lot doesn't mean it's become boring or ritualized.

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Daniel_

I'm glad that the world has women like you in it.

And I'm even more glad that my wife is one of them.

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Shaindra

I'd settle for a man who wanted it every other day. But yeah, sign me up too. Especially if it doesn't have to be coitus everytime. Mutual masturbation, oral sex, or just plain messing around would suffice. I guess I'd settle for 15 minutes of skin-on-skin physical intimacy a day.

Nah, I lie.

Gimme my orgasms.

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SabrinaFair

I'd be thrilled just to have an SO that I saw every day...my gentleman friend and I only see each other once or twice a week right now because of our schedules. But yes, with the exception of illness, I'd be up for it every day. So long as it remained interesting, that is...this woman's story sort of depressed me. I don't want sex that is comparable to brushing your teeth.

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FelixP

I'm a virgin, so maybe I'm not one to answer this, but I can't imagine having sex every day when I'm 40. I mean, I'm 18 and I only rub it out 4-10 times a week.

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Plan9

Most of us guys were like that. I had this sex machine girlfriend when I was 18 and we used to rub each other out like like crazed mafia henchmen. I had a dozen orgasms over the course of a 16 hour day. Like rabbits in heat. Young, dumb, and full of... you get the picture.

Don't worry... when you get older and have more pressing responsibilities... sex becomes less of a way to spend an entire day with your partner and more like something you fit in between going to school, shoveling horse shit, doing household chores, and working a 9 to 5.

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Buk

That book has got to be one giant pile of bullshit, what could possibly be worth writing 300 pages about in a 40-year old married couple's sex life?

Lets set this up for you:
Playboy Playmate's sex life = interesting
Your Aunt Ida's sex life = not interesting
You Aunt Ida and Uncle Herb having sex 365 times in the same position with maybe a new nightie to spice it up once in a while, and then there was that one time with the dog collar = still not interesting

little_tippler

I've had an ex who thought this was a pretty normal request. I don't think I can physically have sex every single day. So that didn't work. I have girl friends who are happy to have sex every day. Something sexual every day seems feasible except when one of the partners is ill. I don't know...I don't think I personally want to have sex every single day. A few times a week sounds good, if I'm in the right mood. Sometimes there are other things you want to do with your time. Sometimes you're in the wrong mood. More than a few times weekly I think would turn sex into an obligation. I hate obligations.

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najo

I think it is awesome they pulled it off. It would be more interesting to have sex every day for a year and have to change the way you have sex or mix it up in some way each time, requiring you to get kinkier and creative each time. Maybe keep it simple and say you have to try something new that you haven't before or alternate between you and your partner each day with the person whose day it is gets to pick the fantasy to live out (choosing any boundries ahead of time).

asaris

My fiancee and I try to have sex every day, even if we're a little tired or whatever. We don't always make it, but I'm sure our average is over once a day.

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Xerxys

http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/tilted-...ml#post2626380

http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/tilted-...ml#post2629426

http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/tilted-...ml#post2631031

Strange Famous

Broadly yes, I think I'd be up for sex every day, ideally one helping before breakfast, one at tea time and once at bedtime.

I could see that there might be some days I wouldnt be in the mood (such as England losing, or playing shit for my soccer team that day) but I would probably still manage it by breakfast time the next day. If (probably when) my football (soccer) team is relegated this weekend maybe that would just kill me for a few days and I couldnt do anything.

I think I have a pretty healthy sex drive. I certainly in my life can think of very times Ive had the possibiliity of a screw and havent felt like it.

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