opentocomments

Now, as of late i've been having a problem. First and formost i love and cherish my girlfriend. I couldn't see myself with anyone besides her. She is the type of girl I would be happy to settle down with and eventually start a family. We've been together for about 2 years now. Until somewhat recently i never had the thought or inclination to cheat or persue other women. Now its not even that i want to cheat but mostly the fact that i look at other women with this desire and longing that wasn't there for the first 18 months of our relationship. I really just what this inate desire to oogle other women to go away. I just need to figure out how to make other women no longer so physically attractive. This is definitly a strictly physical phenominon because I don't act on it and its always the most sexy women i run into but if i see a fit girl walking down the street in a tight skirt my brian says, "just run up to her rip the skirt off and do what god made you to do" obviously this isn't a fisable option on any level but my brain is thinking it. Where did this come from? Where do i go from here?

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Seaver

It comes from testosterone. It won't go away. Your GF probably has the same urges. You can either get over it and be in monogomy, or lose her.

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Sue

Exactly. Just have more sex with your gf, or start masturbating more.

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Manic_Skafe

Just as Seaver said, your woman probably has the same feelings about other people. Have you to considered sharing your fantasies with each other?

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ratbastid

Well. Just so we're clear, there are other alternatives.

They ALL start with communication, though.

Xerxys

What does "fisable" mean?? If you meant "feasible" then I think it would actually cost you nothing to

OK, you've got plenty of testosterone and you want to have sex with every female specie that looks like she'll stand still long enough right?? So, what's your question exactly???? Dude, these urges are not asking you to cheat on your girl, they're just there because your male, acting on them would be wrong, you do, have a brain.

You can't stop them so why not just jump your girlfriend every time a very fit girl just walks by? And also, ratbastid was right, tell her, after two years she should know how you feel. Any male appreciates women. Yes, ANY male. Women are gods secret to eternal living and don't I know it well coz I feel this way every time!!! If the two of you have a laugh at this, I know you won't fool around.

If you love her, you will be open enough to NEVER not tell her anything!!!

Plan9

Congratulations! You're a human male and your sex organs are fully functional. Let's tell you what you've won!

- A raging hard-on that'll last nearly forever even despite a horrible car accident or debilitating cancer thanks to rapid advances in sexual pharmaceuticals
- Impulse control necessary to remain free in society, something that prevents those god-made-me-do-it daily skirt-rippings
- A relationship with another person for physical, mental emotional, social, and financial reasons

Your options in this situation:

- "Dancing with myself." - Masturbate furiously, a common option for many folks entrenched in "serious" relationships
- "Let's get it on." - Communicate your frustration and have more sex with your partner
- You can cheat on your partner and regret it for the rest of your life as it ruins your current relationship, undermines your honesty, and shows that you selfishly cater to your own every whim like a house cat near shiny things
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Within two standard deviations?

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elgeebar

ditto... I can never stress communication enough!

dlish

what crompsin said.

one other option would be to take estrogen and lower your testosterone levels, and probably get 'bitch tits' along the way.

id recommend either of crompsins first two options

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Aladdin Sane

Welcome to male human hell my friend. I'm with you, but I'm older. This is the way of the world and there is nothing to be done about it. It never goes away. It becomes easier, but it's always present. If you make a commitment to one woman, you live with the great dilemma. Otherwise, you go with the instinct God gave you and you spread your seed.

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Craven Morehead

I look at other women with desire and longing, also.

Isn't life grand? Enjoy the view.

Anormalguy

So you're a guy who notices attractive women & has carnal thoughts about them despite being in a relationship with a woman that you love...Welcome to the club!

My wife & I dealt with this easily. Early in our relationship we agreed that looking but not touching (by both of us) was cool. We know that we find other people attractive, and know that attraction sometimes involves sexual thoughts.

I don't mean to be a prick, but I do hope that you were exaggerating when you wrote "just run up to her rip the skirt off and do what god made you to do."

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Baraka_Guru

Jesus...come on, people!

The answer is porn! Pee-oh-arr-en... PORN!

Let's not try to reinvent the wheel here....

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Plan9

Yeah, I used to work at a pharmacy and they prescribed Depo Provera, the female birth control, to male sex weirdoes to keep their body chemistry outta the horny range. Check out this link: Male Chemical Castration
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Porn is the work of the debbil! It degrades women and turns men into filthy beasts!
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Party night at the local college: "I'm so sorry... see, God made me do it!" (zips up, leaves)

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What? When the hell did that happen? Jeez, I better watch my grammar.

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