deBauch

I absolutely fucking well love bondage and I want to chuck some stuff out there and see what comes back.

I'm the least controlling person in the world me, male Pisces, we just go with the flow and although we can handle ourselves we tend to go out of our way to avoid confrontation, pain or aggression.

The other point that somewhat confuzzles me about my love of bondage is that I'm a "giver" in the sack and yet strapping someone to a bed is a bit of a one way street.

Any bondage lovers here that could help peel back the onion layers ?

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Dtamr

I dont quite understand. You want our opinion on bondage?

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deBauch

Opinions would be good, experiences, pro's, con's, good rope burn ointment solutions

I havent got the first clue to be honest, I've never gotten into any kind of introspective chin wag on the subject.

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Dtamr

Well, different people would have different opinions. I was talking a friend of mine after he just got back from visiting the Folsom Street Fair in San Fransisco (lucky bastidge) and he said it was the best few days of his life. It's always been a dream of mine to go there.

My personal experiences with bondage have been very few. I always thought it was very hot to see that my girlfriend had enough trust to let me tier her up and do whatever I wished to her; the only problem is getting enough free time with one another and getting the place to ourselves so we can really go nuts, as it were. Usually I tie her up and break out the nine-tails, since she's a bit of a fan of pain. I can also drag her to the tub and splash cold and hot water on her, depending on how I feel. It's really a head rush to know that someone's completley trusting you. It took a long time for the trust in our relationship to build up to the point where she was okay with me tying her up. To this day she has never regretted it and it is always my pleasure to tie her up.

Remember that not everyone is into bondage. I know quite a few people that are disgusted by it. When I tried to talk to a friend of mine about he deftly changed the subject. It made him really uncomfortable to even talk about it, much less approach the thought with any sort of open-mindedness, so I didnt really push the subject. (Okay, maybe a little, but his reaction was worth it.) That being said, some people cant go one sexual encounter without a cat-of-nine-tails in the same room.

As for myself? I can take it or leave it. It does not give me any physical pleasure to tie her up, but I know she loves it, so it makes me happy to know that she gets pleasure from the act. Plus, it makes her hotter, and who am I to argue with the facts?

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deBauch

Good point regarding the trust factor.

I've never really thought that deeply about it because all of my long term sexual partners have been as open minded / borderline perverted as me lol. but I'm sure that now, whilst thinking about it, that basic building block of trust adds to the liberation on the whole thing.

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MSD

If you just like the restraint and not the rope factor or elaborate tie-ups, leather straps are the way to go.

And the typical warning, no handcuffs, even fuzzy ones. It seems like a great idea until you hear about the experience from someone who broke her wrist and has nerve damage from metal cuffs.

MzNadia

I so need a teacher!

Jenna

So you're saying you love bondage but you don't like pain or aggression?

I'm kind of the opposite. I'm not really a huge fan of bondage but I really love scratching, biting and choking in bed. I wouldn't say that I like to go as far as needle play, or knife play, etc. But a good amount of pain is amazing at times.

I'm the submissive and he's the dominant in most situations.

But I definitely think it takes time and trust to get to that stage in a sexual relationship. I wouldn't want some random person I met at a bar choking me in bed...

deBauch

Bloody good advice and not just with metal cuffs, I had a partner who put way to much pressure on the ties when tied stood up with her legs giving way from coming so hard. Sounds good at the time but her wrists were numb for days


We could cyber bondage if you can learn to type with your nose.

I can't do the pain thing, dishing it out or taking it beyond a good firm spanking.

This is a part of the whole bondage gig that I am looking to explore here, trying to figure out what could be considered as a violent or extreme form of sex being conducted by someone who is the complete opposite.

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Halx

Well, bondage doesn't necessarily mean pain. You should read the book "Bondage" by Patti Davis. It is a fiction novel, but it teaches about various types of bondage. Most interestingly, dom/sub relationships that involve more love and care than pain. There is also the delicate side of bondage - playing with a blindfold and manipulating your partner's senses. This is the bondage for you.

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