Mantus

Hey guys. Long time no see. Allot has happened to me over the past few years. I've gone though the whole "player" phase. Slept around allot. Learned much about myself. Now I am in a nine month long relationship which I am absolutely ecstatic with. I am pretty sure I'll marry this girl.

More importantly though is that I've learned so much about myself, sexuality and women over the past few years. It's been an incredible ride with it's highest highs and terrible lows. Now I am just comfortable. I got it. I've figured out the basics of what makes a relationship tick. Sweetness! A big sigh of relief. It's like learning how to surf and finally catching that awesome wave, getting up on that board, and ridding it to the end. You get to the beach and realize that you did it and that you can do it again. You are finally free to just Enjoy.

I have to say that I couldn't have done it with you guys. This board. This group of open minded people. This forum did so much to get me on my way to sexual liberation, education and every other 'ation. Cheers to the Tilted Forum Project.

soma

Care to share

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ubertuber

Glad to hear such good news Mantus.

How about generating a list of "what I learned about love from TFP"?

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BogeyDope

Communication...and the occasional gifts

Plan9

So... I should skank myself around and find the one girl who amuses me the most?

Dude, that's the life!

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Whatever you can carry.

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Willravel

Whoa, blast from the past. Welcome back and congrats on being in such a great situation. You should name your first kid "Tilted".

analog

Wow- been a while.

It's great to hear from you, and I'm glad you're in such a happy place. Congrats!

mixedmedia

Yay!

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World's King

So what exactly did you learn?



And welcome back after almost a year.

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snowy

Mantus! Glad to see you back.

I gotta agree with you...we have a lot of intelligent, wise people around these parts.

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dlish

or Halx

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- Filthy

james t kirk

Only if he is as well "equipped" ahem.

Mantus

Guess I'll start one thing at a time.

Cognitive Disonance.

We often think about the future or the past. We create personas for our partners to wear. We think of how our lovers were or how they should be. There is much that we do which takes us away from the moment happening right now. All these things stop us from seeing what's happening right before our eyes. It makes us see someone else before us. It makes us miss out on how wonderful, beautiful and special our lovers trully are RIGHT NOW.

I think the most common scenario is one where the honeymoon hormones run out (yes this is a natural human biological process) and we panic. We long for the sex life and feeling we used to have. The truth is that there is a whole world of love and sexuality beyond that initial phase of lust. We just have to stop trying to hold on to the past and look at the pressent.

You know how when we meet someone we pay attention to everything they do because every action is novel to us. Well relationaships grow and people change. The person you've been with all this time can still surprise you.

So that's my first lesson learned. To stay in the moment. To appreciat the now, what's real, before me.

roobix

congratulations on finding your mate, mate