match000

Not to be cheeky, but I think you mean "or" not "and". That second choice is pretty daunting..

Willravel

"This" is one choice and "this" is the other. They both work.

match000

I told my brother my decision..

He told me I was the biggest fucking retard in the world. He said even with everyone else telling me the same thing... that I choose that..

He told me.. "I'll tell you straight up.. man-to-man.. I would have never continued with this, noone would.. you can seriously get hurt.. and it would take you years to recover (possibly). Why would want this.. it's like second hand crap.. noone wants that.. its like picking through trash.. I would never date a girl with trust issues.. i don't care if she's the most beautiful girl in the world.. You only go after the best ones.. they are the only ones who are worth it.."

ehhh. I am reconsidering.. godamnit

Rudel73

she doesnt have the trust issues man, its you. Break up with her or not, she did nothing wrong with this guy. She was not your girlfriend at the time, therefor, nothing is wrong with what she did. You dont own her. Stop snooping, chill out, and just be happy that you are with someone! Freaking about the smallest thing is only going to push her away! Just have fun, you only live once man, dont take things so seriously!

match000

I understand your view.. however, lying about protection for sex that was 1 month ago, with your new bf, is a big lie.. what if i got HIV.. eh?

i did it. i broke up. i'm going to cry now.

ItWasMe

Well, hun, here's my shoulder and a box of kleenex. I feel for you.

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Destrox

2... 3 months from now, you'll look back at this talking with your friends or brother and realize "Wow, what the hell was I thinking."

Better yet, you'll find your self a new girl, one that is more.... compatible.... with you.

My advice? Make female friends first, then work the dating game with them. (Whether it is with them, or friends they suggest.) Worked wonders for me.

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jumboshrimp

Hello all, accidentally stumbled onto this forum, deemed this topic interesting so I read through it and decided to register to drop my opinion (probably won't stay long b/c I hate these colors)

I think alot of you guys are overly harsh and unfair considering his circumstance, this being one of those situations where you don't know how it feels until it happens to you. Its worthy to mention that I've been through something similar (though not to that extent) so I'd hate to think I was siding with the victim, but I think he is just that. She gave him multiple reasons to not trust her I don't agree with stealing her pass /snooping her email, (thats on some FBI level) ... but that message he found is very telling, and the fact that she neglected to bring it up when he allowed her further proves her deceit and intent.

I could understand if this was a vocal convo, but theres no reason for a pause ("errhm") in an email, clearly that is a blatant sexual innuendo

From my point of view the answer you chose was the only and obvious one and trust me I know that its always easier to give advice than take advice, especially when you don't want to give up on your feelings.
As far as your snooping behind her back, that is as low as it gets, but since he snooped and found something it rasies the question: Is it really that bad? Its sorta like questioning the guy beside you on a plane, so you decide to pat him down and find a b0mb on him - Then at the end of the day is that really wrong?

match000

I spoke to her for two hours on the phone.. she cried and cried and wanted me back.. and wanted me to give her one last chance..

This time I do believe her when she tells me her best friends (gay friend and girl) told her to not tell me about the previous guy and the previous guy sex.. they thought it was none of my business and they (naively) thought that the unprotected sex wasn't a concern of mine, as long as she was fine (no STD's).

I understand all the issues here.. trust or not trust.. it's just my first time breaking up with someone and I don't know what to do when they call you back and cry and cry, she tells me she loves me and truly loves me and would never intend to hurt me in the future.. and she just wants one more chance.. at least until the end of this year.. I kept telling her I just want to be her closest friend (non-romantic) and that I don't think we are meant for one another romantically.. I don't know what else to say. I feel so tempted to just switch my decision, I hate to see someone sooo sad and I do care alot for her..

Argh.. I wish we were all hermaphrodites so we wouldn't have to deal with relationships..

The_Jazz

Really? You sure?

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