Best First Dates You've Been On - Tilted Forum Project Discussion Community

Sharon · 03-14-2007, 07:18 AM

Note: This thread was originally in Ladies Lounge. analog suggested moving it to Tilted Sexuality since we got a good response from guys PM'ing me... so now the guys will be able to respond too. Please note that this is about DATE IDEAS, not a thread to brag about dates where you got laid in the end! Thanks analog!

Just had lunch with some friends who I hadn't seen for ages, and the younger brother of a friend of mine (he's 18 and in his first year at university here) was asking for girl advice. The girls in the group gave him lots of tips and hints, and I think that boy is going to have lots of female company throughout university if he puts any of it into practice!

One of the most fun questions he asked was about ideas for a first date. Our basic conclusion was that anything was better than a movie, especially if it's fun, creative and different. His standard one is to buy ice cream and walk around window shopping, mainly because it's cheap and girls seem to like it (all the girls agreed).

I thought I'd pose the question here, firstly for fun and nostalgia for us girlies, and secondly as it may help some of our younger male members. Guys, if you have taken girls on first dates which worked out REALLY well, send me a PM and I'll post for ya.

Second or third date ideas are welcome too, but first dates are so critical (and nerve-wracking) that I think we should focus primarily on those.

little_tippler · 03-14-2007, 12:00 PM

Hmm. Window shopping while eating ice cream is not, to me, a great first date. All of us are different - there's no recipe. I wouldn't like the window-shopping thing because it would have to be near shops where it'll probably be crowded, loud, no privacy to talk with any kind of intimacy, and I'm also not that big on ice cream.

I'd much rather a drink in a cosy bar or café, in the evening. That means that if the date goes well, you could move on to dinner if you like each other enough.

I also like going for a walk on the beachfront or sitting somewhere outdoors that's pretty, and not too crowded. Ice cream here would be nicer to me. This would be a good afternoon date.

A first date on the beach is by far the best I've had - on a hot day I mean. Nothing like a bit of skin, skimpy bathing suits, sand, sea and water sports, sun and salt to make you feel alive.

Sharon · 03-14-2007, 05:56 PM

Contribution from a male member:

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I went on a date a couple of years ago with a woman I'd met at a party. We were going out for dinner, and on the way to the restaurant, we passed a bookstore, and she turned to me and said, "Oh, I love this bookstore, you mind if we go in?" I was thinking, "Damn, I think I'm in love already."

Jennifer · 03-15-2007, 04:41 PM

I am currently with my first boyfriend, so I've only had one first date

Our university was having a little speed-dating thing for Valentine's Day and he asked me a few times if I was going, so I said yes. Afterwards, he, I, and two other friends played games like Donkey Conga and Worms. Then we watched Saw III and he and I ended up hugging each other during the whole movie. Afterwards, we decided to start going out. It was one of the happiest moments I've had

Atropos4 · 03-15-2007, 04:42 PM

Going for a nice walk. Before Alpha phi and I were actually dating. I had decided I liked him and walked to his apartment. He was just leaving to walk to get smokes. I playfully gave him a violet I had picked abscentmindedly. I went with him and we ended up walking all over town, not downtown but made our way to the park by the river and talked. I remember clearly it was the first day it was warm enough to not wear a jacket because we ended up taking our jackets off as we walked. A while after we were together for a couple years I was looking through one of his plant books and found the violet I had given him that day.

Another thing to point out. At least for me...picking wildflowers and tieing them with yarn or string is WAY better than roses or storebought. Alpha phi did this on another date of ours and I think I kept the string.

Sharon · 03-18-2007, 03:43 AM

Another contribution from a male member:

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I kind of like the idea of shopping on a first date. Typically I will meet a girl at a bar or club, and as I tend to goto the same bars moreso than others, asking them to goto the bar we met is imo odd.
I believe someone's fashion sense tells a lot about someone. (Think forest gump regarding shoes

) Anyways, I like a women who presents themselves well, and fashion is key in this. With meeting them @ a bar and then the first date, your typically going to get their 2 best outfits. By going to a mall or some other shopping centre, you could quickly get an idea of what they like for themselves, and also important what they like on guys.
Malls also typically have a nice restaurant that you could also goto have have dinner and drinks. either before or after.

Sharon · 03-19-2007, 06:06 AM

Yet another contribution from a male member... maybe this should be in the sexuality forum.

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One date was absolutely perfect. There was a great film festival going on and she picked one movie and I picked one movie and we chatted for hours afterwards in the lobby of the theater. They had good couches since it was an independent theater. I massaged her sore feet after she mentioned her sore feet.

Another perfect first date was in a park in the summer. I drove her in my car and she grabbed the blanket out of the backseat with my asking for it. She and I chatted for a few hours and then made out as the sun filtered through the cherry and apple trees. No bugs so that was lucky.

eileenbunny · 03-19-2007, 09:13 PM

When my husband called to ask me out for our first date he asked me to go to the movies, so I was a little disappointed. However, he took me to see The Wizard of Oz (one of my favorite movies). After that he took me to the small airfield he flew a plane out of and showed me the airplane and taught me how it worked. I thought that was pretty cool.

Then he took me to a nearby park and we played on the swings and stuff. We ended the night by walking around on a golf course and looking at the stars. It was really romantic. When he took me home he kissed me on the cheek and told me he was "really fond of me". I'll never forget it.

serlindsipity · 03-26-2007, 05:05 PM

i have to say going flying for a date was by far the biggest kick in the pants. We picked up a dinner, and loaded it and us into the plane and flew to some hole in the wall air strip (ugly as hell) and ust hung out. It was awesome.

cellophanedeity · 03-26-2007, 08:13 PM

My first boyfriend (my best friend now!) lives in a really old part of the city and out near a forest, so we went for a nice long walk through the wooded area and the fields in his backyard (before it was turned into a subdivision) and we ended up in a really old graveyard.

We just talked and walked for a couple of hours then went back to his house for drinks, but it was very nice.

StellaLuna · 04-15-2007, 12:31 PM

The best first date I ever had was when a sweet guy from one of my classes called me late at night and took me to the only place in our little town that was open for pie and coffee.
That was also the last actual date I ever had... I miss those sometimes!

Beyond_Borders · 05-07-2007, 07:20 PM

I think my best first date would have been my first date with Tyson. WE were friends for a while before dating, probably a year or so, and then we decided to try dating.

He picked me up from work,(around 2) we walked across the street to this cute little shop and got gelato, which is some kind of ice cream like substance, talked for an hour , then went and had a cute lunch/dinner, walked around for a bit, and went down tot he beach. Thats a pretty far walk as it is. But we walked to along the beach for a little bit untill it started to rain. And instead of running for cover, we jsut sat in the rain and waited for the stars.

We started making out to make hte time go by faster.. lmao. And the next thing i know theres a million stars above us. We lay there, me in his arms, head on his chest, watchign the stars and lo and behold what could this night use but a shooting star. So i said, "Make a wish". He looked me int he eye and said, "What for? I have everything I need right here in my arms."

My god do i love him...

analog · 05-08-2007, 09:29 PM

I went on a first date with one girl to a wine tasting. It wasn't my thing, but she was all about it, so I figured we'd go.

The best part for me was... I got to just relax and enjoy being with her while she enjoyed the event. And really, nothing lets you shine more as a person who can have fun anywhere, at any time, than at an event she knows you really aren't interested in. Don't get me wrong, I find it interesting to some degree and I did enjoy sampling some various wines, but I know fuckall about wine and don't care to learn beyond what type goes with what food.

So all night while we were there, I got to play around and be goofy so she enjoyed the event AND my company. We'd be walking around and I'd randomly adopt different accents as I pretended to be snooty and sample something. I'd break contact for a minute to go grab some cheese or something and then come back and pretend to be picking her up like we'd never met. Any girl I'd be interested in loves a good sense of humor... and man, she loved mine.

And really, all the nice dinners or fancy plans in the world won't amount to much if, at the end of the night, she doesn't enjoy your company enough to want to keep you around more.

xepherys · 05-10-2007, 03:30 AM

As typical as it may sound, my best first date was with my wife. It wasn't fancy or clever, it was just GOOD! It was a pretty typical dinner and a movie type of date, and a few hours of talking afterwords in the parking lot when I dropped her off at her car (her work at the time).

In my mind it just proved the best date isn't the where, it's the who with.

03-14-2007, 07:18 AM	#1 (permalink)
Sharon Coy, sultry and... naughty! Location: Across the way	Best First Dates You've Been On Note: This thread was originally in Ladies Lounge. analog suggested moving it to Tilted Sexuality since we got a good response from guys PM'ing me... so now the guys will be able to respond too. Please note that this is about DATE IDEAS, not a thread to brag about dates where you got laid in the end! Thanks analog! Just had lunch with some friends who I hadn't seen for ages, and the younger brother of a friend of mine (he's 18 and in his first year at university here) was asking for girl advice. The girls in the group gave him lots of tips and hints, and I think that boy is going to have lots of female company throughout university if he puts any of it into practice! One of the most fun questions he asked was about ideas for a first date. Our basic conclusion was that anything was better than a movie, especially if it's fun, creative and different. His standard one is to buy ice cream and walk around window shopping, mainly because it's cheap and girls seem to like it (all the girls agreed). I thought I'd pose the question here, firstly for fun and nostalgia for us girlies, and secondly as it may help some of our younger male members. Guys, if you have taken girls on first dates which worked out REALLY well, send me a PM and I'll post for ya. Second or third date ideas are welcome too, but first dates are so critical (and nerve-wracking) that I think we should focus primarily on those. Last edited by Sharon; 05-08-2007 at 01:17 AM.. Reason: Added note for move to Tilted Sexuality

03-14-2007, 12:00 PM	#2 (permalink)
little_tippler Leaning against the -Sun- Super Moderator Location: on the other side	Hmm. Window shopping while eating ice cream is not, to me, a great first date. All of us are different - there's no recipe. I wouldn't like the window-shopping thing because it would have to be near shops where it'll probably be crowded, loud, no privacy to talk with any kind of intimacy, and I'm also not that big on ice cream. I'd much rather a drink in a cosy bar or café, in the evening. That means that if the date goes well, you could move on to dinner if you like each other enough. I also like going for a walk on the beachfront or sitting somewhere outdoors that's pretty, and not too crowded. Ice cream here would be nicer to me. This would be a good afternoon date. A first date on the beach is by far the best I've had - on a hot day I mean. Nothing like a bit of skin, skimpy bathing suits, sand, sea and water sports, sun and salt to make you feel alive. __________________ Whether we write or speak or do but look We are ever unapparent. What we are Cannot be transfused into word or book. Our soul from us is infinitely far. However much we give our thoughts the will To be our soul and gesture it abroad, Our hearts are incommunicable still. In what we show ourselves we are ignored. The abyss from soul to soul cannot be bridged By any skill of thought or trick of seeming. Unto our very selves we are abridged When we would utter to our thought our being. We are our dreams of ourselves, souls by gleams, And each to each other dreams of others' dreams. Fernando Pessoa, 1918

03-15-2007, 04:42 PM	#5 (permalink)
Atropos4 Think about it Location: North Carolina	Going for a nice walk. Before Alpha phi and I were actually dating. I had decided I liked him and walked to his apartment. He was just leaving to walk to get smokes. I playfully gave him a violet I had picked abscentmindedly. I went with him and we ended up walking all over town, not downtown but made our way to the park by the river and talked. I remember clearly it was the first day it was warm enough to not wear a jacket because we ended up taking our jackets off as we walked. A while after we were together for a couple years I was looking through one of his plant books and found the violet I had given him that day. Another thing to point out. At least for me...picking wildflowers and tieing them with yarn or string is WAY better than roses or storebought. Alpha phi did this on another date of ours and I think I kept the string. __________________ Minds are like parachutes. They work better open. "If I were Hermione, I would have licked his pantleg."

03-26-2007, 05:05 PM	#9 (permalink)
serlindsipity Psycho Location: Boulder Baby!	i have to say going flying for a date was by far the biggest kick in the pants. We picked up a dinner, and loaded it and us into the plane and flew to some hole in the wall air strip (ugly as hell) and ust hung out. It was awesome. __________________ My third eye is my camera's lens.

05-07-2007, 07:20 PM	#12 (permalink)
Beyond_Borders Tilted Location: Canada	I think my best first date would have been my first date with Tyson. WE were friends for a while before dating, probably a year or so, and then we decided to try dating. He picked me up from work,(around 2) we walked across the street to this cute little shop and got gelato, which is some kind of ice cream like substance, talked for an hour , then went and had a cute lunch/dinner, walked around for a bit, and went down tot he beach. Thats a pretty far walk as it is. But we walked to along the beach for a little bit untill it started to rain. And instead of running for cover, we jsut sat in the rain and waited for the stars. We started making out to make hte time go by faster.. lmao. And the next thing i know theres a million stars above us. We lay there, me in his arms, head on his chest, watchign the stars and lo and behold what could this night use but a shooting star. So i said, "Make a wish". He looked me int he eye and said, "What for? I have everything I need right here in my arms." My god do i love him... __________________ She's had a thrill, a shot to slam, enough to start a riot. Everybody wants a piece, but only you're invited

03-15-2007, 04:41 PM	#4 (permalink)
Jennifer Upright	I am currently with my first boyfriend, so I've only had one first date Our university was having a little speed-dating thing for Valentine's Day and he asked me a few times if I was going, so I said yes. Afterwards, he, I, and two other friends played games like Donkey Conga and Worms. Then we watched Saw III and he and I ended up hugging each other during the whole movie. Afterwards, we decided to start going out. It was one of the happiest moments I've had

03-19-2007, 09:13 PM	#8 (permalink)
eileenbunny Upright Location: Columbia, MD	When my husband called to ask me out for our first date he asked me to go to the movies, so I was a little disappointed. However, he took me to see The Wizard of Oz (one of my favorite movies). After that he took me to the small airfield he flew a plane out of and showed me the airplane and taught me how it worked. I thought that was pretty cool. Then he took me to a nearby park and we played on the swings and stuff. We ended the night by walking around on a golf course and looking at the stars. It was really romantic. When he took me home he kissed me on the cheek and told me he was "really fond of me". I'll never forget it.

03-26-2007, 08:13 PM	#10 (permalink)
cellophanedeity Heliotrope Location: A warm room	My first boyfriend (my best friend now!) lives in a really old part of the city and out near a forest, so we went for a nice long walk through the wooded area and the fields in his backyard (before it was turned into a subdivision) and we ended up in a really old graveyard. We just talked and walked for a couple of hours then went back to his house for drinks, but it was very nice.

04-15-2007, 12:31 PM	#11 (permalink)
StellaLuna Psycho Location: hiding behind wings	The best first date I ever had was when a sweet guy from one of my classes called me late at night and took me to the only place in our little town that was open for pie and coffee. That was also the last actual date I ever had... I miss those sometimes!

05-08-2007, 09:29 PM	#13 (permalink)
analog Banned	I went on a first date with one girl to a wine tasting. It wasn't my thing, but she was all about it, so I figured we'd go. The best part for me was... I got to just relax and enjoy being with her while she enjoyed the event. And really, nothing lets you shine more as a person who can have fun anywhere, at any time, than at an event she knows you really aren't interested in. Don't get me wrong, I find it interesting to some degree and I did enjoy sampling some various wines, but I know fuckall about wine and don't care to learn beyond what type goes with what food. So all night while we were there, I got to play around and be goofy so she enjoyed the event AND my company. We'd be walking around and I'd randomly adopt different accents as I pretended to be snooty and sample something. I'd break contact for a minute to go grab some cheese or something and then come back and pretend to be picking her up like we'd never met. Any girl I'd be interested in loves a good sense of humor... and man, she loved mine. And really, all the nice dinners or fancy plans in the world won't amount to much if, at the end of the night, she doesn't enjoy your company enough to want to keep you around more.

05-10-2007, 03:30 AM	#14 (permalink)
xepherys <3 TFP Location: 17TLH2445607250	As typical as it may sound, my best first date was with my wife. It wasn't fancy or clever, it was just GOOD! It was a pretty typical dinner and a movie type of date, and a few hours of talking afterwords in the parking lot when I dropped her off at her car (her work at the time). In my mind it just proved the best date isn't the where, it's the who with. __________________ The prospect of achieving a peace agreement with the extremist group of MILF is almost impossible... -- Emmanuel Pinol, Governor of Cotobato My Homepage