Manorfire

Perhaps the opposite of the squirting female orgasm is the dry male orgasm? Have you come across this before?

Men can achieve 'dry orgasms' through a variety of means. Sometimes it's a medical condition, where semen flows backwards into the bladder, rather than travelling through the urethra. I imagine that you might want to visit your doctor if this happens.

But, by deliberately putting pressure on the perineum (the beginning of the urethra between the anus and testicles) immediately after orgasm, you can cause the urethra to close during ejaculation and no semen will escape. This slightly hurts your testicles and your anus and can be internally damaging, so I don't recommend it to everyone. It is the easier way to do it, though.

However, by contracting the same muscles directly during orgasm as those used to forcefully stop urination, you can have a dry orgasm more safely and it doesn't hurt me. This can take some practice, but if you master it, longer, more intense orgasms, or even the capability of having multiple orgasms, is possible. Also, the length of time before you can go again - your refractory period - is greatly reduced.

Dry orgasms can also happen if you ejaculate multiple times in a short period of time, such as an hour, as the first few ejaculations have used up the available stored seminal fluid.

Some men can experience an orgasm through their minds without attempted ejaculation or even penetration. This type of dry orgasm is one of the goals of Tantric sex, but that's another thread.

So, is this something you find interesting? Think of the savings you'd make on condoms. No unwanted pregnancies. No infected ejaculate. No sticky patches. Hmmm, if only.

But, then where's the fun if you're not painting the town white, eh?

mixedmedia

I can't imagine why a man would want to do this. Of course, I'm not a man, but I must admit I am kind of partial to the male ejaculate.

And I highly doubt it would be considered a reliable method of birth control.

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ratbastid

Let me explain my feelings on this by way of an analogy.

When I was a smoker, I noticed that I found cigarettes less satisfying in the pitch dark. For some reason, seeing the smoke I exhaled was part of it for me, and without knowing I was exhaling smoke, it just sort of lost something. I don't really know why that is, but it's how it was.

mixedmedia

This is a very cogent analogy.

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healer

I'm willing to try most anything once, so I'll give it a go next time round. Nothing to lose, right?
Great analogy, one I completely understand and agree with.

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When I was on my meds for my prostate infection, this was one of the side effects. After a few times, it started to hurt even worse then it already did. I’d say it’s sounds like a bad idea if you do it to much, but you should probably talk it over with your general practitioner first.

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I prefer to let bodily functions occur the way they are intended. Doubly so in regards to sex (maybe with birth control as an exception). I don't think I care to ave semen build up inside me somewhere it's not naturally supposed to be.

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Redlemon

You ask "why"? Is this quote confusing?
I've had a couple dry orgasms, unintentionally. It's a wild experience. I orgasmed, stopped moving, then thought to myself "Wait a minute, something's odd here. I'm still rock hard. OK, back we go!"

I haven't had the mental ability to recreate it intentionally -- for some reason, my mind shuts off just before orgasm.

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Average_Joe

I tried the perineum thing once. It felt kind of weird and detracted from the orgasm, so I never tried it again.

I read about tantric orgasms, and although I'm intrigued about learning how to do this, is seems like it would take a lot of time and effort to master it. When it comes to cumming, I prefer the lazy approach.

World's King

What's the point? Coming in some chicks face is half the fun of sex.

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dcloues

This has happened to me a few times. Never really on purpose, and unfortunately never with another person, but it's pretty nice to have an orgasm and then just keep going. The final orgasm, with ejaculation, also seems to be much more powerful than usual.

The Oneida Community, a little utopian commune back in the 1800s, used a practice that they called "male continence" to allow them to have lots and lots of sex without worrying about pregnancies. The males essentially trained themselves to hold back from orgasm - not quite the same as this, and probably not as rewarding, but it worked well for them: it was their only form of BC, and it was about as effective as birth control pills are today. And this was in the 1800s.

mandy

i so totally agree with this statement

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Manorfire

Well, the point for me is very basic one - it's a far more pleasurable orgasm. If I do let go and ejaculate, it's usually rather disappointing, though this is not uncommon for men with spina bifida.

Tethered spinal cord or not, my friends who have experienced it have reported feeling more intensity to some degree, as well as the other possibilities I mentioned. Of course, it's not going to be suitable or preferable for all people or couples, but I wanted to spread the word about it.

Willy

I would love to be able to masturbate without making a mess, but I don't think I'd go so far as trying to interfere with a bodily function, plus trying to do that in the middle of an orgasm would be pretty distracting.

Samalie

I have actually accomplished this a couple of times during sex. (Using the "Contract the PC muscles tightly method above)

The "full" orgasm I had after managing a "dry" orgasm was extremely intense - had me vibrating for hours afterwards

I must say though, it is extremely difficult to accomplish, and takes a mountain of both physical and mental control to pull off. I also have determined, at least for me, its not like this gives me hours of extra time. More like seconds, mabye minutes.

But honestly, if you can pull it off, IMHO it is worth it - and quite satisfying to be multi-orgasmic as a man. Just don't let it go at the dry orgasm. Finish off

Sammy

DarkDymond

Where's that thread???

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Good to know.

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ruggerp11

I have done this before while masturbating. I stopped it completely, and then came (wet) soon thereafter. The weird part is that I got the sensation that I was coming over and over again (though much less intense, like aftershocks) while I was laying in bed after that. I got pissed because I thought I was making a mess of myself but when I checked I was dry as a bone. I've been trying to recreate it, but have been thus far unsuccessful.

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777

Haven't quite experienced a dry one. Just a moist O at best, but with similiar results. It felt more like a little o when compared to a huge "Oh my #@$%ing God!!!!!" O. Simply by slowing down during the first O, I can keep going afterwards without stopping. This takes lot of control, so I save it for special occasions

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mandy

it's just that i never thought that i would ever want to experience "it" but ever since i did, i love it more and more each time.

totally off the point but wouldn't a woman naturally think that if her partner has a dry orgasm, he's faking it?

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