hossified

...so I've never really seen a thread devotyed to this topic, and I've read many a topic on this forum....so I thought I would throw it out there:

...this is about talking during sex....and can range from a legible conversation to dirty talk, to just some "oh yes"...or "oh my god".....etc...

....and dive a little deeper, for those who talk, does it make it more enjoyable, or provide a better connection, or does it do the opposite, and turn a quickie into a marathon, because your concentration is elsewhere....??

abaya

I love hot talk during sex. Heavy breathing, expression of sheer lust and horniness, moaning and groaning, and even giving suggestions or asking "Do you like that?" would be major turn-ons for me. Verbal communication in general turns me on. And anything that provides more intimacy and lust in the heat of the moment is fine with me.

EDIT: Just saw your poll, and I'd have to say that the "full conversations" option is not what I mean by verbal communication in bed. Sure, that definitely helps get me INTO bed by increasing connection and intimacy beforehand, but once I'm in bed, all sex-related talk/sound is what I want. Usually with us, it's just moans and heavy breathing, so that's what I voted. But I'd love any of the options you listed (other than full convos!).

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Sugar&Spice

It depends on my mood. Most of the time "no words at all..just the sounds of sex" and other times I want the dirty talk. The dirtier the better.

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Destrox

I think this needs another option: small amounts of talking (eg is that ok, you like that?, etc) then i'd vote.

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Infinite_Loser

I'd vote for quieter than a mouse if it were there.

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Gilda

We talk quite a bit, but it's more in the way of communicating clearly about what we're doing with and to each other, romantic, erotic, and sometimes dirty talk, about what's working and what isn't, but it doesn't really fit either the "talk dirty" or "full conversation" categories. When we're talking during sex, it's always in some way related to the sex.

Gilda

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savvypup

I can't imagine this at all! I have a picture in my mind, but it's not much fun.

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snowy

When we do talk during sex, it's either to direct the other in what they're doing or it's dirty talk.

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Sage

Oooo I love it when the sex gets all grunty! Mostly it's just dirty talk for us- sometimes we'll ask about or make a comment on technique, but we're usually so in tune when we're having sex that we mostly intuitively know what's going on and what happens next.

And we are king and queen of dirty talk!

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randygurl

I get very religious when I have sex - 'oh my god,' 'Jesus!', etc and I like to moan and make general sex noises, so I guess that's what I enjoy the most, a bit of the first and a bit of the last options...

rmarshall

I'm in agreement with others that talk about the sex. I usually tell her how good it feels with a few moans and OMG's thrown in. I'll likely tell how much I love her and love fucking her and love her pussy, etc. She'll do the same and also advise me "yeah, right there, deeper, harder, don't stop now", etc.
I think if you're talking about laundry or the kids, then something isn't right!

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Cervantes

Hehe.. Full conversations.. though maybe not the "How was your day" kind of thing.. usually a mix of milder dirty talk mixed in with a bit of goofy conversations and some rather deep intimacy type conversations.

What's the point of having sex if all you do is hump into eachother? .. the mechanics of sex is but physical intimacy, I like the added emotional and mental intimacy conversations give the sex act.

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captobvious

I'd say it depends on the mood. Sometimes it's nice to stay quiet, but most of the time, if there's talking, it's definitely dirty...

PoweredByPorn

Under normal conditions*, my gf and I don't say anything, just moaning and heavy breathing during the actual act. However, some of our best conversations come immediately afterwards, once we've both caught our breath. Still, I voted "no words".


*By "normal conditions," I mean sober. When she's drunk, she adds the occasional bit of dirty talk ("harder," "deeper," that sort of thing).

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rmarshall

That's not dirty talk. That's guidance. Dirty talk is like "fuck me harder, you stud!" and "deeper, you piece of shit!"

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hossified

not sure why I thought about it....but most people I know, tend to keep real quiet or opt for the moan and just a few words. I am curious if there is a more emotional type bond, if you actually talk during the act....or is it just more of an instinct to keep quiet and get down to business???

Dane Bramage

my fiance and i are in the "just a little... fuck me, fuck me" catagory. nothing to significant, and we CERTAINLY don't talk about work. but, yes, it's fun. anything to spice it up, eh?

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hotzot

My better half likes to chew the fat about everyday things. Ex: (while I'm grinding away) "So the neighbors new stone wall looks nice, do you think we should do that? The tax bill arrived and...what? oh.. ok...stick it in me ...harder...harder...is that what you mean? well anyway, my sister..." Is the love gone? be honest!

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JamesB

I would like to add to the poll options . I voted for all out conversation simply because it is the closest match for me. I never have 'casual conversations' during sex - its typically more dirty talk but not vulgar. Hard to describe really.

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Xerxys

Dirty talk ... I like to be demeaned!!!

Shaindra

No option for "all of the above"?

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SabrinaFair

I'm a dirty talker, and I love a dirty-talkin' man....of course, I reach a moment in pleasure where I'm incapable of words, but until such time, it's, "I love you inside me" and that sort of thing. :-)

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Cheater

No talking, I enjoy the quiet and I've got more important things to do with my tongue.

conor

I love dirty talk. Though i seem to be the one to do most of the talking! I have to prompt my wife to talk dirty to me. I don't mind because it helps give me a stronger orgasm anyway!!

asaris

We pretty much do all the above, but the most common is the dirty talk.

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"beige....I think I'll paint the ceiling beige."

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xxSquirtxx

Now where's the fun in that?

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Tully Mars

Yeah, where's the all of the above option?

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Zenturian

Talking during sex is ok. Sometimes my girlfriend even calls me!

But seriously folks, tip your waitressess...

Bear Cub

I'll talk dirty. All I want to hear back is the rigor setting in.

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botabota

"LOUDER LOUDER..." something along that line.....

CinnamonGirl

Well, if you're trying to be quiet for a specific reason, like not wanting to be overheard, it's actually really hot


I like a little bit of dirty talk. Definitely moaning & such. Conversations? No... I don't want to have to concentrate too much on what the other person's saying.

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hunnychile

It DOES depend on the mood and how horny I'm feeling. Most of the time, I agree totally with S&S that the Dirtier The Better!!!

i.e.
"C'mon you big hard stud, pleeeease...give me that gorgeous thick cock and fuck me deep and slow...in to my wet hot tight pussy!"

Lots of Practice makes it easier & better!!!!!!!!

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ColonelSpecial

I chose full conversation because my partner and I tend to talk all sorts before/during/after. It is nothing deep or boring but it is more random than dirty talk/guidance. Being quiet isn't an option for us. Sex scenes in movies without much noise look so odd to me.

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Halanna

I didn't vote, because there is no way to classify.

Married for 17 years:

There is

Making love = sweet words, quiet, maybe no words at all, just sounds.

Having sex = moans, mostly sounds, minimal directions, whispered questions about what the other wants

Down and Dirty = load moans, direct questions, specific directions, commands, every curse word there is, pinch me, suck me, squeeze me, fuck me, anything goes.

Like life, there is never the same two days, there is never the same two experiences when you are naked.

Need an option for "all of the above" in your poll.

Polar

My wife loves talking during sex.


Just last night she called me from a hotel room in Chicago.

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Honestly, I can't keep my mouth shut. It's almost funny. A lot of times she laughs at the stuff I say.

So I voted for "just some dirty talking" but I definitely say some incoherent shit that she asks me to clarify ... hahahaaha

Milnoc

I actually don't mind ordinary conversations during sex, especially when the girl's riding me. It gives both of us time to enjoy each other's company during a very intimate moment.

Having a conversation during oral sex however is out of the question. Everything sounds like you're at the dentist!