Undercover_Man

Hello. I am friends with this girl. She is trying to decide whether she "wıll be happy or not wıth hım". Here's what she has told me so far:

"ı was almost sure that ı love hım"
"ı moved here and ı fell better"
She moved to another city temporarily for training purposes.
"because ı have chance to thınk away from hım"
"ı m trıng to be sure ıf ı wıl be happy or not wıth hım"
"he calls my best frıend and my frıend saıd to me that he doesnt want to call me untıll he got hıs professıon degree as ı make hıs heart sufferl because he doesnt want to confuse hıs mınd wıth me as he ıs a very ımportant turnıng poınt ın hıs professıon"
"so from thıs now ı know he loves me and for hıs sake we decıded not to see or talk tıll september 10"
"after that poınt we wıll talk agaın about us and ı wıll see ıf ı mıs hım or not"

Now I can't quite put in words what I want to say. I understand what my thoughts are about this but I can't put them into words. In my opinion, they should call it off. I mean if you don't know if you are going to be happy with someone in a long term relationship then that's bad news already.

Any thoughts on advise I can give to her?

Thanks
- Undercover_Man

BTW: This guy is a doctor so financially he should be able to take care of himself and his family. They have also known each other for 1 year or 2 as good friends.

Samalie

The best advice you can offer is a simple "Follow your heart"

Beyond that, its not up to you wether or not they should stay together, break up, whatever.

I can't help but to feel that you have feelings for this girl yourself, and thats part of why you wish they would separate. Don't get me wrong, it sounds like she's leaning towards breaking up, but really, its not anyones right but theirs to push one way or the other.

Sammy

Mephisto2

Stay away...

As the old song goes... "Turn my back on my best friend if he puts her down..."

Let them work their own stuff out unless and until you are explicitly asked for advice. Under no circumstances should you volunteer your opinion.


Mr Mephisto

Ustwo

How long have they been together?

I had the same type of feelings about my gf in college. I wasn't sure if I wanted to marry her, I knew she was in love with me, I wasn't sure if I was with her, blah blah blah. Well we dated for six years before we got married and have now been together for 15 years total. I'm glad no one gave me the advice to call it off based on not being 100% sure she was 'the one'.

Also as a doctor myself I can understand his feelings on not wanting to talk to her until after the pressure is off. Having your heart ripped out sort of makes it hard to study, and they don't give you extra time because your GF broke up with you.

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