10-01-2009, 08:46 AM | #121 (permalink) |
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You can't stop a kid from having sex, you can only make it safer. I saw nothing wrong.
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10-01-2009, 08:48 AM | #122 (permalink) |
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The majority of adults have reported using marijuana, and an even greater number admits to getting drunk as a teenager. The idea that someone who did either is not fit to work in the administration is petty partisan politics, and specially hypocritical given Bush's past.
As far as sex ed goes, the "schools already have enough to do" argument is misleading at best. If it wasn't for the morality police stomping its feet, sex ed/reproductive health would naturally be part of the biology curriculum, and little time would be added in terms of instruction. What currently happens is that kids will learn about plant reproduction, animal reproduction, and then awkwardly skip humans, and then kids will learn about bacteria, infections, types of viruses, and then awkwardly skip sexual transmission. |
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10-01-2009, 12:36 PM | #125 (permalink) |
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I've had a lot of sex in my life and I've never had a legitimate scare simply because I was well educated on how to be safe when sexually active. Wrap it up, swallow a pill (not me, obviously, but the ladies), get tested before starting a new sexual relationship/fling, and just generally be responsible.
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And, I add that Palin is not President. She is not the Secretary of morality. She is not Secretary of Education. She is not the School safety Czar. She is not my morality leader or yours. One difference, however, is that she is willing to admit to imperfection and owns up to the consequences of her actions. {added} This was a recent event in the Charlotte area, involving an adopted teen who was reportedly statutorily raped and then murdered: Quote:
Something is wrong when you live in a society that takes the rape of children lightly. Here is more on Tiffany's story, may she rest in peace: Quote:
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10-01-2009, 01:10 PM | #129 (permalink) |
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I said it is possible. And as a parent and as a former teenager (with teenager friends from different walks of life) I know there is a correlation between parental supervision and teen sexual activity.
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10-01-2009, 02:05 PM | #131 (permalink) |
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He knows at 12. But his understanding is that of a 12 year old. as a 12 year old he knows many things that would keep him out of "trouble", but as a 12 year-old he often has had to learn the "hard way". My job is to know when it is o.k. for him to learn "the hard way" and when it is not. My goal is not to fail at my job. I think "our" collective goal should be to protect "our" children.
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10-01-2009, 02:23 PM | #132 (permalink) | |
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10-01-2009, 02:28 PM | #133 (permalink) |
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Abstinence only doesn't work, nor does it promote abstinence. Sex ed does not lead to greater sexual activity, though it does lead to lower teenage pregnancy rates. These statements are backed up by virtually every survey there is on the subject.
Therefore, equating sex ed with promotion of promiscuity is false and misleading. By the way, what the fuck does statutory rape and the rape of that girl have to do with sex ed? |
10-01-2009, 02:34 PM | #135 (permalink) |
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Well, you're clearly a horrible father. How can you condone underage sexual behavior like that? In a 12 year old no less? It's shocking. Somebody should call CPS on you.
/smartass (although note that you're not the only one who can play the "out-of-context" game!) Why have you made sure he knows these ways to keep himself "out of trouble"? Because you know you can't have an eye on him at all times, and that the practical reality of ensuring his virginity until he reaches the age of majority is neither practical nor realistic. So: your politics give you what what you talk. I'm very relieved to see your walk is more sensible. Thanks for being a good and realistic father. But what you're SAYING in this thread is pure bullshit. (And with that, I leap back out from Tilted Politics again. Until the next time common sense is stymied, true believers!) |
10-01-2009, 02:42 PM | #136 (permalink) | |
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List a source for one of the studies and lets take a look at it. Follow the flow of the posts, statutory rape and the ability of a child to consent and understand the consequences of sex has been a common theme. Our cultural view of children having sex is an important issue as well in terms of what we find acceptable.
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10-01-2009, 03:25 PM | #137 (permalink) |
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I'm going to summarize a scientific study in decision-making under the effects of sexual arousal described in the book "Predictably Irrational" by Dan Ariely. Basically, participants of this study were asked several sets of questions pertaining to sexual boundaries, ethics, and safe sex. They were asked, while unaroused, to answer the questions AS IF they were aroused. The questions were all yes/no. The next part of the study had the participants take the same questionnaire again, but this time they were actually sexually aroused while answering the questions (masturbating). The key was comparing the two results: How we THINK we'll feel while aroused and how we ACTUALLY feel while aroused.
The results? Participants VASTLY misjudged their expected answers. There are details in the study about the actual questions, but I'll sum it up: when we're aroused, our sense of ethics and responsibility goes out the window. We can doubt this now, as we sit and type with limp dicks, but our world changes when we get aroused. How does this translate to the argument at hand? Teaching abstinence-only sex ed to a TEENAGER is futile. Not only that, the lessons of this study can be translated to other forms of arousal such as anger, jealousy and exhilaration.
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10-01-2009, 04:30 PM | #138 (permalink) |
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I'm curious, and this is a genuine question.
Much has been made of Mrs. Palin's beliefs in regard to matters sexual and religious. I recall in particular, an incident in which she was accused of having asked a librarian about the possibility of banning certain books. In initial reports, it was made to seem as if she'd wanted to ban the books in question. In the end, it emerged that she had no such designs in mind and, far from firing the librarian or causing her to resign, Mrs. Palin actually gave her a raise when the librarian in question categorically shot down such a book-banning scheme. Furthermore, Mrs. Palin is opposed to gay marriage, yet adamently refused to sign a ban on such when it was presented to her as Govorner, saying it was within neither her power, not that of the State of Alaska, to forbid two people from entering into a contract (which is a Constitutionally-protected Right). Read that again: even though she opposed gay marriage on principle, she refused to outlaw it because it was not within her legal power to do so. I have yet to see it cited (and please feel free to correct me if I am wrong) that Mrs. Palin wants AO taught as the legally-mandated and required type of Sex Ed. I -have- seen a lot of Mrs. Palin's personal opinions willfully and dishonestly, even after repeated debunking, presented as policy stances (gay marriage being the most obvious instance). So: Has Mrs. Palin ever said, in her unmistakable and quite unequivocal manner, that AO is what should be mandated by law? Yes or no, with citations, will do. |
10-01-2009, 04:38 PM | #139 (permalink) | |
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Also, I am curious - is there a school system in this country that has a "sex education" curriculum that you support and works (meaning there are measurable statistics showing the STD, pregnancy, and psychological, results you would be comfortable with)?
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10-01-2009, 04:42 PM | #140 (permalink) | |
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"The main objective of Title V, Section 510 abstinence education programs is to teach abstinence from sexual activity outside of marriage. The impact results from the four selected programs show no impacts on rates of sexual abstinence. About half of all study youth had remained abstinent at the time of the final follow-up survey, and program and control group youth had similar rates of sexual abstinence. Moreover, the average age at first sexual intercourse and the number of sexual partners were almost identical for program and control youth." Abstinence-only programs for HIV infection prevention in high-income countries "Overall, the trials did not indicate that abstinence-only programs can reduce HIV risk as indicated by behavioral outcomes (e.g., unprotected vaginal sex) or biological outcomes (e.g., sexually transmitted infection). Instead, the programs consistently had no effect on participants' incidence of unprotected vaginal sex, frequency of vaginal sex, number of sex partners, sexual initiation, or condom use." Patient teenagers? A comparison of the sexual beha...[Pediatrics. 2009] - PubMed Result "Five years after the pledge, 82% of pledgers denied having ever pledged. Pledgers and matched nonpledgers did not differ in premarital sex, sexually transmitted diseases, and anal and oral sex variables." http://courses.gov.harvard.edu/gov30.../rosenbaum.pdf "Conclusions: Five years after taking a virginity pledge, most virginity pledgers fail to report having pledged. Virginity pledges do not affect the incidence of self-reported pre-marital sex or assay-determined chlamydia." we could go on, if you want. |
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10-01-2009, 04:59 PM | #141 (permalink) | ||
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Also the programs and studies were limited to middle and upper middle school children. Here is a quote from the Executive Summary: Quote:
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10-01-2009, 05:21 PM | #142 (permalink) | |
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Alaska Politics Blog : Palin vetoes HB 4001 | adn.com In fact, she even signed a bill that would put forth an amendment to the AK constitution that would ban those benefits as a way of getting around the AK supreme court. In fact, the note that accompanied her veto explicitly said that "The Governor's veto does not signal any change or modification to her disagreement with the action and order by the Alaska Supreme Court." AP falsely suggests Palin supports benefits for same-sex partners of state employees | Media Matters for America (the original note has since been taken down from the governor's website, so you will have to settle for a media matters quote. you can take parts of it and google it to see that it is confirmed elsewhere that that is real) So to put her veto as principled or anything of the sort is misleading. I don't think that accepting a Supreme Court decision is notable in any way. As far as the librarian, you are also misleading when you say she was "far from firing" her. Palin pressured Wasilla librarian: Former Gov. Sarah Palin | adn.com Palin did send her a letter saying she would be fired, and she was only kept on because of public pressure. As far abstinence, Alaska is one of 22 states that offers sex ed but stresses abstinence: http://www.kff.org/youthhivstds/uplo...d-Politics.pdf And she explicitly said in an Eagle forum questionnaire that she supported abstinence only education: Inside Opinion : Palin's responses to Eagle Forum questionnaire | adn.com "3. Will you support funding for abstinence-until-marriage education instead of for explicit sex-education programs, school-based clinics, and the distribution of contraceptives in schools? Yes, the explicit sex-ed programs will not find my support." |
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10-01-2009, 05:35 PM | #143 (permalink) |
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Thanks for pointing me to facts of which I was unaware. I'll have to review and, from the looks of things, may be forced to revise my opinions (at least several of them) in regards to the former Gov. Thankee. However, I must note on the matter at hand that the only element of sex education suggested on the questionairre which she explicitly denounced was "explicit" sex education. This leaves open a dangerous door, of course; who gets to define "explicit," and what will that definition be? However, I remain unsure if it's the broad-stroke denial you ascribe. I shall have to research further.
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10-01-2009, 06:37 PM | #144 (permalink) | |
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But if you are referring to what I said about pregnancy, keep reading the studies: "The sexual behavior of virginity pledgers does not differ from that of closely matched nonpledgers, and pledgers are less likely to protect themselves from pregnancy and disease before marriage." |
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10-02-2009, 07:36 AM | #146 (permalink) |
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Ace, at what age do you think AO teaching should begin? At what age do you think it would work? You are unhappy with the finidngs in this study so you are seeking to discredit it. But try as you might, the conclusions in this study confirm that AO fails to keep kids both informed and safe. Virginity pledges are meaningless because teens are going to have sex. It's human nature, no amount of wishing it wasn't will change that very basic and primal fact. Your son will most likely have sex by age 17, just like the vast majority of other kids.
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I think it should start with parenting skills. I think we should make it a cultural expectation. I think children should grow up in a world where they don't have social pressure to engage in sex. I agree that there will be some who engage in sex, but just like we are changing our culture regarding smoking cigarettes I think we can change our culture regarding children engaging in sex. I am not normally an idealist but I think we would be better off moving in the direction of abstinence for children.
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10-02-2009, 08:23 AM | #148 (permalink) |
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I find it interesting that the same group of people that won't let their kids see another person's nipple will sit down with them every night and watch CSI, NCIS, Law and Order, et. al - which is essentially death porn. We have drawn the craziest line in the sand with regards to "protecting our children from the evils of the world."
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10-02-2009, 08:34 AM | #149 (permalink) | |
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10-02-2009, 08:44 AM | #150 (permalink) | |
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10-05-2009, 07:04 AM | #152 (permalink) | |
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Masturbation does not turn normal health individuals into something they are not. I don't understand why people are confused by my position (pardon the pun) on this issue. The issue isn't the sex, the issue is children being able to make informed decisions regarding sex. I simply think there are legitimate reasons children, for example, can not enter into legally binding contracts - the law recognizes that generally, children lack the maturity to enter into contract.
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10-05-2009, 07:27 AM | #153 (permalink) |
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What I find most troubling is that 56% of all girls have a penis! Damn that abstinence only class they made me take!
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A survey on condom use, in my opinion, is more a survey on honesty. If they can set up a control for people lying I might buy into these survey results. Teenagers generally do not use condoms, and if certain groups are more honest about it - that is going to appear as if they are taking more risks. Quote:
In his conclusion he includes the phrase "Should funding continue...", more study on the issue is recommended. He separated "abstinence only" and "abstinence- plus". Perhaps, my view is more in-line with "abstinence-plus" whatever that means. but is seems that he leaves the door open. ---------- Post added at 03:42 PM ---------- Previous post was at 03:29 PM ---------- I have friend - when his wife got pregnant, he went around saying "we are pregnant" referring to him and his wife. I assumed he was an idiot until one day I asked my wife about it. She told me, that is the new thing now. A couple no longer says "I" ( from the woman) or "she" (from the man) is pregnant but that "we" (from both) are pregnant. I don't watch enough day time TV. But I think the "we" used a condom is the new way to say it today. But perhaps some girls didn't get the notification, that could explain the difference.
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10-05-2009, 08:57 AM | #155 (permalink) | |
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10-05-2009, 09:43 AM | #157 (permalink) | |
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You have a partner and have engaged in sex 10 times. 9 of those 10 times you used a condom. Do you use a condom 90% of the time, or 0% of the time? In my opinion condom use should be measured by partner not by the number of times you have sex. It is hard (pardon the pun) enough for adults to engage in safe sex, it is beyond my imagination how some here think children can.
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10-05-2009, 09:47 AM | #158 (permalink) |
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I think adults forget the stupid crap they did as kids. If only there could be a "this was your life" video right before we tell our kids how easy it is to abstain from the best frickin thing that exists in a teenage boy's life.
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10-05-2009, 09:55 AM | #159 (permalink) | |
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