Polyphobic

Then a thong is the least of your problems. First panties and next come the pants. Time for birth control.

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meembo

No, no, no. I try to see the upside, and it's just not there

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braindamage351

WOW. Why the hell would anyone want a 12 year old wearing a thong?

Seriously. Do not ever let her get it. She isn't old enough for thongs until she can make it to a store and sneak them past you.

thebeat

I just figure there is already enough in the chicken to enhance other "things"

I echo accordingly

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98MustGT

First thing to say is that Ii would not my 12 year old wear thongs.

That said I will tell you what she may be thinking. At her age she is thinking about the 'lines' that underwear display, hopefully she is not thinking 'sexual' thoughts as us adults tend to. Wearing thong underwear is like shaving legs, its an intro to adolesence.
She does not realize the message this states.

ShaniFaye

12 years old and thongs? lord I didnt start wearing them until I was 30 lol

funny story concerning my 11 year old daughter and thongs...
we were sitting a steak and shake one nite eating dinner..I cant remember how the conversation moved on to my underwear but all of the sudden my daughter says (in that kid voice that is the loudest in the world and when they inhale to say something its the cue for everyone around to be as quiet as they can so that the subject gets REALLY emabarrsed) "MY MOMMY WEARS THOSE THONG PANTIES, THEY GO UP HER BUTT" everybody in the place is snickering and Im as red as a stop sign..to which she added in the kid quiet voice...she would never wear them because she thought it would feel like it does if you get toilet paper stuck on your butt hehehe

but back to the original question
#1 I have issues with a mother that would actually consider letting her 12 year old do that..its NOT appropriate
#2 If she gets them to "fit in" does that mean she's going to have to PROVE shes got them on?

my child can pick her own underwear when she can pay for them along with the roof thats over her head

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blindawg

NOOOOO

and on that note, i was out mountain biking the other night and on my return trip home, I came acroos a couple girls probably 14 one had a thong on pulled half way up here back with jewels and what not glittering on it.. I must be old or something, cause I wa repulsed and though pretty much the same sediment i've read here.. Where are her parents and why aren't they parenting her.. I have 4 kids of my own - oldest is 11.. and i'd never permit that..

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matteo101

She is probably doing it not because she wants to show boys, or because she is maturing sexually. She probably wants it because she associates thongs with maturity. Not thongs with sluttyness. I mean, I wouln't let my daughter(not that I have one) where a thong, but you need to understand where she is coming from.

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omega2K4

12 years old is way too young for thongs. 16 years old, maybe. But 12 is rediculous.

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wpoohbear

A 12 year old is too young to be wearing thong underwear. I am over 30 and I hate seeing women in there 20’s and older wearing those things.

If I wanted to see their choice of underwear, in public I would ask them. I do not care if women are wearing shorts, skirts, or pants I do not want to see their underwear.

I do not have any kids yet, but I will never buy my kid thongs. When she is through with college then if she wants to go and buy them that will be fine with me.

cameroncrazy822

Hmmm, sounds very very nice. You're not 12 are you? LOL

aphroditeskiss1

I'm 18, and while I didn't start wearing a thong till I was 14 or 15, it seemed all the other girls were. I don't agree with a 12 year old wearing a thong. Give her a few years on that. If she's worried about panty lines, have her get a pair of cute boyshorts. If you don't know what those are, they're like a pair of daisy dukes but styled as undies. Not only are they very comfy, they're also way cute and elimanate panty lines. Tell her she can get a thong when she can drive herself to the store and pay for it with money SHE earned. Otherwise...oh well. I am so glad my parents protected me as much as they did from all the sexual explotation of the media. I was niave, but now I see that as a good thing.

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Washington

I hope I am not taking you out of context, but I heartily disagree. A parents job is to be a childs friend. Obviously its not a one dimensional problem, but parents should not be dictators.

A parents job is to be a guide to a child on this wonderful ride we call life. Perhaps not so much when the child is 3, but when they are 11...they are perfectly capable of understanding...what is that....the preoperational stage right?....they understand abstract ideas, they understand right and wrong (as much as anyone else does anyway)....at this point in their life a parent ought to be, as I said earlier, a guide....be there for questions and guidance....

Im only 20, perhaps I will feel differently when im older....

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Eric640

You guys have gotta be joking right.

"When she can buy them, she can wear them." - Well folks, that will come soon enough. In three or four more years you will revisit the exact same conversation without such an easy out.

Except then at that point they aren't gonna GIVE A DAMN what you have to say about it.




Now listen to me. You need to find out WHY whe wants them. I HIGHLY doubt she wants them to "show off" or "attract boys" or whatnot. That just doesn't make sense for a child who is 12 years old.

They wouldn't have any reason to feel like that at this point.


Now the reason thongs were created was to remove visible panty lines, which is STILL probably not an issue at this age except mabye when she wears a thin skirt or pants that are too tight.

Here's what I suspect. She thinks its "cool" and probably doesn't even KNOW why. You are all thinking she really KNOWS why she wants them "oh she wants to show them off".

Some friend probably told her "hey its cool to wear thongs" and now she just wants to be "cool", or mabye she watched a little too much Brittany Spears and "wants to be like Brittany".


WHATEVER it is, it PROBABLY has NOTHING AT ALL TO DO WITH SEXUALITY. Don't shut her out and say no for a reason she won't understand. ALL THAT WILL DO IS MAKE HER REBEL LATER WHEN YOU CANNOT CONTROL HER.

Talk to her. Find out why. Then make a decision based on fact, not irrational fears.

Eric640

Do you want your kid to hate you? Parenting isn't about being Joseph Stalin.

Do YOU (or your wife) wear thongs? You gotta look at the examples you are setting.

Don't be Hitler and dont be a hypocrite. Thats exactly why kids shut out their parents. It may not seem like a big deal now, but when shes 16 you are going to want to be able to TALK.

Chances are, you're NOT smarter than your kids. Stop thinking you are.


IF YOU CLOSE DISCUSSION ON THINGS LIKE THIS NOW THEN THOSE LINES OF COMMUNICATION WILL REMAIN CLOSED WHEN MORE IMPORTANT ISSUES COME UP.

Jennteel

My daughter is 13 and has never asked for thongs. However she tries to be picky and wants the sexy purdy ones. I refuse to buy them and I tell her it should not matter because NOBODY will see her panties!

Seer666

I'm going to say, if for no other reason then I am sick of feeling like a dirty old man, tell her HELL NO. I got to the mall, and I see these 14 year old girls walking around with pants around their knees and thongs sticking up in the back, and I have thoughts that no man my age should about these kids. I have the self control to limit myself to TRYING not to look out of the corner of my eye, but there are some poeple out there that don't. Like the 14 year old boys. I remember what I was up to at that age, and trust me when I say, you want your little angel looking as drab and as far away from kids like I was as can be. You are the father. As hard as it might be, put the Daddy Foot down. After getting permision for the wife, of course.

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98MustGT

I have 3 daughters 20,18,15 years old. My 18 year old would start wearing thongs withour us knowing around 13 years old. She has always been a handful, the other 2 girls do not even want to wear thongs.
My middle one was 15 when we found condoms in her room. She went to planned Parenthood and has been on the pill since 16. My point is this all kids are different. After a rough freshman and sophmore year she grew up, still sexually active, but now got good grades in 11 and 12 grade and is enrolled at a Cal State University. My 20 year old is still a virgin? All kids are different.

hossified

she wants to wear a thong...cause she's 12 and she wants boys to notice her!! Look at Britney spears etc.....everyguy on here is asking why.....but when you are out at a bar and see an attractive female walk by with the thong sticking out of the back of her low cut jeans....do you not turn to mush?? The issue here is that kids are growing up alot faster.....and I for one see it first hand.....hell go to the mall and you will see 13 year old girls who are more developed than 30 year old women!!!! Now I don't have a daughter and I can't say what I would do.....I just know I would be real careful, cause at the age it's all about defiance. If you outright say no, she will want to do it more, and maybe go beyond (commando?) It's scary stuff and nobody said parenting would be easy! I would ask why she wants one and go from there (cause if it's because boys are making fun of her cause they can see her undie line thru her pants....than maybe it's legit......but if it's because she wants everyone to see how grown up she is....than that's another story).

Diamond

One word... prosti-tot

Frenchie

When a girl, especially one the age of your daughter gets to wear a thong... it pretty much means. "I want a guy to see me in it".

So if I were you I would have my wife ask her or just find out why she wants to wear them. Because if she comes out with anything of the nature that her friends are wearing them... then no. (in my opinion)

aubreyd

I consider myself a pretty liberal parent but some things bother me about the way teen girls dress these days. I can relate to the issue of thongs because 2 weeks ago i went shopping with my 14 yr old, 8th grade daughter for her new school clothes and she went right toward the super low jeans and short skirts. I dont know what i was thinking when i bought her jeans but when she wore them the other day for the first time for school it looked like she was going clubbing in vegas. My husband basically flipped out when she was sitting there and her thong was showing, and everyday since has been a battle over what she wears to school. I'm not prude at all and even when she was 13 i didnt say anything about her clothes, i didnt see anything wrong with a little bit of tummy showing. But it's so hard now to regulate, mainly because she has friends that are of the rebellious type and being that we have 2 working parents its tough to keep an eye on her. I just wish her school would enforce tougher rules on the way the kids dress. For instance, my daughter is a cheerleader and even her cheerleading uniform crosses the line a bit. Indeed it's not slutty looking but it does have a shorter than normal skirt with a top that shows her stomach slightly. I agree thats the way those uniforms are meant to be but i can't believe they let these girls wear them to school. so anyway......theres my rant.

Krycheck

I have a 16 yr old daughter and my wife and I dont like her to have them. Granted she buys them with her part time job money but we dont allow them. At sixteen it "could" be ok for most people. But definetly not at 12.

Where are you gonna buy these at anyways? Abercrombe and Fitch?

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Supersonic

well, i remember back in the day when i was 12, i sure as hell would've appreciated some nice looking girls in thongs

anyways, not much harm will come of it, and if she will mind the men noticing her, then she'll change her dress habits

guardian

I have read alot of people saying to find out why she would want to wear the thongs. Easy - That is the style you find on girls who are cool. You have TV showing the people they look up to wearing this stuff. Then you walk into WallMart and you find thongs and other underwear with Writing on the upper back in the Childrens Ile. My wife and I have a hard time understanding who would by this stuff but it does sell. I remember shopping and hearing a lady with here 6 year old saying how cute the underwear was that had writing on the upper back to show off. I am just scared to think were it is going next.

The Phenomenon

There is a difference? I always though they are one in the same.

Zeld2.0

It's of note that recently I went to help out at my local high school and happened to draw the freshmen class as they came in to take pictures for ID, yearbook, get class schedules, and books.

And I noticed, year after year, a similar trend - clothes get more sexualized as each year passes. Its tough to believe that 3 months ago, they were in the 8th grade. These are 14 year olds!

sammmydavis

i was looking trough the sunday ads the other day and in the childrens or teens section I saw an ad for some thongs. I could not believe my eyes. but hey if they want to show i will look

Eowyn_Vala

ditto here, I didn't start wearing thongs until I was 18 and in college and buying them myself. Even then my mom still yelled at me one time when I went home to do my laundry. As for a 12 year old wearing thongs, it has to be your choice but it is extremely disgusting! Thongs=sexiness, not much else. Except for the no pantyline, but if she has jeans that tight I don't think thongs are the immediate problem! And depending on the thong it still might be visible. No matter what the thought is gross! Even at 16 the idea makes me shudder. But that is society for you!

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MikeyChalupa

Ha! I've felt the same way about Wal-Mart for a long time now. There's another thread where I mentioned this too. Wal-Mart won't sell Maxim, FHM, and the like because in their opinion, they advocate treating women as sex objects. They also prominently display all the religious type books right up front by the registers, and sell censored CD's.

Then you go to the kids section, and there's underwear, like you mentioned, with words on the ass, skimpy-cut, designed to be "flirty" but coming off more as "trampy". THESE ARE FOR CHILDREN. If Wal-Mart was really the last bastion of moral family values, they wouldn't even consider selling such crap. They'd also be closed on Sundays, like Chick-Fil-A, a franchise I respect deeply for giving up a day of weekend business for what their founders believe in, though I don't necessarily share their view that it's necessary.

But this isn't about Wal-Mart or Chick-Fil-A, this is about you and your daughter. I have two toddler sons, and I'm actually grateful I don't have to worry about this type of thing. Although, I'll probably be the one getting the phone calls from parents telling me to keep my kid away from their daughter someday. I agree with the overwhelming majority in here, 12 is too young to be wearing thongs. You might also want to examine the rest of your daughter's wardrobe. Is she wearing lots of "belly shirts?" Shorts with reading material on the butt like "flirt" or "sassy" or the like? Before you know it she might. To some extent I agree with Eric640, that she might not feel like she wants them as much as she feels she NEEDS them to fit in with her group of friends or with what she sees people in her age group wear on TV. The only thing to do is talk with her, and find out what her reasoning really is, what she thinks wearing thongs will do for her, and then explain to her what wearing thongs could potentially DO to her. Hopefully up to this point you've laid down a good enough framework that she'll understand.

And, to be honest, I agree with Seer666. I don't want to have to see her at the mall.

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mrped

everybody is talking about these preteens wearing thong pantys.i dated this one woman and she would let her 11 year old daughter wear g -strings.i do not know what is worse a g-strings or thongs.please let me knowthe difference.also what is a brazil cut panty.i was told it is between a thong and a french cut bikini panty

Willravel

Good God no. Please fight the good fight against jail-bate. Just once I'd like to go to a mall and be able to look at anything but the floor for fear of seeing another preteen dressed like a prostitute. When my little girl gets to be that age, I will tell her that she is better than that. I will tell her that one of the primary messages a thong delivers is permiscuity. Till then I'll enjoy the time before dating.

mrped

i know you siad that you would not let your daughter vwear a thong and do not blame you,but i have a question,and that is would you let her wear a g-string.just wondering

DJ Happy

I'm sorry, but I totally disagree with this attitude. Parenting is exactly about making decisions for your children until they are old enough to be able to make them for themselves and fully understand the consequences of their actions. Raising children is not a democratic process.

While I would like to be a friend to my daughter, if I had the choice of her thinking of me as her best chum while exposing herself to all kinds of dangerous situations, or thinking of me as a dictator while she was safe and cared for, option 2 will win all the time. I do not rest easy knowing that my daughter thinks I'm a cool Dad while she rides on the back of a Harley driven by a tatooed Satan-worshipper called "Snake."

And while I do all I can to set a good example to my daughter, especially in areas such as respect, courtesy and morality, she must also realise that we are not equals - she is a kid and her mother and I are adults. If her mother wants to wear a thong, she is old enough to make that decision. If she wants to wear a thong, tough luck, I am old enough to make that decision for her. I don't mind talking to her about the decision that I've made either.

guardian

Exactly - Kids always call there parents hypocrites for what they do or did. but the difference is that the parents are old enough to look sexy, The kids are not. There are a lot of things I did when I was young and now wish I did not. Just because I did it does not give my children the right to do it. If your first child burns herself on a stove and tells your second child hey that hurts the second child does not need to do it also. It is called learning from other peoples mistakes.

victorjara

Get her a chastity belt instead. For further reinforcement on how teenage sexuality can injure many people, see my thread in this section. Show it to your wife.

bonehed1

I know some kids a little younger then that that their moms taught them to cook and its pretty good. As far as the thong thing, I would beat my daughters butt if she even tried to sneak a thong into her room. I wouldnt allow my daughter to wear one till she is atleast 16minimum and even then that still seems to young for me.

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la petite moi

Seriously, what the hell is so bad about thongs? It's not like your kid won't be wearing clothes over it. Plus, I wear thongs because they are MUCH more comfortable under jeans than full-bottom.
Until your kid starts becoming sexually active and wearing mini-skirts to show off her thonged bottom, chill out. Let her make her own choices in clothing, and she'll probably be a lot happier and closer to you in the long run.