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Old 03-05-2005, 01:41 AM   #1 (permalink)
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Last time you've cried?

Personally, I haven't had to cry since my senior year of high school, which is getting to be about three years ago, not counting tears that result from yawning or laughing.

I suppose I simply haven't been stuck in any particularly depressing or emotional situations during this time. Once in a while I've thought that I a little cry would feel satisfying, and a couple times I have gotten to be pretty choked up, but I've always been able to hold it in. There is a stigma against crying, for men in particular, but it's to the point that I sometimes half-seriously think I could use an emotionally intense experience so I can bust out with a good, well deserved cry.
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Old 03-05-2005, 03:36 AM   #2 (permalink)
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I cant remember, I certainly havent cried since I was 11.
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Old 03-05-2005, 05:43 AM   #3 (permalink)
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yesterday.....With the divorce and impending wedding I seem to cry at least once a day
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Old 03-05-2005, 05:55 AM   #4 (permalink)
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Old 03-05-2005, 06:59 AM   #5 (permalink)
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There is a stigma against crying, for men in particular...
Which is so stupid, I can hardly stand it.

For a long time I bought into that crap, and I deadened myself to the world. Finally, with some real soul-searching work, I started opening up. I gave up that I shouldn't have emotions, and started letting them show.

Movies and songs get me all the time. Usually not to the point of full-on boo hooing, but I mist up for sure.
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Old 03-05-2005, 07:30 AM   #6 (permalink)
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Old 03-05-2005, 07:35 AM   #7 (permalink)
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yeah, there is a stigma, I pretty much grew up thinking "big boys dont cry" - and mostly definitely not in front of anybody if you do. There have been times I have felt like I might cry, but I can't, something in me holds it back. probably the last time I cried that I can remember was when I was 9/10 and people at school had made fun of me for being fat, and I told my dad about it and I was upset, and he told me not to be a baby - and started called me "fatso" "fat pig" and so on "to toughen me up" apparently. I cried and tried remember keep asking him to stop but he wouldnt and I got kind of hysterical in the end, and tried to hug him, but he threw me off.

I dont remember any time after that I cried, but I might have done, but Im pretty sure not since I was 11 definitely. I remember when I was 14, on christmas day, with my dad again, he blew up (cos I didnt buy him an expensive present, and I wasnt interested in this lego kit he bought me) and he started telling me how much he hated me, how I was a piece of shit, I was evil, I had destroyed the whole family, etc etc etc... and I remember trying to cry to make him feel sorry for me, and he could tell I was faking it, and then I just thought "wtf, why do I bother"... I remember v clearly thinking that it would be nicer in a foster home, I'd have more friends etc etc.

sometimes when I think about it I get mad at myself that I dont hold the hate I felt then inside myself still, but it all just broke up,,, and I suppose if you only think of the worst times... there were a lot of good times too you discount. I think certainly from that age I never loved him, but i cant really hate him either. One time I quoted something back to him he said to me that night (he said he would burn all the photo's of me and forget he ever had a son) and HE started crying about it... I suppose maybe he felt guilty about it, but I dont see why he has any reason to cry about it,,, he shouldnt have said it if he doesnt want it to be said.

I guess, Ive alwats been quite an emotionally distant person, I honestly dont feel that Im not in touch with my emotions, I just dont have very strong emotions at all.
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Old 03-05-2005, 12:08 PM   #8 (permalink)
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About two weeks ago I was listening to "Save Me" by Queen and I just couldn't get my ex out of my head. I teared up a bit, but didn't full out bawl because I was driving.

Before that it was when I watched Ray, when he first started going blind. I can imagine how I would feel if that were one of my children, and that really got to me.
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Old 03-05-2005, 12:32 PM   #9 (permalink)
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after watching 21 grams, there was just somethin about that movie...
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Old 03-05-2005, 12:47 PM   #10 (permalink)
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Today. I put my dog down today.
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Old 03-05-2005, 12:51 PM   #11 (permalink)
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I tear up a bit sometimes.

The last full fledged cry was a couple of years ago when I learned (quite by accident) that a good friend of mine from high school was killed in a car accident. I didn't go the services, but I wrote her mother and father a letter to express my condolences and somewhere in the middle of it, I just broke down.
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Old 03-05-2005, 12:55 PM   #12 (permalink)
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The last time I cried was February 30th. A good friend of mine went to Korea on a year tour with the air force. I'm going to miss him We talk often and email, but it's not the same. Now I feel like having another cry....
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Old 03-05-2005, 01:48 PM   #13 (permalink)
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last time i creid was 2 years ago... from being kicked really hard in the balls... christ that hurt...
before that, i hadn't cried in a few years, don't really remember
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Old 03-05-2005, 01:50 PM   #14 (permalink)
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Last night. I had a pretty rough week, my emotions were on a rollercoaster ride, and I couldn't help crying sometimes when particular thoughts would sneak up on me.
Let's just hope I don't have another week like that. :S
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Old 03-05-2005, 03:28 PM   #15 (permalink)
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Hmmm....it's been a long time since I had a full on good cry. I've gotten misty eyed at the movies a couple of times (Finding Neverland comes to mind). I think the last time I really cried was right after my brother died and my husband told me he wanted a divorce (which was last July). Thankfully, it was probably just the stress of my brother's death and some unresolved issues in our marriage that caused the want of the divorce...we are still happily together.
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Old 03-05-2005, 03:38 PM   #16 (permalink)
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Right now. The worst I've ever felt. Hard to believe you'll ever feel good again sometimes.
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Old 03-05-2005, 03:55 PM   #17 (permalink)
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Yesterday afternoon, while reading comic books. I was behind on my reading a bit, and when I got to the end of Fables #33 and found out who the killer was and why, I lost it. I'm easily affected by well made fiction, and get emotionally attached to well-defined characters.

My classes have learned that it's really nothing to get concerned about when Miss Gilda loses it while reading the ending of Lyddie (for example) because that's just how I'm wired. I'll cry when something affects me deeply, and I'm never ashamed of having done so.
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Old 03-05-2005, 07:16 PM   #18 (permalink)
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I cried last night. I'm having terrible side effects from some meds & I couldn't make like everything was fine anymore.
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Old 03-05-2005, 08:21 PM   #19 (permalink)
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Old 03-05-2005, 08:30 PM   #20 (permalink)
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It's been a long time- three years. Cried about how unfair the world was. I've since grown up, and I've not experienced anything since then that made me cry. I do get a little misty eyed at the end of some "feel good" movies though when everyone's reunited and stuff.

edit- cried at policemen's memorial service.
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Old 03-05-2005, 09:07 PM   #21 (permalink)
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Earlier this week- had an irrational fight with SO and got angry, and he grabbed me and shook me and yelled at me because I was being so irrational (disclaimer- this is what I have asked him to do when I get like that, because it's the only thing that takes me out of the irrationality). I cry when I get upset, but fortunately I'm not upset that much anymore
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Old 03-05-2005, 09:33 PM   #22 (permalink)
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Three or four times in the last three hours, while watching Spanglish at the discount movie theater. If I keep this up, Ill be posting every other day, so this'll be the last one.
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Old 03-05-2005, 09:44 PM   #23 (permalink)
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Today I cried while doing my physical therapy exercises and trying to get my knee to bend. It won't bend enough and I have to make it. The last time I can remember crying before that was January 12th, when I was lying face down in the snow just after injuring said knee.

I usually cry for emotional reasons though.
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Old 03-05-2005, 09:45 PM   #24 (permalink)
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When my wife didn't get into Berkeley for law school, I cried cause she cried.(couple weeks ago)

Hate to see her sad..
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Old 03-06-2005, 12:41 AM   #25 (permalink)
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i cry during movies if i'm watching them alone, especially when i'm watching them drunk, yay!
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Old 03-06-2005, 04:19 PM   #26 (permalink)
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I haven't actually cried for a while, but everytime the girlfriend gets upset and cries, I get all misty. There is just something about a girl crying. IT just kills me.
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Old 03-06-2005, 04:29 PM   #27 (permalink)
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Once in a while I'll tear up, sometimes from stress, sometimes from music. The last time was a few weeks ago, when I was driving home at night listening to Nine Inch Nails "Hurt."
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Old 03-06-2005, 08:59 PM   #28 (permalink)
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cried yesterday in the midst of a panic attack about school and homework.
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Old 03-07-2005, 05:47 AM   #29 (permalink)
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Saturday night.

It was my parents 50th wedding anniversary. They had a big party, 200+ people, and I was the MC. Had a beautiful speech/toast prepared. Practiced it so I wouldn't break down, but alas, the moment got the best of me. I did make it about three quarters of the way through before my voice started cracking and I had to stop and wipe the tears to deliver the last several lines. Everyone told me later that they were crying too so I figured it must have been a good speech.

Otherwise, only when there is some really sad story about someone's kid dying. That always gets to me.
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Old 03-07-2005, 06:43 AM   #30 (permalink)
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I well up watching movies all the time... especially when it is father/son stuff. I suspect this is because I had a lot of unresolved issues with my Dad but he died before I could address them.

The last time I truly out and out had a good bawl was last fall. My wife and I had a little stumble in our relationship and part of our discussions lead to many tears on both our parts.
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Old 03-09-2005, 02:31 AM   #31 (permalink)
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I cired about 3 months ago, when my ex left me. I usualy repress my emotions, cause I never know how im gonna act. But I cried and it felt good. I cried for my heart.
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Old 03-09-2005, 04:27 AM   #32 (permalink)
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I used to be the biggest crybaby in the world, then I came to the realization that the reason why I was crying was out of frustration because I didn't know how else to express what I was feeling and what would make me angry and since nice girls didn't get angry -- I'd cry. Somewhere along the line I figured out that being a nice girl was way overrated, and it was indeed OK to get angry. Now, I just get angry. Anger is much better than blubbering.

Crying for emotional reasons? That ship has long sailed. Nothing will ever be worse than losing the only person in your life who you could and would talk to and nothing else deserves tears.
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Old 03-09-2005, 02:10 PM   #33 (permalink)
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hmm probably just a few weeks ago when I found out my mom and adopted dad (he adopted my sister and I and raised us) are getting seperated, it had been a crappy week at work, and things were just all going wrong. But they are getting much better now.
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Old 03-09-2005, 02:26 PM   #34 (permalink)
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Christmas- but what is a family holiday without a family fight? There is no fun in that.
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Old 03-09-2005, 10:09 PM   #35 (permalink)
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Kind of appropriate that these two threads were right next to each other. For me, it was while writing this:
http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/showthr...=1#post1705999
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Old 03-10-2005, 03:11 AM   #36 (permalink)
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Old 03-10-2005, 08:11 AM   #37 (permalink)
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It must have been last semester in University. A friend and I had been working on an assignment together, though the assignment was an individual assignment. We handed it in, then the next day we received an e-mail from the course co-ordinator asking us to come in and discuss 'similarities' between our assignment.

Now we knew what we were doing wasn't entirely frowned upon, but they didn't enjoy it. It wasn't cheating because we didn't look at each others work, we just did it together.

But I'm one of those people who always assumes the worst of the situation, and it would definately be considered an academic offence. Now I go to university about 3000 km away from home, and my meeting was the next day, and I couldn't talk with my parents about it. I couldn't get any sleep I was so worried about the result. I called my mom at about 4 am, and started off ok, but just broke down mid-conversation because I was so worried about getting kicked out of university and such.

It was insanely stressful. We went in for our meeting and were told that we 'excessively collaborated'. So the end result was getting -100% on the assignment, and getting our names added to a list (the assignment was only worth about 2% of my mark, and the list is just a list of names so that if anything like this ever happens again, the punishment would be much more severe).
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Old 03-11-2005, 08:00 AM   #38 (permalink)
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about a year and a half ago, night before I taught for the first time, didn't sleep at all, was nervous as hell.
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Old 03-11-2005, 08:31 AM   #39 (permalink)
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yesterday, dropping off a girl at the train station in florence that i fell in love with during our week-long vacation in italy


definitely have no cried like that... ever, almost uncontrollably so when i tried my damndest to hold it in, even during funerals and such -- weird, right??
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Old 03-11-2005, 09:05 AM   #40 (permalink)
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Watching the news earlier this week about the 4 RCMP officers killed in Alberta.
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