My Grandmother died on saturday - Tilted Forum Project Discussion Community

alpha666 · 02-07-2005, 03:27 AM

she did really well, she died in her sleep on saturday night, she was 94.
it has made me think about how i have been going about my life, you see i thought my "Nan" would live forever and i would be able to get accross to perth (i live on the gold coast on the other side of the country) to see her again before she died, now to get and air fair accross to perth is about $700 (money at time i had) but i had never gotten around to it in the past few years (somthing that i have always regretted) now ..... i won't have the chance to say good bye, i wont have the chance to give her one last hug and i won't have the chance to see her again FUCK IT i won't even have the chance to go the the funeral (which is on friday)
the point that i would like to make to every one is what ever you have been thinking about doing ....... do it now because you never know what might happen and you might miss out on somthing, somthing really important and lets face it, there is nothing much more important than family....
so ...... stop talking about taking that trip to see your relitives and DO IT!!!!

lurkette · 02-07-2005, 08:15 AM

I'm so sorry for your loss...this is an important lesson for all of us. Thank you for sharing your experience.

raeanna74 · 02-07-2005, 08:44 AM

We plan to go visit hubby's Gram this spring before it gets too late for her. She's got type 2 Diabetes and this past year had 2 major heart attacks. We had wanted to go over Christmas but it was ultimately probably - go visit her or hubby loose his job. We decided to take the trip when driving wasn't so poor as it was this past winter up North. We're hoping nothing happens before March. She's doing well for the meantime at least.

Sorry to hear about your loss. I miss my Gram even still though it's been 6 years this past September.

My condolences. Take a moment to remember her in your own way since you can't be there for the funeral.

yellowchef · 02-07-2005, 08:55 AM

Im sorry for your loss, its good you realize that you need to see your relatives. In this day and age its hard sometimes because of money, distance and jobs. Im lucky and my Grandma on my Dads side lived close to us when I still lived in Oklahoma, and we visited twice a year for 2 years after we moved to FL before she died. My Grandpa on my Moms side died when I was younger and I saw him every day since he and my Grandma took care of us. Now my Grandma on my Mom's side lives with my parents and I see her a lot too

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Its nice to hear she went peacefully..I hope to go out the same way.. blissfully ignorant to the fact that I no longer roam the earth. I hope everything works out for you and you visit your other relatives more.

alpha666 · 02-07-2005, 12:55 PM

it's quite sad that i never got to see that side of the family more, i am closer to them than the relitives i have over here on the east coast (my father's side of the family) but she was my last grandparent.
my grandfather on my fathers side of the family died in 2001 of cancer, it was one of the worst thing i have ever seen, pop was a very tall well built man but when he died he was no more than a bag of bones, thankfully i got to say good bye to him before he was too far gone, but i see that i am going to be regretting not getting over to perth sooner.
thank you guys for your kind words.

ironmaiden7o7 · 02-08-2005, 12:36 AM

I am so sorry for your loss. Wow, she lived a long life. She is resting now and is in a better place. Death is so sudden, it's something that we can never accept but expect. I'm sorry again for your loss.

02-07-2005, 03:27 AM	#1 (permalink)
alpha666 Tilted	My Grandmother died on saturday she did really well, she died in her sleep on saturday night, she was 94. it has made me think about how i have been going about my life, you see i thought my "Nan" would live forever and i would be able to get accross to perth (i live on the gold coast on the other side of the country) to see her again before she died, now to get and air fair accross to perth is about $700 (money at time i had) but i had never gotten around to it in the past few years (somthing that i have always regretted) now ..... i won't have the chance to say good bye, i wont have the chance to give her one last hug and i won't have the chance to see her again FUCK IT i won't even have the chance to go the the funeral (which is on friday) the point that i would like to make to every one is what ever you have been thinking about doing ....... do it now because you never know what might happen and you might miss out on somthing, somthing really important and lets face it, there is nothing much more important than family.... so ...... stop talking about taking that trip to see your relitives and DO IT!!!!

02-07-2005, 08:15 AM	#2 (permalink)
lurkette My future is coming on Moderator Emeritus Location: east of the sun and west of the moon	I'm so sorry for your loss...this is an important lesson for all of us. Thank you for sharing your experience. __________________ "If ten million people believe a foolish thing, it is still a foolish thing." - Anatole France

02-07-2005, 08:44 AM	#3 (permalink)
raeanna74 I'm not a blonde! I'm knot! I'm knot! I'm knot! Location: Upper Michigan	We plan to go visit hubby's Gram this spring before it gets too late for her. She's got type 2 Diabetes and this past year had 2 major heart attacks. We had wanted to go over Christmas but it was ultimately probably - go visit her or hubby loose his job. We decided to take the trip when driving wasn't so poor as it was this past winter up North. We're hoping nothing happens before March. She's doing well for the meantime at least. Sorry to hear about your loss. I miss my Gram even still though it's been 6 years this past September. My condolences. Take a moment to remember her in your own way since you can't be there for the funeral. __________________ "Always learn the rules so that you can break them properly." Dalai Lama My Karma just ran over your Dogma.

02-07-2005, 08:55 AM	#4 (permalink)
yellowchef Addict Location: Shalimar, FL	Im sorry for your loss, its good you realize that you need to see your relatives. In this day and age its hard sometimes because of money, distance and jobs. Im lucky and my Grandma on my Dads side lived close to us when I still lived in Oklahoma, and we visited twice a year for 2 years after we moved to FL before she died. My Grandpa on my Moms side died when I was younger and I saw him every day since he and my Grandma took care of us. Now my Grandma on my Mom's side lives with my parents and I see her a lot too . Its nice to hear she went peacefully..I hope to go out the same way.. blissfully ignorant to the fact that I no longer roam the earth. I hope everything works out for you and you visit your other relatives more.

02-07-2005, 12:55 PM	#5 (permalink)
alpha666 Tilted	it's quite sad that i never got to see that side of the family more, i am closer to them than the relitives i have over here on the east coast (my father's side of the family) but she was my last grandparent. my grandfather on my fathers side of the family died in 2001 of cancer, it was one of the worst thing i have ever seen, pop was a very tall well built man but when he died he was no more than a bag of bones, thankfully i got to say good bye to him before he was too far gone, but i see that i am going to be regretting not getting over to perth sooner. thank you guys for your kind words.

02-08-2005, 12:36 AM	#6 (permalink)
ironmaiden7o7 Insane Location: NYC	I am so sorry for your loss. Wow, she lived a long life. She is resting now and is in a better place. Death is so sudden, it's something that we can never accept but expect. I'm sorry again for your loss.