ronan

well, i don't mean any offence to anyone really, because i know the rules of the forum.. but...

Fuck those bitches.

you don't need it man, if you go crawling back, they win... treat em mean for a bit.. at least...

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Rlyss

Hey Arroe, sorry that happened to you mate. Your friend Mike sounds like a good guy, is he? Stick with him, it sounds like he can help you weed out those that deserve your friendship. You aren't going to lose anything by getting rid of those girls, you know that.

It sounds like you've realized Mike's one of the good guys. There are plenty of other good people out there, millions of them. You'll find them soon enough, just keep looking and don't settle for anyone that makes you feel shit.

Arroe

christmas eve I still feel terrible. I think I might be actually depressed because I've been down and out for a while now.

my normal group of friends are going out of town next week on a school trip. i'll hang out with some of my friends who are back from college and i'll see if it's my friends or me with the problems.

man, what i would do for a hug right now.

munchen

good work man. you definitly did the right thing by sticking up with your friend and ditching them. You should be feeling good about what you did not bad. There are plenty of people wouldn't have the guts to stick up for someone like that, thats very commendable. i think you need to take a step back back and look at what happend. you did the right thing there and they were being awful people. If anyone should feel bad it should be them. They are bad people, you should take no stock in what they say. Just know no matter what they say or do it doesn't change who you are or what you capable of. I think you should just shrug them off and move on, they are definitly not worth thinking about.

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FngKestrel

I feel your pain when conflict like that happens. It's too easy to put the blame upon yourself and go crawling back. But you did the right thing in sticking up for your friend.

Think of it this way. Those girls text-messaged you to tell you they hate you? How pathetic is that? They were trying to get a rise out of you so they can interact with you in some way, preferably negative. Don't let them get to you. Yes, I know it's easier said than done.

It's been said, "Living well is the best revenge." Don't waste anymore energy on those that would treat you like shit.

Hang in there, man.

Vincentt

From a person who has battled depression in the past.
Some advice, slap yourself every time you say, "I'm depressed."
The more time you say or think you are depressed, the deeper you will sink.
Just say to yourself something positive even when doing things that are "depressing."
Example,

You come in from school and feel like shit; you just want to get into bed.
Do not say "this world sucks; let me leave it for a while."
Say something dumb like "I did a good job at school all day, now to get a little rest as a reward."

As silly as it sounds, doing is believing, and you will be happier for it.

Stick

This is just me, but, when I feel depressed I do something. Take the bike out and go for a spin, read something funny or watch cartoons, head out to the garage and make something - anything to keep my brain and/or body occupied. I've learnt to not sit around thinking about whatever happens to be getting at me.
This works for me, maybe it will for you.
(I'm not as good as Dr. Phill, but I'm cheaper.)

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Justsomeguy

Teenagers get so depressed over stupid shit. All teenagers go through a stage of depression about stupid things such as how bad your life is even though it is better than pretty much everyone else's life in the world. Atleast you've realized that your friends are shitheads and you no longer want to spend time with them.

You've realized something that takes most people well into their 20's when they have failed out of college and shared several STD's. Many people are inconsiderate pricks who are going to utterly fail. I reccommend to start spending more time with your parents. Screw your friends, they'll never be able to contribute to really improving your life. Also, you have more friends than I had in high school. I topped off at 6 with only 3 real friends. The other people were just for not having to do stuff by myself.

runawayfetus

maybe they are just flirting with you... ask the hottest girl in the group if she wants to fuck you and go from there

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Arroe

lol, that would be amazing.... I can dream I guess...

This past week since most of my buddies are out of town over break I've kind of had a change happen I think. After that tsunami I took a look at myself moping around feeling all shitty about my life and realized how lucky I am to have all that I do in my life.

I have friends who care about me (even though sometimes some of them are bitches they still care about me)
I have a mom and dad who love me
I have two little brothers who look up to me
I have aunts, uncles, little cousins, and grandparents who love me and are always interested in what I'm doing
I have good grades, good test scores, and a promising future and I'll probably end up at a really good college
I have a home
I have a dog and a cat who come say hi when I come home (no matter how annoying it is...)
There's always food (good food) in the pantry and fridge
I have clothes that I like
Mom does my laundry
I can play the guitar and I love it


Yeah, so even though my friends can be dicks sometimes, and even though I can't go to London for a week, I am quite fortunate to have all that I do have. I was being stupid for letting them get to me like they did. I hope when they get back tomorrow night we can start things again, only better this time. I know I miss them a lot. There's only 8 months until I leave these guys for the rest of my life so we might as well make the best of it....










PArTy!!!!111!!!!!!!!
GeT tHE KEG DUdE@!!@!11





heh, just kidding. altough a few of those would be alright

monkeysugar

I'm glad you're feeling better about things Arroe. Reading your posts made me feel like I was going through my junior high and early high school experiences all over again, and although most of these things have already been said many times, I'm going to repeat them.

First and foremost, these girls treat you like shit because you are an easy target. You don't fight back because you are a nice guy. There's a time and place for being nice, and if you're being walked all over and treated like shit by the people you call your friends, that's not the time or place to do it. Take a stand. Calling them out on something is good, especially if you are skilled in verbal judo and it is in front of their friends. People at that age, especially those who tend to "run in packs" are HIGHLY insecure and low level public shaming will usually work wonders. Stand up for yourself and people will treat you a lot better.

What goes around does come around. You may not see the results happen immediately, but in the long run, you'll probably get a lot farther in life with your "nice" tendancies than they will with their "bitch" tendancies.

Don't think for a minute that there is something wrong with you. There isn't. You don't deserve to be treated the way they treat you. PERIOD. It's not ok, they may mean to be joking, but if it's hurting you, it's gone way too far. Unfortunately, nothing will change until you decide to do something about it. If you're not getting anything out of the friendships, then fuck 'em. Branch out and meet new people. It's easier to do than it sounds.

Things will get better. I promise. The vast majority of the people you meet in college are going to have a lot in common with you, and everyone is basically starting with a clean slate, and want to find new people to hang out with. The petty things that ruled everything in high school really do not matter once you get to college, because the people who got the most caught up in it usually don't end up going to college, or if they do, they are unable to make friends or party too much and drop out. The rest of the people tend to move on, find new friends, and leave most of their high school friends in the dust, finding out they really don't have much in common anymore.

Well shit...it's 2.30 in the morning and I'm rambling. Hang in there, and take time appreciate all the good things you've got going for you, and never feel afraid to do what you want to do.

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