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monkeysugar · 01-02-2005, 02:37 AM

I'm glad you're feeling better about things Arroe. Reading your posts made me feel like I was going through my junior high and early high school experiences all over again, and although most of these things have already been said many times, I'm going to repeat them.

First and foremost, these girls treat you like shit because you are an easy target. You don't fight back because you are a nice guy. There's a time and place for being nice, and if you're being walked all over and treated like shit by the people you call your friends, that's not the time or place to do it. Take a stand. Calling them out on something is good, especially if you are skilled in verbal judo and it is in front of their friends. People at that age, especially those who tend to "run in packs" are HIGHLY insecure and low level public shaming will usually work wonders. Stand up for yourself and people will treat you a lot better.

What goes around does come around. You may not see the results happen immediately, but in the long run, you'll probably get a lot farther in life with your "nice" tendancies than they will with their "bitch" tendancies.

Don't think for a minute that there is something wrong with you. There isn't. You don't deserve to be treated the way they treat you. PERIOD. It's not ok, they may mean to be joking, but if it's hurting you, it's gone way too far. Unfortunately, nothing will change until you decide to do something about it. If you're not getting anything out of the friendships, then fuck 'em. Branch out and meet new people. It's easier to do than it sounds.

Things will get better. I promise. The vast majority of the people you meet in college are going to have a lot in common with you, and everyone is basically starting with a clean slate, and want to find new people to hang out with. The petty things that ruled everything in high school really do not matter once you get to college, because the people who got the most caught up in it usually don't end up going to college, or if they do, they are unable to make friends or party too much and drop out. The rest of the people tend to move on, find new friends, and leave most of their high school friends in the dust, finding out they really don't have much in common anymore.

Well shit...it's 2.30 in the morning and I'm rambling. Hang in there, and take time appreciate all the good things you've got going for you, and never feel afraid to do what you want to do.

01-02-2005, 02:37 AM	#51 (permalink)
monkeysugar I'll be on the veranda, since you're on the cross. Location: Rand McNally's friendliest small town in America. They must have strayed from the dodgy parts...	I'm glad you're feeling better about things Arroe. Reading your posts made me feel like I was going through my junior high and early high school experiences all over again, and although most of these things have already been said many times, I'm going to repeat them. First and foremost, these girls treat you like shit because you are an easy target. You don't fight back because you are a nice guy. There's a time and place for being nice, and if you're being walked all over and treated like shit by the people you call your friends, that's not the time or place to do it. Take a stand. Calling them out on something is good, especially if you are skilled in verbal judo and it is in front of their friends. People at that age, especially those who tend to "run in packs" are HIGHLY insecure and low level public shaming will usually work wonders. Stand up for yourself and people will treat you a lot better. What goes around does come around. You may not see the results happen immediately, but in the long run, you'll probably get a lot farther in life with your "nice" tendancies than they will with their "bitch" tendancies. Don't think for a minute that there is something wrong with you. There isn't. You don't deserve to be treated the way they treat you. PERIOD. It's not ok, they may mean to be joking, but if it's hurting you, it's gone way too far. Unfortunately, nothing will change until you decide to do something about it. If you're not getting anything out of the friendships, then fuck 'em. Branch out and meet new people. It's easier to do than it sounds. Things will get better. I promise. The vast majority of the people you meet in college are going to have a lot in common with you, and everyone is basically starting with a clean slate, and want to find new people to hang out with. The petty things that ruled everything in high school really do not matter once you get to college, because the people who got the most caught up in it usually don't end up going to college, or if they do, they are unable to make friends or party too much and drop out. The rest of the people tend to move on, find new friends, and leave most of their high school friends in the dust, finding out they really don't have much in common anymore. Well shit...it's 2.30 in the morning and I'm rambling. Hang in there, and take time appreciate all the good things you've got going for you, and never feel afraid to do what you want to do. __________________ I've got the love of my life and a job that I enjoy most of the time. Life is good.