d3f1

I am sure many people out there face this problem. I'm constantly turned down by girls not because I'm an asshole, nor that I am ugly. My looks are reasonable. Its the fact that I create a bond with someone too fast. It isn't that I purposely try to become close friends or bond with them. It just happens. It has been like this for over 2 years now, and its really starting to bother me. Girls just think that im " too good to be true". the "nice guy". I have no idea what to do. I constantly keep my chin up, and stay optimistic, is there any advice out there that someone can give ?

Prince

Instead of going into a long boring rant about the Nice Guy Syndrome, I will suggest that you search the threads in Tilted Sexuality. We've had plenty of quite informative and interesting threads about the subject, which I think you may find intriguing to read. Go, fetch!

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d3f1

lol thankyou for the burn / advice :P

SiN

O...k.

And the purpose of this was....?

I think I can figure out where you meant to reply to...one sec..
//merging

//edit - that's better

Now..Prince makes a valid point, honestly. This question has been asked time and time again.
Play with the search terms a bit, don't forget about 'AND' to include keywords, and yeah. you should find some wisdoms

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cameroncrazy822

I completely understand being the N"nice guy" thing and that it's a turn-off to women. I tell you what though, if you would do whatever it is that you've done to this point (which gets you turned down all the time) but with a few hundred bucks over a few dates. It's very sad but it would not surprise me if that next relationship was ne where you weren't "rejected" as in the past. It's not the type of relationship I would strive for but one may try it as a way to "get over the hump" of getting someone to get to know them before rejecting them.

NotMinus

Its all about presentation, not getting rejected is about making a good first impression. I try to keep any first contact with someone who I would like to get a number from to under five minutes. Its enough time to present yourself as confident, relay some intresting information and ask for a number. Really, rejection is a form of weeding out people, don't give up instantly but know when you are defeated. If you want to really get sneaky, use the old bait and switch, ask for someones email (which is much less evasise the telephone) and as the write tell them to put their name and then phone number underneath, once they start writing they will put down a number.

thespian86

Welcome to my life, check out the Ladie's Lounge and the thread called "A question from a male TFPer"

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kalashnikov

I don't know why girls don't go for me. I am just too perfect. In fact, I think my only shortcoming is my overbearing modesty.

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d3f1

My overbearing modesty is your distrust in what I say. The " I'm too perfect" example was a line I hear a lot, as in to make me feel better. It is nothing more then a hollow half truth.

doncalypso

Since the dawn of time women have always professed their desire to have a good man while in fact going for the asshole.

There's nothing anyone can do about this, so we might as well stop trying to beat a dead horse because it can't get any more dead than it is now.

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Astrocloud

Okay, Here is what I say. I'm not trying to piss any women off but this is from experience:

American women don't respect men and don't like men generally. The nicer you are the more they suspect that you are hiding something. There is a way out.

Date foreign women.

Seriously, they treat you well and don't have half the hang ups of American women. My experience is that they like and seek "nice guys". If you can, go to a club or organization that will have a bunch of europeans in it. Learn a foreign language. Get a foreign language tutor.

I've dated two german women and although they were both bitches -they initialized the contact. They made the first moves. It's like night and day compared to the overly picky chick that walks all over your heart and couldn't care less.

d3f1

hahaha, ok good laugh there. i did not expect an answer like that though ! Maybe I should try the whole foreign women idea o.O !