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follower of the child's crusade?
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idk where the right place is
But TFP is prolly the only location I would want to say this....
I dont know how to start this or say this, without it coming across wrong or like some kind of sympathy play... but well I didnt have the worst childhood and nor did I have a happy one. Objectively, I dont "like" either of my parents. When I think of them, when I think about some things they are responsible for, I just well up with hate... but I cant seem to hold onto it. Genes, or love, or sympathy, or something seems to feel stronger in me. I really dont know if this makes me strong, or good, or weak, or just sentimental... but I wasnt trying to just make a thread about hating my parents or not. I spent some time in state care growing up, and most of the time with my parents, and however it went I wasnt damaged in anyway that I could say is affecting me now without my own consent. But... the last 6 months my mother has gotten ill. She has been diabetic for about 20 years, and has had bad health for a few years. I found out a a couple of months ago that she attempted suicide two years ago and was very close to dying...but now she is having problems with her heart... idk if its gonna be soon, or... I just am starting to feel like she is on her way out - I saw her last month, and she just looks so much smaller than I remember (and I know Im a bigger man than I was before, but...) I guess.... Im just hitting the point where my parents mortality is becoming a reality rather than an idea... and I dont know how I feel, and I just dont feel good about it at all
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peekaboo
Location: on the back, bitch
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Have you made your peace with the events of the past? If not, do so....
I really feel many of the guilt or bad feelings we harbor when it comes to your parents is in not making peace with what happened. Instead, we hold it against them like a gun. Then when they die, we cry the loudest to let all that out...and those that have made peace are at peace in their mournings. Parents are human. They are fallible and they make mistakes. Spend as much time as you can with her, either in person or on the phone. Recall happy times, whether few or many and if she makes mention of the worst, let her speak and let her know it's ok.... Facing our parents' mortality forces us to face our own. Scary, but that's just the way it is and we might as well face it with as little burden as possible.
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