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Have you made your peace with the events of the past? If not, do so....
I really feel many of the guilt or bad feelings we harbor when it comes to your parents is in not making peace with what happened. Instead, we hold it against them like a gun. Then when they die, we cry the loudest to let all that out...and those that have made peace are at peace in their mournings.
Parents are human. They are fallible and they make mistakes. Spend as much time as you can with her, either in person or on the phone. Recall happy times, whether few or many and if she makes mention of the worst, let her speak and let her know it's ok....
Facing our parents' mortality forces us to face our own. Scary, but that's just the way it is and we might as well face it with as little burden as possible.
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Don't blame me. I didn't vote for either of'em.
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