CityOfAngels

I am not going to use any names, because I assume they don't visit this site or at least don't know who I am, and this isn't open court, so they have the right to their privacy.

About a week ago, my best friend told me that he was raped by his sister's father, his aunt, and his grandma on multiple occasions througought his life. He said it lasted from when he was a baby up until high school. He is still very young, but I won't give his age for privacy reasons. He has filed a police report against his sister's father, but not his aunt or grandma. Reason being is he's telling me that everything is coming back to him in sudden realizations. He says he was in complete denial up until now, and he somehow forgot about it. So he didn't realize his aunt and grandma were involved before he filed the report.

He has told his family members and friends about it. He is very open about what happened. But today he told me that as he was sitting in my chair, he realized that he was raped again at work by a man who everyone thought to have HIV. He hasn't been able to have a full appointment with a psychiatrist, but he did see one who just gave him some medication for schizophrenia; but he says he didn't even get to tell him what happened, and the doctor didn't tell him why he gave him the medication. He went in for an HIV test after he realized what his sister's father had done, but he doesn't get the results until later. So now he is left thinking that he has HIV.

I keep trying to tell him, "You haven't seen that guy's results, and you haven't seen your results, so for all you know he could've been clean." But he says he is absolutely sure that the guy had HIV. I asked him why, and he said it was because everyone at work was telling him that the guy had it. What gets me even more is everyone at work KNEW about it, and they did NOTHING but fire the guy! He says for some reason the manager of the store taped his statement and that was it. They wanted to keep it hush hush.

So after he's told me all of this, I really have no idea what to do. He is my homie, and always will be, but this is all so much at once that it sounds like it could even be fictional. I mean, his doctor did give him that medicine. Am I not being told the whole truth? Or is my friend really in dire straits here? All I can think to do is to hang out with him whenever he calls me up and wants to chill, and to talk to him about it when he needs to. But even then, I try to talk about other subjects, so as to not dwell on the situation; but it's a very serious situation. I recommended that he goes back to the police station to file another, updated report, and he says he will tomorrow.

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Fob_Magi

If he has been diagnosed with schizophrenia (which I assume he has if his doctor gave him medicine for it), all of these things may be complete fabrications or exaggerations of reality. Schizophrenics often have no clue between what is real and what is in their heads (imagine living in a non-stop dream, quite often a nightmare)… so he may have been raped by these 4 people, or it may have just been 1 or it may have been none…

a guy I knew got schizophrenia and he saw people chasing him wherever he went, every story on the news was about him.. they were always coming for him.. coming to take him… coming to burn/kill/shoot/execute him… he had to go thru several different medications to get something that made him stable…

It’s a very serious illness that can destroy a very competent intelligent person…. If this is the case, try and be there for him and make sure he is going to the doctor often and telling the doctor EVERYTHING… somebody has to keep him on track or he may self-destruct.

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Rodney

Have you looked at this thread? It seems very similar to what you're talking about: a friend who has dire stories about his/her life.... which don't seem to add up.

http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/showthread.php?t=101653

highthief

Co-sign. On the surface, from a person who is otherwise normal, the story sounds far-fetched - all these people conspiring to sexually assault him and give him deadly illnesses, etc. What are the odds?

For a schizophrenic person, however, it is very conceivable they would actually believe this happened to them. It is one of the saddest things to see happen to a person that illness is.

Read up on the illness, and if that is indeed what your friend has, be ready for two things:

1) The roughest ride you may ever have in terms of watching a friend suffer uncontrollably.

2) Be ready to offer whatever support you can to your friend and his family, because, having seen it happen, it's simply horrible and only the strongest survive it with a lot of support from their friends.

good luck.

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Plaid13

Ok so i assume one of three things is happening. 1. its all a horrible lie and a cry for attention. that being the best of the three. 2. hes schizophrenic and its all in his head and hes basicly living a nightmare 3. it all really happened and he has very bad luck.

But no matter how you look at it theres two choices you have. disapear and ignore him or stay his friend and just try to be there for him the best you can.