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Sue · 04-02-2005, 11:58 AM

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Sage · 04-02-2005, 12:32 PM

Well, A- you're PMSing, so having the feelings you do is normal. B- why don't you tell each other how you feel? I know that there's the excuse of "not wanting to get hurt" but if you two already know in your hearts how you feel about each other, if you break up now (not that you're going to, but hypothetically if it happened) then you're still gonna be hurt. You're past the point of it not being a big deal. And then there's the "taking it slow" thing, but Sue, babe, he drove how many hours to come see you? And I'm assuming there was some physically intimate behavior in there somewhere? And you think you two are starting to love each other? I mean, hello, that is you two going somewhere in this relationship, not taking it slow!

Babe, when it hits you, it hits you, and you can't escape it, no matter how many excuses you or he comes up with. If you're in love with him, or just love him, either way, you KNOW, and you don't know how you know, but you do. And you can't run from that, because it'll tear you apart. Talk to this boy about how you feel- don't do it on PMS week, cause then you'll get about a bajillion times more emotional than you should

Sue, go with how you feel, deep down inside, and stop trying to come up with excuses why you shouldn't follow your heart!

And, if you're still worried about "taking things too fast," Martel and I practially ripped each other's clothes off twenty minutes after our first kiss- We had been waiting out whole lives for each other and once we had found each other, we were ready to get on with the fun stuff!!

Good luck, us ladies of TFP *wub* you!!

Sue · 04-02-2005, 04:05 PM

Well Sage, he flew, didn't drive here.. but I see your point nonetheless.

I gotta head out, have guests here

I'll BBL to respond some more

sexymama · 04-02-2005, 04:19 PM

Time for some good, open, honest communication! He deserves to know how you feel and vis versa -- don't put it off.

Like Sage, when Lebell and I met we were pratically making love within an hour (and I don't do that!) He told me that he loved me the first night we were together. It scared the crap out of me -- but I knew I loved him too! When it is right, it is right. We've been married 9 months now and Jr. is to arrive in 9 weeks. I am thrilled!

ShaniFaye · 04-02-2005, 04:52 PM

I know how you feel Sue, Dave went away to work in Florida 5 days after our first date, when he came back that next friday "I love you" were the first words out of our mouths. It had driven us crazy all week, we both hinted to wanting to say it when we talked online while he was gone, but we both wanted to say it in person Mon-Fri that week were the longest ones of our lives. But when we finally said it.....it was as if all the pieces fell into place and our souls merged as one and all was right with the world.

Like sexymama, Dave and I had sex almost immeditately...we did manage to have dinner first. Both of us were out of crappy relationships and he told me when we'd parted that nite that he'd had a good time but I needed to remember he wasnt looking for anything long term...I had just smiled and said....ok...well you call me when you want to hang out again. I knew it was bullshit...I saw it in his eyes. He called me the next morning to tell me he was miserable because he'd had to wake up without me and he never ever wanted to do that again.

If its both how you feel.....why wait in saying it? Its only prolonging the inevitable

jRuntlets · 04-03-2005, 11:03 PM

Hey there Sue, I totally know how you feel, because my boy is in the ARMY. He's currently in the field for two weeks(stationed in CO, I'm in AZ) and this is the first time in over a year I haven't been able to talk to him every day or two. Though on the upside for me, he snuck away last night and called me. It had been 7 days!

In any event, my best way of feeling not so depressed about not seeing/able to talk to him is to be really busy. I've thrown my self head first into getting into shape again and go to the gym 5-6 nights a week. I spend more time out at the barn with my horses, and spend way more time studying for school (which I know I should be doing anyhow!).

I think you two need to have the discussion as to what you are! If it's killing you it must be killing him! Have a talk with him about it, to finalize what you are to each other. I think that'll bring you a peice of mind. If you love him and you feel right about saying it, say it. It'll be emotional to admit how you feel, but it's way better than being dragged through the mud by not letting him know how you feel and knowing for sure (in his words) how he feels.

Good luck!

Sweetpea · 04-03-2005, 11:29 PM

I've been there . . . let it build, enjoy the feelings that are building between you two right now . . . try to be in the moment.

The day will come when you both will share your feelings for each other and it's going to be an amazing day . . .

I know it's hard right now and it IS a bit depressing especially when you have to be apart after spending alot of time together, believe me, i Know how darm hard it is . . . hang in there . . . Love is a crazy thing, it's passion and drama and lovely tension like no other . . . enjoy the ride, enjoy every emotion you feel for him and take it one day at a time . . .

Sweetpea

JustJess · 04-04-2005, 05:14 AM

Tell him – it doesn’t sound like he’ll run, it sounds like he’s just as crazy about you!!!! You’re right, tho, you may want to wait a little, til your emotions settle a touch. It’s hard to do in the first place, let alone when you’re PMS’ing! Our relationship went fast too - my husband told me he loved me after being together for only 3 weeks – I was a little freaked out because it was so soon, but he was smarter than I was. I certainly didn’t run away after he said it, and not more than a week or two later we were both telling each other the ‘I love you’ all the time…

It’s so nice to read your posts, you remind me of how crazy we were about each other back in the beginning. I’m also looking forward to reading posts when you two eventually live in the same place and are happily together.

Thanks for brightening my morning!!!

lindseylatch · 04-04-2005, 10:20 AM

hah, my b/f is a total commitment-phob, so there will be NO "I love you"s for some time...I'm trying to very gently hint to him that maybe we should live together next year...

But he sounds like a good solid guy. I say, have THAT conversations. Talk you him about what exactly you guys are. Not that I'm saying this is the case, but sometimes one person can think there's something more going on while the other is just in it for the sex. But he did fly, like, a bajillion miles to see you. So it's probably not just the sex.

But yeah, communication is the key.

snowy · 04-04-2005, 11:18 AM

Tell him. I told my first boyfriend before he told me. I said, "I know you may not feel the same but I want you to know how I feel. I love you." And he was incredibly touched that I could be so open and honest. He didn't tell me he loved me until a couple weeks later...during the process of losing my virginity. Yeah. That was kinda odd. But hey...he was overwhelmed by the moment, I guess.

04-02-2005, 11:58 AM	#1 (permalink)
Sue Teufel Hunden's Freundin Location: Westminster, CO	I'm gonna go crazy... sigh stupid heart! grumble edited for content.... __________________ Teg yw edrych tuag adref. Last edited by Sue; 08-23-2005 at 07:44 PM..

04-02-2005, 12:32 PM	#2 (permalink)
Sage hoarding all the big girl panties since 2005 Location: North side	Well, A- you're PMSing, so having the feelings you do is normal. B- why don't you tell each other how you feel? I know that there's the excuse of "not wanting to get hurt" but if you two already know in your hearts how you feel about each other, if you break up now (not that you're going to, but hypothetically if it happened) then you're still gonna be hurt. You're past the point of it not being a big deal. And then there's the "taking it slow" thing, but Sue, babe, he drove how many hours to come see you? And I'm assuming there was some physically intimate behavior in there somewhere? And you think you two are starting to love each other? I mean, hello, that is you two going somewhere in this relationship, not taking it slow! Babe, when it hits you, it hits you, and you can't escape it, no matter how many excuses you or he comes up with. If you're in love with him, or just love him, either way, you KNOW, and you don't know how you know, but you do. And you can't run from that, because it'll tear you apart. Talk to this boy about how you feel- don't do it on PMS week, cause then you'll get about a bajillion times more emotional than you should Sue, go with how you feel, deep down inside, and stop trying to come up with excuses why you shouldn't follow your heart! And, if you're still worried about "taking things too fast," Martel and I practially ripped each other's clothes off twenty minutes after our first kiss- We had been waiting out whole lives for each other and once we had found each other, we were ready to get on with the fun stuff!! Good luck, us ladies of TFP wub you!! __________________ Sage knows our mythic history, King Arthur's and Sir Caradoc's She answers hard acrostics, has a pretty taste for paradox She quotes in elegiacs all the crimes of Heliogabalus In conics she can floor peculiarities parabolous -C'hi

04-02-2005, 04:05 PM	#3 (permalink)
Sue Teufel Hunden's Freundin Location: Westminster, CO	Well Sage, he flew, didn't drive here.. but I see your point nonetheless. I gotta head out, have guests here I'll BBL to respond some more __________________ Teg yw edrych tuag adref.

04-02-2005, 04:19 PM	#4 (permalink)
sexymama My own person -- his by choice Location: Lebell's arms	Time for some good, open, honest communication! He deserves to know how you feel and vis versa -- don't put it off. Like Sage, when Lebell and I met we were pratically making love within an hour (and I don't do that!) He told me that he loved me the first night we were together. It scared the crap out of me -- but I knew I loved him too! When it is right, it is right. We've been married 9 months now and Jr. is to arrive in 9 weeks. I am thrilled! __________________ If you can go deeply into lovemaking, the ego disappears. That is the beauty of lovemaking, that it is another source of a glimpse of god It's not about being perfect; it's about developing some skill at managing imperfection.

04-02-2005, 04:52 PM	#5 (permalink)
ShaniFaye Submit to me, you know you want to Location: Lilburn, Ga	I know how you feel Sue, Dave went away to work in Florida 5 days after our first date, when he came back that next friday "I love you" were the first words out of our mouths. It had driven us crazy all week, we both hinted to wanting to say it when we talked online while he was gone, but we both wanted to say it in person Mon-Fri that week were the longest ones of our lives. But when we finally said it.....it was as if all the pieces fell into place and our souls merged as one and all was right with the world. Like sexymama, Dave and I had sex almost immeditately...we did manage to have dinner first. Both of us were out of crappy relationships and he told me when we'd parted that nite that he'd had a good time but I needed to remember he wasnt looking for anything long term...I had just smiled and said....ok...well you call me when you want to hang out again. I knew it was bullshit...I saw it in his eyes. He called me the next morning to tell me he was miserable because he'd had to wake up without me and he never ever wanted to do that again. If its both how you feel.....why wait in saying it? Its only prolonging the inevitable __________________ *I want the diabetic plan that comes with rollover carbs. I dont like the unused one expiring at midnite!!*

04-03-2005, 11:03 PM	#6 (permalink)
jRuntlets Crazy	Hey there Sue, I totally know how you feel, because my boy is in the ARMY. He's currently in the field for two weeks(stationed in CO, I'm in AZ) and this is the first time in over a year I haven't been able to talk to him every day or two. Though on the upside for me, he snuck away last night and called me. It had been 7 days! In any event, my best way of feeling not so depressed about not seeing/able to talk to him is to be really busy. I've thrown my self head first into getting into shape again and go to the gym 5-6 nights a week. I spend more time out at the barn with my horses, and spend way more time studying for school (which I know I should be doing anyhow!). I think you two need to have the discussion as to what you are! If it's killing you it must be killing him! Have a talk with him about it, to finalize what you are to each other. I think that'll bring you a peice of mind. If you love him and you feel right about saying it, say it. It'll be emotional to admit how you feel, but it's way better than being dragged through the mud by not letting him know how you feel and knowing for sure (in his words) how he feels. Good luck! __________________ Horses come and go, but some leave permanent hoof prints on your life.

04-03-2005, 11:29 PM	#7 (permalink)
Sweetpea Fade out Location: in love	I've been there . . . let it build, enjoy the feelings that are building between you two right now . . . try to be in the moment. The day will come when you both will share your feelings for each other and it's going to be an amazing day . . . I know it's hard right now and it IS a bit depressing especially when you have to be apart after spending alot of time together, believe me, i Know how darm hard it is . . . hang in there . . . Love is a crazy thing, it's passion and drama and lovely tension like no other . . . enjoy the ride, enjoy every emotion you feel for him and take it one day at a time . . . Sweetpea __________________ Having a Pet Will Change Your Life! Looking for a great pet?! Click Here! "I am the Type of Person Who Can Get Away With A lot, Simply Because I Don't Ask Permission for the Privilege of Being Myself"

04-04-2005, 05:14 AM	#8 (permalink)
JustJess Unencapsulated Location: Kittyville	Tell him – it doesn’t sound like he’ll run, it sounds like he’s just as crazy about you!!!! You’re right, tho, you may want to wait a little, til your emotions settle a touch. It’s hard to do in the first place, let alone when you’re PMS’ing! Our relationship went fast too - my husband told me he loved me after being together for only 3 weeks – I was a little freaked out because it was so soon, but he was smarter than I was. I certainly didn’t run away after he said it, and not more than a week or two later we were both telling each other the ‘I love you’ all the time… It’s so nice to read your posts, you remind me of how crazy we were about each other back in the beginning. I’m also looking forward to reading posts when you two eventually live in the same place and are happily together. Thanks for brightening my morning!!! __________________ My heart knows me better than I know myself, so I'm gonna let it do all the talkin'.

04-04-2005, 10:20 AM	#9 (permalink)
lindseylatch Addict Location: Seattle, WA	hah, my b/f is a total commitment-phob, so there will be NO "I love you"s for some time...I'm trying to very gently hint to him that maybe we should live together next year... But he sounds like a good solid guy. I say, have THAT conversations. Talk you him about what exactly you guys are. Not that I'm saying this is the case, but sometimes one person can think there's something more going on while the other is just in it for the sex. But he did fly, like, a bajillion miles to see you. So it's probably not just the sex. But yeah, communication is the key. __________________ "Those who can make you believe absurdities can make you commit atrocities" "If God did not exist, it would be necessary to invent him." "It is dangerous to be right when the government is wrong." -Voltaire

04-04-2005, 11:18 AM	#10 (permalink)
snowy Kick Ass Kunoichi Location: Oregon	Tell him. I told my first boyfriend before he told me. I said, "I know you may not feel the same but I want you to know how I feel. I love you." And he was incredibly touched that I could be so open and honest. He didn't tell me he loved me until a couple weeks later...during the process of losing my virginity. Yeah. That was kinda odd. But hey...he was overwhelmed by the moment, I guess. __________________ If I am not better, at least I am different. --Jean-Jacques Rousseau