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crayzeeredhead · 10-31-2003, 01:37 PM

I had a hysterectomy about a year ago the 27th! The doctors found cancer on my uterus and cervix( cant spell ) and also found 12 ployps plus endometriosis! All of this was removed, although I never went back to see if they got all of the cancer!
I was put on pills that made me soo sick! then i asked for the patch! now I can not afford my hormone patch!!
now for the questions ...
my sex drive has tripled as a result of the operationeven without hormone replacement!! will that change or is it normal or wht is suppose to happen?
I also have a problem with vaginal dryness!! Is that normal?
Oh and should i return to the doctor for another rx for the patch?
On top of all that i still have pain which was the cause of the histerectomy in the first palce! is that normal or do I need to go back to the doctor!!
I also am really upset because i wanted more children is it normal to feel inadequate because i couldnt give a man my age children other than the ones I have already!! (I am only 26)
Will I end up alone because of this? I know men or rather boys eventually want kids and i cant give that to them it scares me to think if ever I do find mister right I wont be able to have his children which he will inevidable want!!
I really feel like I'm missing part of myself!! I fell very inadequate when it comes to the opposite sex!! all advice and uplifting advice is welcome!!

Averett · 10-31-2003, 01:52 PM

First of all, get to the doctors. You never went back to see if they got all the cancer out? What??? Every single contact I've had with cancer in my life (family members) the doctors pretty much set a schedule for check up's.

Honestly I cannot believe that you're not going to your doctor for yoru problems. Sorry if that sounds harsh... but really, get your ass to the doctors and take care of your health!

If a man doesn't want to be with you because of your inability to have children than he doesn't love YOU and you're better off without him.

Get thee to the doctors!

shannon · 10-31-2003, 08:37 PM

i agree with averett about the getting to the doctor thing. hell, i go to the doctor if my forehead is itchy, you have a very good reason to check things out!
as far as a guy not loving you because you can't have kids i am a strong believer that love, real love, should be above that. if you really want children then you could always try to adopt or something. the man should love you for you and not your ability to bear children. don't worry so much about the man thing, cause the right one tends to come when you completely don't see it coming i think. you just take care of yourself and let the higher powers worry about letting the right guy waltz into your life. i hope i am making a bit of sense, i am really sleepy. anyways, you are a sweetheart in my opinion and i would just love to give you a hug. don't get so worked up about things you can't control, and things you can (i.e. doctor's appts.) take care of. xoxo

gabshu · 10-31-2003, 10:52 PM

If there's one thing you should get out of this post is that YOU MUST GO TO THE DOCTOR!

And I just want to tell you a story, my best friend got her whole uterus removed when she was 13, and it wasn't the end of her life. She's had plenty of boyfriends and she's planning on adopting when she wants kids. You shouldn't be with a guy who wouldn't be with you because you can't bear his children, so don't worry about the guy thing.

Just try to live you life like normal and please go see a doctor soon. I really wish you the best in all of this and keep us posted on how things are going.

lurkette · 11-01-2003, 04:58 AM

Make a list of all of your questions and DON'T LEAVE THE DOCTOR'S OFFICE UNTIL THEY ARE ALL ANSWERED. Nothing is stupd - this is your life you're talking about, so better risk a little embarassment asking what feels to you like a dumb question or too many questions than to either live with uncertainty or overlook a symptom that might be serious. If your doctor doesn't answer your questions, find another doctor who will.

crayzeeredhead · 11-02-2003, 01:16 PM

thx all for your advice and support!! YES!! I got a doctor's appointment soon!! I will let ya'll know how it goes

10-31-2003, 01:37 PM	#1 (permalink)
crayzeeredhead Tilted Location: here& there but here today	Menopause questions I had a hysterectomy about a year ago the 27th! The doctors found cancer on my uterus and cervix( cant spell ) and also found 12 ployps plus endometriosis! All of this was removed, although I never went back to see if they got all of the cancer! I was put on pills that made me soo sick! then i asked for the patch! now I can not afford my hormone patch!! now for the questions ... my sex drive has tripled as a result of the operationeven without hormone replacement!! will that change or is it normal or wht is suppose to happen? I also have a problem with vaginal dryness!! Is that normal? Oh and should i return to the doctor for another rx for the patch? On top of all that i still have pain which was the cause of the histerectomy in the first palce! is that normal or do I need to go back to the doctor!! I also am really upset because i wanted more children is it normal to feel inadequate because i couldnt give a man my age children other than the ones I have already!! (I am only 26) Will I end up alone because of this? I know men or rather boys eventually want kids and i cant give that to them it scares me to think if ever I do find mister right I wont be able to have his children which he will inevidable want!! I really feel like I'm missing part of myself!! I fell very inadequate when it comes to the opposite sex!! all advice and uplifting advice is welcome!! __________________ For everything there is a neverending cycle- birth, death, rebirth. Evil can and will not exist without good and visa versa. You also reap what you sew. There is a sliver of truth in every saying -those are a few!! Last edited by crayzeeredhead; 10-31-2003 at 01:40 PM..

10-31-2003, 01:52 PM	#2 (permalink)
Averett Is In Love Location: I'm workin' on it	First of all, get to the doctors. You never went back to see if they got all the cancer out? What??? Every single contact I've had with cancer in my life (family members) the doctors pretty much set a schedule for check up's. Honestly I cannot believe that you're not going to your doctor for yoru problems. Sorry if that sounds harsh... but really, get your ass to the doctors and take care of your health! If a man doesn't want to be with you because of your inability to have children than he doesn't love YOU and you're better off without him. Get thee to the doctors! __________________ Absence is to love what wind is to fire. It extinguishes the small, it enkindles the great.

10-31-2003, 08:37 PM	#3 (permalink)
shannon Psycho Location: Canada	i agree with averett about the getting to the doctor thing. hell, i go to the doctor if my forehead is itchy, you have a very good reason to check things out! as far as a guy not loving you because you can't have kids i am a strong believer that love, real love, should be above that. if you really want children then you could always try to adopt or something. the man should love you for you and not your ability to bear children. don't worry so much about the man thing, cause the right one tends to come when you completely don't see it coming i think. you just take care of yourself and let the higher powers worry about letting the right guy waltz into your life. i hope i am making a bit of sense, i am really sleepy. anyways, you are a sweetheart in my opinion and i would just love to give you a hug. don't get so worked up about things you can't control, and things you can (i.e. doctor's appts.) take care of. xoxo __________________ "When I look down I just miss all the good stuff. And when I look up I just trip over things"

10-31-2003, 10:52 PM	#4 (permalink)
gabshu Psycho Location: The capital of the free world??	If there's one thing you should get out of this post is that YOU MUST GO TO THE DOCTOR! And I just want to tell you a story, my best friend got her whole uterus removed when she was 13, and it wasn't the end of her life. She's had plenty of boyfriends and she's planning on adopting when she wants kids. You shouldn't be with a guy who wouldn't be with you because you can't bear his children, so don't worry about the guy thing. Just try to live you life like normal and please go see a doctor soon. I really wish you the best in all of this and keep us posted on how things are going. __________________ Go Kool Aid. OH YEAAHH http://www.retrocrush.com/archive2003/koolaid/

11-01-2003, 04:58 AM	#5 (permalink)
lurkette My future is coming on Moderator Emeritus Location: east of the sun and west of the moon	Make a list of all of your questions and DON'T LEAVE THE DOCTOR'S OFFICE UNTIL THEY ARE ALL ANSWERED. Nothing is stupd - this is your life you're talking about, so better risk a little embarassment asking what feels to you like a dumb question or too many questions than to either live with uncertainty or overlook a symptom that might be serious. If your doctor doesn't answer your questions, find another doctor who will. __________________ "If ten million people believe a foolish thing, it is still a foolish thing." - Anatole France

11-02-2003, 01:16 PM	#6 (permalink)
crayzeeredhead Tilted Location: here& there but here today	thx all for your advice and support!! YES!! I got a doctor's appointment soon!! I will let ya'll know how it goes __________________ For everything there is a neverending cycle- birth, death, rebirth. Evil can and will not exist without good and visa versa. You also reap what you sew. There is a sliver of truth in every saying -those are a few!!