this board

[little limey]

I have been thinking about this for a while and isn't this board kind of degrading? Giving women their own board so they can't discuss their women things where men can read them? I feel like we are being protected because we are weak or something. Why can't men read and comment on jokes we make about them like we have to do with them? Why can't we talk about our women's health issues on the health and fitness board? I mean, I know we have the option to do that, but why even have our own board? This makes me feel like we're not equal to men on tfp.

[raeanna74]

I personally like it simply because there are so many more men than women on this board. I haven't felt like I couldn't post on the health and fitness board but I don't go there as often and I feel like if I wanted women's advice on a women's health issue it will be easier seen by the women on this forum. As for allowing men to comment on things - I feel like our posts might get lost amongst the sheer number of men posting on certain subjects. It's not that we aren't equal in knowledge and ability but that we AREN'T equal in numbers. Personally I think that may be one reason the Ladies Lounge is here.

[Minx]

Originally posted by raeanna74
It's not that we aren't equal in knowledge and ability but that we AREN'T equal in numbers.

Bingo! I agree with raeanna74 completely on this thought. I very much appreciate the fact that there is a ladies lounge and do not find it degrading one little bit.
If you have a health issue you don't necessarily have to post it here yet at times it is nice to get just a female's perspective on the matter.
I also feel it is a very good idea to have a special place just for the ladies in regards to having new members join us. It is a lot less intimidating for women who perhaps aren't used to sites such as this one to be introduced to one that does have a spot just for "the girls". It takes some of the fear factor away and makes it much more comfortable to get involved.

[SiN]

i like it too.

some things, sure could be discussed elsewhere...

but i've enough respect for the men of TFP to for example, NOT want a post about tampons/pads in say, the health forum.

:shrug:

plus i like the feeling of us being our own sub-community.
whether or not there's any interaction or whatever elsewhere around here amongst us women, it's still nice to have an all-girl room sometimes.

[Rubyee]

It's also easier to get advice just from women on some subjects, rather than seeing men try to give advice on something they know nothing about. In the same aspect, I would not try to give advice to a man on how to prevent "crotch rot" or a good way to give fellatio.

[little limey]

You guys are right about the number thing. But as SiN said she doesn't want to bother men with talking about tampons. We have to deal with them talking about their penis's so why can't we talk about our tampons around them? That was my point.

I do see what you guys are saying and I agree. I just think that this board makes it easier for men to forget about women's issues and think of us as a different species. I just don't like being seperated, but it does make sense when it comes to the numbers.

[collide]

I have no complaints about taking part in an elitist discussion board such as this one (mainly because it makes me feel privileged for just being born the appropriate sex), except that I don't completely agree that a lot of the topics here are entirely women's issues or that men cannot or do not have anything worthwhile to contribute to the discussion.

Aside from that, it's fun to be able to taunt men and be in a protected environment, and because I secretly enjoy being cruel and mean-spirited, and this is sort of a catalyst for that kind of activity.

Neener.

[*Nikki*]

Well seeing how ALL the men read this board probably more so then the titty board even.......we are being heard.

The men come here to learn about us.
You see they don't really have a clue.

SO not only is this a place where we can come and be girls but think of all the men you are educating!!

Now don't you feel better??

[shannon]

i love this board. i love the closeness. the size is a big factor. because on a lot of other boards i think your posts really do get lost, but here it's more intimate and people listen more i think because of the intimate atmosphere.
i also agree with SiN's point that guys don't want to hear about us talking about tampons, etc. i mean i'm pretty sure that if i didn't need to use them i wouldn't be overly keen on a chat about blood absorbers. seriously, it's kinda sick. now, in the same way there are a lot of guys with the penis problems that i don't likely want to hear about either, which is why i wouldn't take offense or anything if they started some sort of boy's club.
some topics are just better discussed here than on a lot of other chats, because i know a topic won't be flooded here by guys responses when i'm looking for responses that are from people coming from where i am.
i hope i'm making sense, it's near my bedtime.

[JadziaDax]

Originally posted by little limey
But as SiN said she doesn't want to bother men with talking about tampons. We have to deal with them talking about their penis's so why can't we talk about our tampons around them?

They do deal with our tampon talk... they read this threads (don't let them fool you when they say they don't... they are such bad liars).

This board serves many purposes. One of which has not yet been mentioned is the fact that there are women who join TFP and are a bit shy at first. They don't want to join a conversation where the men dominate things for fear of being torn apart (yes, there are a ton of male chauvinist pigs on this board), so they get their feet wet someplace that they feel a little more comfortable.

The one thing you should never feel as a woman is inferior to any man. We are special, and we need our space. You should never feel that having our own space is degrading or anything less than wonderful.

If you notice in social situations such as large gatherings or parties, a small group of women will congregate. Some men may listen to the conversation, but it's a group of women talking about women's issues. Most men don't want to be bothered, so they walk away from the group. But some men want to know what is on the minds of the wonder that is woman.

(side note... Also, who wants a bunch of responses like "why the fuck do we have to hear about this" to our discussions about menstruation and cramps?)

[SiN]

Originally posted by little limey
You guys are right about the number thing. But as SiN said she doesn't want to bother men with talking about tampons. We have to deal with them talking about their penis's so why can't we talk about our tampons around them? That was my point.

because (speaking for myself at least) i'm considerate (almost to a fault).

i do not hold anything against them for talking about their penises in public or whatever (i love men, so i usually think it's kinda 'cute')

but i do not think that i need to talk about tampons in 'public' just because of that. sure i technically could and be 100% fair and within my rights to do so...but out of consideration i choose not to.

[sexymama]

When I first joined tfp, this is the board I would read most often and it is still one that I check out first when I log on! I like the intimacy of sharing with other open minded woman.

I also like being able to post and have only woman answer for the specific reasons mentioned above. For example, this morning I posted a thread about masturbation. I didn't want to hear about a bunch of male fantasies. They can be fun, I grant you, but that wasn't the point of the post. I want to hear women's perspective.

To be fair, though, I do think that there should be a men's only board.

[shannon]

I like JadziaDax's answer. Always very smart thing to say. Nicely put.

[mew]

Yeah, I definetly agree with raeanna74, mostly bout our comments getting lost amongs the guys. I like to know more intimately bout the women, just to get a bond-not feel so alone kinda bond. Though, I kinda dislike the idea of men reading out posts...just kinda like someone reading your journal or something. Perhaps if they had a guys only one we could equally enlighten eachothers lives bout the opposite sex.
All in favour of having a Guys Only Room?!
AYE!
(and the tittyboard doesnt count!)

[little limey]

Originally posted by JadziaDax
If you notice in social situations such as large gatherings or parties, a small group of women will congregate. Some men may listen to the conversation, but it's a group of women talking about women's issues. Most men don't want to be bothered, so they walk away from the group. But some men want to know what is on the minds of the wonder that is woman.

I rarely find myself in the girl's group. I wish people would come out of their comfort zones more often. I never feel comfortable in groups of all one sex. *shrugs* Maybe I'm just strange.

On here thuogh I'm comfortable on this board because I can't see any of you so I don't have ot think of your sex when talking to you, only your gender.

[Marie]

I really!!! like the Ladies Lounge!

This is the first board that I joined (it still is) and without the Ladies Lounge I don't think I'd still be here...

It feels like a safe place and it's a smaller community with familiar names. For me it feels so much more personal that the rest of the internet and I really enjoy reading this board.

I try add some usefull things sometimes, but I have the feeling that I can learn so much more from you all than you can learn from me. So me being silent has nothing to do with me not liking the board.

[shannon]

marie, don't sell yourself short. everyone can learn from anyone, they just have to be open to it and looking for it. your opinions are just as important and intelligent as anyone else's. i know maybe that's not what you meant to get across in that post, but you have to value your own words as much as anyone elses i think.

[Ladyhawke]

I've said it before...and I'll say it again....I miss the time when the boys could post here.

[wannabenakid247]

I think this boards great. its nice to have a place for just girls

[gabshu]

Originally posted by wannabenakid247
I think this boards great. its nice to have a place for just girls

Couldn't agree with you more. Since I've been posting here this is my favorite place to go. I check it out everytime I get the chance. I think it's a great place for girls to discuss stuff that guys just don't have any idea about, and also they can learn stuff by reading the posts here. The Ladies Lounge kicks ass just the way it is I think.