Shaindra

Just curious, how many of you orgasm during intercourse: all the time, sometimes, never.

Discuss, I'll be back later. :-)

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StellaLuna

Jesus... I wish.

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World's Queen

Never. I think that I could after orgasming from oral, but it would take some time, and the absolute perfect position. I came close once. At least I'm pretty sure. I felt like I was going to pee. So I made him stop. Then I read that you're supposed to feel that way. And I wished I hadn't. Made him stop, that is.

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JustJess

I never have - being able to with oral was a big deal!! But I'd certainly like to continue to try... after all, practice makes perfect, no?

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genuinegirly

Yes.
Just about all of the time.
There is an odd few days here and there where it doesn't work, but yes. Regularly.

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ngdawg

Not a clitoral O, but I have a few times. Hmm...just noticed if you split that up it's clit/oral. Must be a reason for that.

*Nikki*

Nope, never. Sure wish that was possible!

Starkizzer

Only with the help of a vibrator or other clitoral stimulation while I'm on top.
Wish that it was easy for me like some of my friends.

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little_tippler

Never but it would be nice ;p

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ShaniFaye

I would be in the almost all the time camp, there have been a few occasions where I havent, but I was drunk, and when I get drunk all my nerves get drunk too lol and I cant feel anything

With Dave I nearly always have both a clitoral and g-spot, must be something about how he's able to hit both spots while pounding away

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jewels

Most times. As long as there's some other stimulation going on at the same time.

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diddagirl

Usually, but not all the time..... wish it was as easy for us as it is for guys!

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finney

I have once. With a man I was ridiculously attracted to. Seriously, I didn't even know it was possible to want someone that much.

Other times, it feels good, but I'm nowhere near orgasm. The only thing that will do it for me is oral or, during sex, my own hand.

mixedmedia

all the time...almost every time we have intercourse and often more than once.

wasn't always this way, though...

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Shaindra

Hmmm...what changed?

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mixedmedia

well, I think it's multi-faceted.

1. I have learned from repetition how to position myself so that I am getting either inner or outer clitoral stimulation while having intercourse. For instance, no one has mentioned having orgasms during intercourse while they are positioned on top. Used to be for me, this was the only position I could achieve orgasm in (regularly) during intercourse because I was in control of the thrusting. So all I've done is apply that same mindset to intercourse in other positions and I take an active role in achieving my own orgasm.

2. Fantasizing while having intercourse used to be very helpful in increasing arousal (therefore, sensitivity), but I've found that I don't really need that any longer.

3. I'm in a relationship now in which my partner really pushes all of my buttons mentally which makes it very easy for me to get off. I'm usually halfway there by the time he's even got his pants off, lol. But it's taken me all of my adult life to find him.

I would say it's been about 15 years that I have been training my mind and body (and I literally think of it as training) to achieve orgasm during intercourse and it is only in the last 2+ years that it has paid off consistently...and bountifully. But it's worth it. There is no more intense orgasm than one achieved during intercourse, in my opinion. Well, except perhaps for orgasm achieved during anal sex...but that's another topic.

Oh, and of course, masturbation during intercourse can be very helpful, too, and most guys find that kind of hot.

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finney

I find this is HUGE for me. The one guy I did have an orgasm during intercourse with, it was the first (and only ) time that I'd been with him, but there had been tension and flirtation for several months before that. It wasn't just his physical appearance either that did it for me, although that certainly was there. It was how we connected mentally as well - we really understood and related to one another, had the same wry, sarcastic sense of humor, were interested in the same things. Basically, the entire package all came together with us.

I honestly think I could have had an orgasm just from kissing him. It was so anticipated, and everything else meshed so amazingly... It really is true that the mind can be the main erogenous zone.

PonyPotato

There's one position the does it for me nearly every time. I get super tight, too, so it's almost guaranteed that we're both going to pop at the same time. Unfortunately, getting super tight also tends to result in more soreness afterward.. but a day or two off and I'm good. On top it's a little more difficult, but as long as he doesn't get pushy and interfere with where I'm aiming the stimulation, it's pretty regular. I've only been able to orgasm from intercourse with this partner, though.. no one else has even come close. Something about the extreme level of attraction and sexual compatibility, I think.

Now, anal sex.. jeebus. Nothing like it in terms of orgasm strength for me.

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snowy

I almost always orgasm during intercourse. I feel very fortunate. Sometimes it's just...instantaneous. He slides into me and I come. Sometimes it takes a while longer. But invariably, it happens.

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KRM28152

I didn't used to be able to, but through some patience on my man's part and a new glass dildo on mine, I think I've figured out what does it for me.

Usually, I can have one with my own hand during intercourse in any position. But I'm teaching my man how to rub me like that. Fun experimentation, lemme tell ya. ;-)

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monkey baby

I do...every time, several times in fact. He is not satisfied until he gets me to come at least twice before he will. (I LOVE that man) He is the only one to Ever give me an orgasm. Some have come close with oral, but never gotten quite there. It doesn't matter what position we're in or anything. I think that he has taken mental notes since day one to know what gets me going. (again....he's a keeper)

After a few months we discovered female ejaculation. His new goal is the get me to explode like that every time, and most of the time he does. It's an amazing feeling. There are threads in the sexuality section if you want to check it out. Yes, World's Queen, it feels like you have to pee and most people freak out and try to stop it. Just let go and see what happens.

I do think that the strong emotional connection that I have with my S/O may have something to do with how much we please each other.

I don't know, just my opinion.

abaya

Never happens for me, except for VERY occasionally (I can count the times on one hand, over 4 years) with the help of clitoral stimulation. And it still takes AGES to get to that point, almost making me feel like it's not worth all the effort. Our hands get tired, or the vibrator over-stimulates me, etc.

However, as merleniau said, I'm much more likely to orgasm during anal sex (again, though, with the assistance of clitoral stimulation, in one form or another). But the tried-and-true O inducer is oral, really.

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cadre

I rarely can orgasm from intercourse alone but it has happened. Pretty amazing when it does but I haven't figured out how to get it to be consistent yet. I think it depends on how many orgasms I've already had.

That said, I can get off from clitoral stimulation pretty easily, depending on what we're using. The last time I was with one of the guys I'm seeing we had a marathon and I had about 5 orgasms, all during intercourse but with a vibrator. It was fun.

And apparently I'm also in the O from anal group. That's a pretty good one.

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Shaindra

It has been brought to my attention that I started the thread and haven't shared my situation. I've never orgasmed from just intercourse. Only orgasmed once during intercourse with added stimulation. I know that I'm far from alone, but I wasn't aware that it was something I could change.

I'd certainly like to try. ;-)

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Jenna

All the time. More than once usually.

settie

Nope, don't orgasm often. When I do, it comes one after another...continuous O's.
But I do know how to push my buttons just right for female ejaculation every time. How strange is it that I can't orgasm every time, but can squirt?! O_o *shrugs*

teresita

When I am properly engorged I would say everytime. If not, then forget it. There's nothing to connect up all those lovely nerves.

I appreciate the reference to Settie saying she can squirt with out orgasm. Interesting... I hear some men can orgasm without squirting!

MaraSkywhiner

I orgasm about 95% of the time now from intercourse. I've never gotten there with oral, though it's been close... For those of you who orgasm twice or more during intercourse, do you have any suggestions? I've always wondered how to do that.

Same thing for me. Try it with both of you sitting - it's v. fun!

yay4tay

I am incredibly blessed with the ability to have internal, multiple orgasms. I come easily, quickly, and over and over with intercourse. I learned how to have these three years before I had my first clitoral orgasm with a vibrator.

Lucky me (and my boyfriend).

ÐiGiRed

I have, maybe once or twice. But that's about it...

My problem is that I've had some really awful sexual experiences in the past.. and it seems like every time I'm on the verge of having an orgasm I flash back to those past experiences and then I kind of shut down. It can be really aggravating.

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Kaimi

Nearly all the time unless I am sharing quickie.